Challenges

Apr
04
2016

Follow your Joy

 

 

                        “Life doesn’t happen to you, it happens for you

– Joel Olsteen

Happy Spring! This is my favorite time of year, the flowers are blooming, the days are longer and nature around us is singing with the new season. Woohoo!

Change, however, does not always feel good especially when life feels as if it is happening to us versus creating our destiny. We all experience both positive and negative incidences in our life and often the response is to react, this is human nature. As things don’t always come together as we plan, and this creates frustration and even, stress. So how can you take your lemons and turn them into lemonade?  Try these 4 mind shifts and tips, to learn to take on the CEO position of your destiny.

Mindshift One: One incident or change in your life does not define you, in fact, it shapes you toward an exciting new destiny, you  just don’t see it yet. Usually, the missing piece is what brings things all together. It may not make sense right now, however, what is in your future is greater than what’s in your past. Tip: Keep moving forward!

Mindshift Two: Strain means blame. By placing blame you create strain in your mind and your body which leads to negative energy in your life. Tip: Stop the blame game and think of solutions more and problems less.

Mindshift Three: Remember that a temporary setback to a temporary situation leads to a temporary feeling. Hit the pause button, breathe, relax and know all will be well. Stay in pause and take care of you first, this may mean go for a walk, declutter your mind and allow fresh new and positive thoughts to enter in. Tip: Say WELCOME! Welcome in originality to your life.
Mindshift Four: What might be the answer is just around the corner in the shadows of fear or denial. Raise your vibration as the depths of your past is the height and brightness of your future. Tip: Place radical intention and attention on your desires, not your fears.

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Jackie Ruka skyrockets busy professionals from breakdowns to breakthroughs, knowing the best opportunities are the ones we create consciously. As “America’s Happyologist” her mission is assisting clients to reach the vibrant life and business one has dreamed of. Jackie is an award-winning marketing professional, trained Art Psychotherapist, Well-Being expert, and Founder of Get Happy Zone.com. Grab her best-selling book, Get Happy and Create a Kick- Butt Life! She leads courses and lectures nationally to teach you how to live a happier life by design. Want a happier life? Reach into the happiness kit for positive tools to design your journey forward today!

Mar
03
2015

www.gethappyzone.comThe 21st century brings to date a time of expansion, albeit, it may feel like confusion and somewhat unsettling. Change can leave you or people you know, feeling alone and scattered. The good news is everything happens in an order of divine timing. The re-calibration taking place in the world represents a time of change for all of us. Change can be good but also scary, especially if it was brought upon you, hence stress occurs. A powerful way to break an old cycle or stress is by making a change as this can transform your life for the better. But, the most powerful and biggest secret to being proactive and transform your life is through the use of your imagination. (STEP 1)

Step 2 – Your attitude about change may need to be adjusted so try to be open to making change, this is an opportunity of personal growth and expansion of self to go beyond your limits, take courageous steps and dare to dream! Smart people like yourself have choices by being proactive versus reactive. What are you doing that is proactively occurring to get you in alignment and closer to your desires as opposed to your fears?

STEP 3 – Following a path with heart resembles freedom and authenticity. While following a path of head or ego depicts what you”should” be doing. Eventually leading to resentment or even a personal rut. As we enter Spring , the time of renewal, why not activate the use of your imagination? Imagining or daydreaming offers you the power to tap into your authentic power and successfully blossom while reinventing self on a path of heart. When you utilize proactive nudges, intentional exercises and support mantras, you will gain the confidence toward choosing happiness and begin to crystallize your strengths simultaneously. As you know your thoughts are a leading source of your reality. Perhaps you have tried various methods to manifest your goals but have experienced familiar blocks of resistance. In most cases, you deferred to default mode and a familiar cycle was calling you back, hence leading you to the same or similar spot as before.

As a master with experiencing reinvention of self, more times than I care to explain, I have discovered that it is usually the blocks that are pushing you toward elevating to a higher self and level of consciousness. It’s a practice to reprogram stale thought patterns that no longer serve you, ( STEP 4)yet that is just the beginning. However, when you zone in on new and simple techniques the expansion of your mind is encouraged and bursting with endless possibilities.

To become clear in a time of confusion , chaos or crisis, you must breathe and become zentered. You cannot imagine or manifest when you are operating in fear. Remember, whatever you are experiencing, is temporary. What lies ahead, has already occurred, it’s just waiting to be tapped into by the process of your imagination. You have the power to transform your day, hour, week and year through thoughts, imagination, creation and action. This four step process can propel you in more ways than you realize, it just takes a cup of courage , in knowing that it is your time to SHINE!

Share with us what gets you zentered in the comments below.

Enjoy the journey, keep moving forward with your eyes peeled on your dream.

 

“America’s Happyologist” Jackie Ruka , is a lifestyle strategist who founded the Get Happy Zone (http://www.gethappyzone.com) personal development organization. She is author of the #1 bestseller action guide “Get Happy and Create a Kick Butt Life, a Creative Toolbox for Rapidly Activating the Life You Desire,” available on Amazon, Barnes and Noble or your favorite book store. Opt-in for Optimism to enjoy the happiness and self-care toolbox.

Sep
09
2014

running in heels Are you a woman running heals, frantic to figure out your time with career, money, family and social life but end up not doing anything at all to resolve this feeling of disarray? Well, join the club! Each and every one of us has been there. I coin this as “women running in heels”, as we tend to do it all, want it all, try to make it ALL happen and end up stressed and simply exhausted. This was me some 2 years ago, giving, giving , giving to others with barely enough time to renew myself or adjust to a life worth creating, without falling short on quality people time, sleep and a life outside of my career!   According to the American Psychological Association stress gender survey, stress has been significantly more on the rise for women than men. Almost half of women surveyed (49%) reported a rise in stress over the past five years. We , as women, are all too willing to please others holding a false belief that if we handle it all, then life will be easier by doing it ourselves versus delegating the details to someone else.   So how is that working for you?

The bottomline is,  life  is running YOU, instead of YOU creating the life that you desire and deserve.  So, what do you really want or better yet, what do you want to get out of life, right now? The one constant that we can never capture again is our time.  Perhaps it’s time to just STOP  the crazy life treadmill and determine what feels right versus what is wrong? Step back and begin to get clear and envision your happiness , as this will attract the abundance, joy and desire you deserve! I learned this the hard way with a come to Buddha moment, where my company car almost crashed from going out of control and landed in front of two eight foot Buddha statues outside a furniture store in the San Fernando Valley of Los Angeles. Talk about a wake up call to the antithesis of my chaotic life careening me to the edge of no return.  I certainly would not want this to happen to you. However, in hindsight what I learned was the best choices are the one’s we make consciously, not from reactive measures or societal demands. We are human and the Universe has a funny way of  journeying back to self  to  determine if we are practicing self – love and self – care.

My story , as a woman running in heels, was an opportunity for me to go deep, recognize my soul calling and begin to consciously transform myself to the writer , now, published  Author and Inspiration Coach that I deeply yearned to be. I invite those women who I see have so much magic within and are running from their own soul calling to  take a listen to how I turned my challenge  into opportunities,  in an interview with psychologist  Dr. Laura Ciel,  on her radio show, which empowers individuals going through life transition.  It’s short and to the point , however, I would love your feedback! Take a LISTEN! The Happiness Journey with Jackie Ruka

Inspirational Quote: ” The Purpose of life is to live it, to taste experience to the utmost, to reach out eagerly and without fear for newer and richer experiences.” – Eleanor Roosevelt

Ready for a Happiness Smackdown? Jackie Ruka is America’s Happyologist and LifeStyle Strategist. She teaches you how to live from the heart and align yourself with your true potential! Join the tribe and opt-in to receive weekly news, programs, events and a Weekly Happiness DOSE full of wisdom to keep your vision in perspective at www.gethappyzone.com. To purchase her book “Get Happy and Create a Kick-Butt Life” , it is available on Amazon, Barnes and Noble, www.gethappyguide.com or order it at your favorite bookstore! Thanks and welcome to the  HAPPY ZONE!

Mar
03
2014

happy coach  While many assume happiness is a derivative of success, studies have proven that isn’t quite the case; that many professionally successful people and those with notable wealth are actually not happy—often quite the opposite. Even more surprising is that what you might perceive as success could actually be hindering your happiness.

 

“As a society we’ve gotten it backwards: it is happiness that leads to success not vice versa,” notes “America’s Happyologist” Jackie Ruka, lifestyle expert and Founder of the Get Happy Zone (www.gethappyzone.com) personal development organization. “Scientific studies actually prove that we are the ambassadors of our own happiness in that we have full control over this enviable state of mind, which is a powerful precursor of success in terms of the true meaning of the word and how it impacts the human experience.”

An array of credentialed psychologists and other respected researchers have studied people around the globe to discern how money, culture, attitude, health, memory, altruism and daily habits affect our well-being. The field of “positive psychology” has, in fact, dug deep and formerly recognized that a person’s thoughts and actions can have a significant effect on their happiness and life fulfillment.

With this in mind, Ruka offers this list of 10 scientifically proven happiness strategies:

  1. Savor ordinary events. Study participants who took the time to do this “showed significant increases in happiness and reductions in depression,” psychology professor Sonja Lyubomirsky notes.  Reflecting back on moments of your day, even those you might ordinarily hurry through, is a worthwhile effort.
  2. Avoid comparisons. Focusing on your own personal achievements instead of making comparisons to others will better impact your happiness and self-esteem, according to Lyubomirsky, which leads to greater life satisfaction. It’s easy to lose sight of what achievements—both personal and professional—have enriched our life, and we must remind ourselves…often.
  3. Put money low on the list. According to researchers Kasser and Ryan, those who put money high on their priority list are at greater risk for depression, anxiety, and low self-esteem. “Money-seekers also score lower on tests of vitality and self-actualization,” Ryan says.
  4. Have meaningful goals. As humans, we thrive on having a purpose, but what is purpose if there is no meaning behind it? “People who strive for something significant, whether it’s learning a new craft or raising moral children, are far more happier than those who don’t have strong dreams or aspirations,” father and son team Diener and Biswas-Diener found. Positive psychology authority Tal Ben-Shahar agrees, having stated “Happiness lies at the intersection between pleasure and meaning. Whether at work or at home, the goal is to engage in activities that are both personally significant and enjoyable.”
  5. Take initiative at work. Researcher Amy Wrzesniewski says that, “when we express creativity, help others, suggest improvements or do additional tasks on the job, we make our work more rewarding and feel more in control.”
  6. Make friends and treasure family. This may seem like a no-brainer, but we need relationships. Sometimes we underestimate the importance of such connections. And, the more genuine the better as Diener and Biswas-Diener notes, “We don’t just need relationships; we need close ones that involve caring and understanding.”
  7. Fake it until you make it.  This actually works, according to Diener and Biswas-Diener, who assert, “Happy people see possibilities, opportunities, and success. When they think of the future, they are optimistic, and when they review the past, they tend to savor the high points.” This may take some practice, so try to smile even when you don’t feel like it.
  8. Keep a gratitude journal. When you are sick and tired of being sick and tired, you can either become a time bomb waiting to go off or you can recalibrate. An excellent tool for detoxing and redirecting your thoughts is with a gratitude journal. Those who write in a journal on a weekly basis are healthier, more optimistic, and more likely to achieve personal goals, according to author Robert Emmons. Martin Seligman’s research also revealed that people who write “gratitude letters” to someone significant in their lives score lower on depression and higher on happiness and the effect lasts for weeks. Gratitude and the human spirit together make powerful allies.
  9. Get moving. According to a Duke University study, exercise may be as effective as drugs in treating even major depression. Exercise releases endorphins, the feel good hormone. Duke researcher Blumenthal suggested that “exercise may be beneficial because patients are actually taking an active role in trying to get better…patients who exercised may have felt a greater sense of mastery over their condition and gained a greater sense of accomplishment. They felt more self-confident and had better self-esteem…” When you feel good, you tend to continue the behavior related to it and are motivated to adopt others.
  10. Serve others. This is often referred to as a “helper’s high.” According to ethicist and researcher Stephen Post, helping a neighbor, volunteering, and donating goods and services results in more health benefits than exercising or quitting smoking.  Researcher Elizabeth Dunn similarly found that those who spent money on others reported greater happiness than those who spent it on themselves.

 

Ruka concludes, “With so much science underscoring that we are active participants in the process, I prefer to regard happiness as a verb. Indeed, navigating happiness is a journey filled with a series of actions…it’s not an outcome. No matter the circumstance, we all have the capacity to be happy. The only question is what next step will you take to foster your own?”

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“America’s Happyologist” Jackie Ruka is a lifestyle expert who founded the Get Happy Zone (www.gethappyzone.com) personal development organization.  She is also the author of the action guide, “Get Happy and Create a Kick Butt Life, a Toolbox for Rapidly Activating the Life You Desire.” Contact Jackie and take her Fearless Quiz online at www.tinyurl.com/HappinessQuiz.

 

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Sources:

Authentic Happiness: Using the New Positive Psychology to Realize Your Potential for Lasting Fulfillment, Marint E.P. Seligman Phd, Simon and Schuster, 2002

The How of Happiness: A Scientific Approach to Getting the Life You Want, Sonja Lyubomirsky, Penguin Press, 2008

Happiness: Unlocking the Mysteries of Psychological Wealth, Ed Diener and Robert Biswas-Diener, Blackwell Publishing Ltd, 2008

Happier: Learn the Secrets to Daily Joy and Lasting Fulfillment, Tal Ben-Shahar, McGraw-Hill, 2007

Thanks! How the New Science of Gratitude Can Make You Happier, Robert Emmons, Houghton Mifflin Company, 2007

Babyak, M. A., Blumenthal, J. A., Herman, S., Khatri, P., Doraiswamy, P. M., Moore, K. A., Craighead, W. E., Baldewicz, T. T., & Krishnan, K. R. (2000). Exercise treatment for major depression: Maintenance of therapeutic benefit at 10 months. Psychosomatic Medicine, Vol. 62. pp. 633-638.

http://www.dukehealth.org/health_library/news/300

 

May
05
2013

http://gethappyzone.com/bookHey there , friend! During life’s up’s and downs the comfort of friendship can be a wonderful blessing or add to life challenges. Who  you choose to develop as a friend in your life can mold  and motivate you to be the best person you want to be ! On the other hand, you may also be attracting toxic people, perhaps on a subconscious level you don’t feel worthy of surrounding yourself with the good?  Yet again, we are all here to learn from each other. Either way, what are you learning about yourself from the friends you have?

My credo is treat those the way you like to be treated.  After all how we carry ourselves in life has much to do about attitude, self-respect and kindness. Should you be faced with a recent challenge in a friendship take a  listen to my recent interview with Dr. Jeannie Bertoli on her radio show, I Want a Better Life! There are some great pearls of wisdom to learn from when you are stumped on how to handle a difficult or toxic situation in a friendship. Click LINK!

The Challenge of Friendship in 2013

 

 

“America’s Happyologist” Jackie Ruka is a lifestyle expert who founded the Get Happy Zone (www.gethappyzone.com) personal development organization. She is also the author of the soon-to-be-released book, “Get Happy and Create a Kick Butt Life, a Toolbox for Rapidly Activating the Life You Desire.” Contact Jackie and take her Become Fearless Quiz online at www.tinyurl.com/HappinessQuiz.

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