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Mar
03
2018

In some circles, discussions about work life balance have shifted to talking about work life integration. Whatever you call it, many people are searching for a way to juggle their personal and professional roles.

More than half of all employees and entrepreneurs say that job demands sometimes interfere with their personal responsibilities, according to a study by the American Psychological Association. Try these suggestions to help you meet your daily challenges.

Guiding Principles

1. Make your own decisions. Everyone’s definition of success looks different. Focus on what makes you happy and productive. Consider whether you and others may be projecting your own assumptions when you comment on someone else’s lifestyle.

2. Consider your boundaries. Some professionals find it disruptive to take business calls after office hours. Others feel stressed if they’re out of touch for any long interval. If possible, negotiate an arrangement with your employer that is comfortable for both of you.

3. Think long term. There are always trade-offs. Assess whether frequent overtime or spending more hours with your family will make you happier when you look back on what you did with your life.

4. Update your plans. Your answers may change as you go through life. Check in frequently to stay on track. You may be eager to gain new experiences when you first graduate from school. As you approach retirement, you may want to volunteer more in your community.

5. Give yourself credit. It’s common to feel guilty about working too little or too much. Focus on doing the best you can. Guilt is a wasted feeling. Think and be proactive not reactive.

6. Remain flexible. Financial constraints and other factors may influence your decisions. Work with whatever circumstances you face while you try to improve them.

Time Management

1. Be realistic. Establish your top priorities and stick to them. If you’re struggling with your to do list each day, you probably need to cut back on the less important tasks.

2. Get organized. You can accomplish more when you have solid systems in place. Look for ways to run your errands more efficiently and keep your surroundings free of clutter.

3. Limit distractions. Maybe you lose track of time watching TV or talking on the phone. Reclaim those wasted hours.

4. Schedule downtime. Your mind and body need adequate rest. Take a warm bath or meditate daily.

Additional Suggestions

1. Recognize individual differences. Some people are content viewing their job as just a paycheck, and others blend their paid work with the rest of their life. Any combination is okay as long as you find fulfillment.

2. Ask for support. Help from family and friends or paid services can help you to focus on your strongest areas. Ask your children to take on more chores or consider hiring a house cleaner. Use the extra free time to pursue a promotion or start a vegetable garden.

3. Reach out to others. Look for ways you can provide the same kind of assistance to those around you. Team up with a coworker so you can cover each other’s work on sick days or vacations rather than creating a backlog for when you return.

4. Take care of yourself. Keeping yourself fit enables you to contribute at home and at the office. Eat a nutritious diet, exercise regularly, manage stress, and stick to a regular sleep schedule.

5. Be yourself at work. As much as possible, reveal your authentic self at work. It will liberate others to do the same. You’ll also be more likely to form true friendships with your colleagues, which will make your days more pleasant.

It’s a big job to coordinate all the facets of your life. Think about your definition of success and what it means for how you align your personal and professional responsibilities.

# # # # Jackie Ruka is America’s Happyologist and Leadership Strategist; learn more about her book and services at www.jackieruka.com. Download the free quick guide 5 Mindshifts to Massive Success. Get on Jackie’s calendar with a Clarity Game Change Session today!  

Mar
03
2018

There is more than one way to get what you want and why not make it a happier form of attracting our dreams and desires ?

The ego is malleable where it tends to waver to the external. i.e. What we see, feel and hear is what the ego absorbs. Unfortunately, the external contains 90% negative happening in the world. It is our job to sift and retain only the positive. However, the ego focuses more on what we don’t want versus what we want.

Shifting to what one wants, can work with practice on a regular basis, this is where the mindset work starts. In addition, our subconscious is the habit-forming system formed from our formative years. Often the majority of us are operating from this belief system automatically. When operating with a faulty belief system, in general, may manifest around self- worth, confidence and or old negative programming, such as, doubt, not feeling enough. The symptom can present itself as a stuck mindset.

No one is perfect or immune, yet to clear the automation of what’s not working permanently, is by unblocking blocks that are deep within the unconscious. This is the WHY that has led to a faulty automation system around relationships, money, love, and success. Therefore, you must become clear on what you want. Get technicolor on your vision. Order up exactly what you want the Universe to deliver, otherwise known as manifesting.

Do you want a new job? Are you ready to meet your soulmate? Perhaps you want financial abundance? There is a powerful way you can practice to shift your subconscious into believing you have whatever it is you want and no, it is NOT about positive affirmations. Although affirmations can help you stay on track, especially when chaos or turmoil has taken place in your personal world and environment. The process is known as “Nevellizing”, coined from the famous mystical writer, Goddard Neville. He believed that you focus on the outcome and imagine what it would be like to have that result in your life, right now.

This is not about just focusing on a goal but actually involves feeling the emotion related to the goal by emerging your mind with the details and how it feels. Imagine what will change in your life. For example, imagine a new home and what it feels like to drive up to your new home. Or let’s say you want to attract $50,000 in the next 6 months. When you sit and imagine what your life will be like, focus on the details. What bills will you get to pay? Physically feel the idea of sitting at your desk writing checks and placing stamps on those bills. Are you smiling and feeling fulfilled? Allow those feelings to consume you.

Your subconscious mind cannot distinguish between what is real or imaginative. You can determine this based on how your body responds to a really scary movie, your adrenaline goes up and responds to a flight or fight response to a physical danger, even though your conscious mind knows it’s a movie. Just as your subconscious mind responds to fear it also responds to good events as well. The key is you must believe it into existence with absolution. When you feel it, feel it’s inevitable, that is when the magic occurs. People and events and details and opportunities will pop up, almost out of nowhere. Keep in mind it’s up to you when a source is attracted to you, it’s your choice to act upon it or not. You may be skeptical and that’s ok, however, this technique happens all the time. For example, imagine you decide you want a new white Subaru. Then all you seem to notice around town, on the freeways, in parking lots are white Subaru’s. This is no coincidence, your mind decided to sift and seek out and those things that became important moved to the top of the list in your mind.

Howard Shultz, founder of Starbucks, imagined a coffee shop where people sat around and sipped a $4 cup of coffee. At the time Starbucks nixed this idea and continued to sell coffee beans, coffee makers and filters but not cups of coffee. He moved on as their marketing director and started his own vision of this. Later he bought out the original Starbucks and today it’s a multi-billion dollar company. He focused on his vision and his dream and when obstacles appeared, new doors of opportunity opened.

Although turmoil and grey clouds may hover in your life, this too shall pass. In fact, it’s the best time to determine what you really want? Go deep, get detailed, cut out photos and feeling words as a vision map. The act of creating and imagining is no joke. It’s how electricity was invented and the cell phone, among others. Good things, stemmed from someone’s imagination and growth mindset. Why not make it yours and act upon those happy visions!

 

# # # # Jackie Ruka is America’s Happyologist and Leadership Strategist; learn more about her book and services at www.jackieruka.com. Download the free quick guide 5 Mindshifts to Massive Success. Get on Jackie’s calendar with a Clarity Game Change Session today!  

Jan
01
2017

If there is one thing we can’t get back, it’s time! Which is why the best time to make a positive change toward designing a life plan is now.  

As business leader Jim Rohn states,” If you don’t design your own life plan, chances are you’ll fall into someone else’s plan. And guess what they have planned for you? Not much.” 

Answer the following questions and you will experience the mind shift that encourages the embodiment of change matched with true meaning, which creates your life plan. 

What is your ideal life? Then ask yourself why? When you know your why you are in touch with your core values and this is what places action behind your desires. 

How do you want to spend your days? 

How much money do you want to make a month? 

What makes you come alive? 

What do people often ask of you? 

What is your zone of genius? 

Recognize that life does not happen to us, it happens for us. Therefore, it is an opportunity to make clear and decisive choices. You may not believe this to be true, however; I am here to prove to you how you make an impact in this world in the most profound yet natural manner of just being you. How? It’s called the power lead. The power lead is a positive opening that you often hear as an introduction to a speech, TV show, news heading. You get the idea.  

The more positive your power lead, the more ability you have to determine the outcome you intend. In today’s world, the negative surrounds us. So, a positive power lead is the reverse of what you might expect. Such as: With all this rain I find it so cleansing and refreshing don’t you? Or there is no other way to go, but up! 

When you think and lead in the positive, you are actually locking in a positive outcome.  

 
A client, Tracy, recently shared with me how she failed the mortgage exam twice and only had one more chance left to pass. She was so upset that she was laid off from her corporate job and looking for a new one the past six months and decided to switch gears, at age 60 and go into the mortgage industry. 

Her life plan was to no longer work in an office and have the freedom to work from home and stay in her dream location with the love of her life. We focused on locking in her positive outcome and put a date to her outcome. The process reversed her “stinkin thinkin” and she was able to pass the mortgage exam and celebrate her new life plan.  

 
As the CEO of your destiny, you have the power to create your life plan and determine your Technicolor vision. The cream will rise to the top with your power lead, in every area of your life, when you practice it and place action and discipline to your desired outcome.  

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Jackie Ruka, Certified Action Success Coach and America’s Happyologist™, teaches professionals how to get unstuck and express their greatness to the world through conscious systems and mindshifts to live a happier life. Learn more about creating an Exceptional Life with your Signature Program here and connect with Jackie onlineFacebookLinkedIn and Instagram 

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