Jun
06
2019

My hope and intention in this article more than anything else is one thing for you and that is to show up and say YES to YOU. Say yes to that inner voice, the voice of intuition. Say yes to your life force and universal energy that is calling you to perhaps follow that crazy idea, move across country, start a painted furniture store business or even yes to committing to taking a new kickboxing program to get firm and lose those pounds and feel more sexy and fabulous. Say yes to you because you are the only one you have got and you deserve it! Never allow the fear or resistance stop you from your amazing life.

Now more than ever is the best time to say YES. Simply because there is no one who can do it for you, it’s truly up to you. The amount of power that comes with saying yes opens up your heart, your mind and your world to endless possibilities. Here are some major benefits awaiting a woman who says yes to herself:

• Joy
• Happiness
• Fulfillment
• Better Relationships
• Love
• Money
• Adventure
• Self-Esteem
• Bliss
• Enjoyment
• Fun
• Support
• Newness
• Harmony
• Positivity
• Desire
• New Possibilities

When I moved to live the island life I had to learn to “hatch out” of my former workaholic self, hatch out of living life on the California freeway and hatch out of the hamster on a wheel daily life. This meant saying yes to my new self, new surroundings and recognizing that change is not an event it’s a process. By saying yes to my new life, grace unveils, ease and acceptance happens and fear turns into courage.

The first week I moved here I went off to the beach, no writing, no social media, no cell phone, taking it all in. That evening I went out with friends and danced with several men and even had a fun date with a special guy that same week. (that’s saying a lot for a 12-mile island, it certainly does not happen everyday) Point being, change is good and when you say yes, magical occurrences happen, doors open and you show up to love you. Giving myself a little R and R, enjoying nature, feeling the sand between my toes, watching the dolphins swimming joyously and celebrating life everyday springs joy from within, what brings you joy? Say YES to that!

Here are a few case scenarios on your journey of claiming your power back to you, the beautiful, glorious, feminine and divine woman that lives inside you!

  1. Secret #1 Hit the Reset Button – Wake up everyday knowing something good is going to happen. Take a chance on you and risk getting what you actually want. Have absolute total and positive belief in the calling and vision that stirs inside of you and don’t hesitate.
    Case in point: When Dawn, a client of mine called me, her life and business was crumbling. Her business partner and her parted ways and she relocated and felt very alone.

It was clear Dawn is a powerful woman and she often was giving away her knowledge but not advancing in her business. When we worked together it was time for her to take her power back and hit the reset button. We prioritized with focus on Dawn’s desires and not her fears. Dawn really wanted to be a best selling Author. She had written a book but was stuck with what do next?

Fast forward six months later, with my guidance and that of a close business partner of mine, we collaborated and Dawn’s book became a #1 best selling book both Nationally and Internationally, in six categories. In addition, we mapped out a new coaching and mentoring program for Dawn to attract her top clientele.

Because Dawn decided to say YES to becoming her future self, a “best selling Author”, her intention, desire and following the mapped out action steps, her desires became a reality!Secret #2 Believe and Receive – Imagine you are sitting at a table with four other people. Your higher power (God, the universe – whichever works for you best) hands you a bowl of oranges. There are four oranges in the bowl and five of you sitting at the table. What do you do with the bowl of oranges? Write down the first thing that comes to your mind. (there is no right or wrong answer) So, perhaps you are thinking how you might split up the oranges or just take one and pass the bowl. However, we are speaking about receiving as a reflection of your self-worth. To feel fully deserving, however, one must take the entire bowl of oranges for you. Period. You are replenishing yourself, which has nothing to do with who is around you or about sharing; it is about you, taking loving care of you, because you deserve it!

2. Secret #2 Believe and Receive – Imagine you are sitting at a table with four other people. Your higher power (God, the universe – whichever works for you best) hands you a bowl of oranges. There are four oranges in the bowl and five of you sitting at the table. What do you do with the bowl of oranges? Write down the first thing that comes to your mind. (there is no right or wrong answer) So, perhaps you are thinking how you might split up the oranges or just take one and pass the bowl. However, we are speaking about receiving as a reflection of your self-worth. To feel fully deserving, however, one must take the entire bowl of oranges for you. Period. You are replenishing yourself, which has nothing to do with who is around you or about sharing; it is about you, taking loving care of you, because you deserve it!

Case in point: I was visiting with a very gifted writer one day who shared with me how upset she was with her current life situation. Sarah had financial worries where little business was coming in as well as financial disagreements with an ex-husband who owed her money. My feeling upon listening to her situation was how she succumbed to accepting this for far too long which had dimmed her light. She surrendered to believing that this is how it’s going to be for her and was ready to spend her time in counseling to figure it all out.
I stopped her thought process and asked her to try the deserving orange bowl exercise with me before all else. She was willing and indulged in the process with nothing to lose.
About two months later, we touched base. She was the happiest I had heard, as well as more business than she could manage that came out of the blue. In addition, her ex and she had arrived at a financial agreement. Sarah, who was once feeling powerless, took her power back. A new belief system had grown for her where she was now the architect to her destiny and no longer the victim of what she believed as truths.

3. Secret #3 You are Enough – When you put yourself first and decide to go beyond your ego and the internal dialogue, you relinquish the need to control, the need to be approved and the need to judge. When those three dialogues occur, stop and affirm, you are enough! And just say YES to YOU!

Jackie Ruka is a Certified Leadership Coach affiliated with Harvard University and Medical School and self proclaimed Happyologist. Grab her book Get Happy and Create a Kick-Butt Life or watch her videos on Facebook.

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