choose happiness

Aug
08
2018

The word centered, according to Merriam-Webster dictionary , is defined as emotionally stable and secure.

In today’s world one might concur that feeling centered, even if just for 15 minutes a day, may take a miracle. Miracles can happen! However, I am here to say that I learned to master the strategy to becoming centered by accident.

Suffice to say, this is NOT about learning to meditate. Albeit, I am an avid meditator and it has changed my life immensely over the years, however, meditation at one time, I believed, was a time waster. I literally had no time to learn how to quiet my mind to meditate. In fact , I thrived on the monkey chatter in my brain, believing the chatter was the gasoline to my adrenaline lived life, in hindsight it was also the stressor.

Many years ago I was hit with a triple whammy all in a matter of months, my Dad passed, a job I loved laid me off and the man I thought I was going to marry turned out to be mister wrong. All this change at once not only created extreme stress, I truly felt out of balance and lost. I tried to meditate but I simply could not get comfortable in my discomfort and I knew I had to find a path that had me excited and relieved at the same time.

Long story short, I stumbled upon a strategy that not only changed my life tremendously, I was manifesting my desires at a rapid pace by practicing the art of visualization. Through visualization we catch a glimpse of “what is” or  our preferred future. Anyone can do this and becoming centered is doable when you decide it to be. In other words, you must see it to believe it before it becomes a goal. And once you do your purpose begins to  align to your wants, desires and outcomes. This is the best moment to place your order to the Universe.

Think about your favorite athlete; perhaps a top tennis champion, Olympic gold down hill skier or soccer player, most champions started with a dream, however to narrow it down and get super focused entailed visualizing where he or she will land. The landing spot to where you want to be is paramount to the visualization process.

The question you may be asking  is, I don’t know where I want to land or what that looks or feels like? And that is perfectly ok, in fact, that is the exciting journey to becoming centered. Simply put, just think of your most happiest place, where your mind, body and soul feel at peace and immersed with heightened senses to your enjoyable surrounding. Once you become settled in to your dreamscape and begin to relax and release your thoughts. What happens is by opening your imagination, mental images that your intuition and third eye have held deep within begin to surface. Hence, the centered feeling within takes hold, this is also termed as outcome visualization.

A second example of  visualization is known as process visualization where imagining each step as if it already happened. I practiced process visualization when I decided to sell my home in California. I began to visualize the sold sign on my front lawn. I also wrote down a number of the amount I required to receive from the sale of the house and kept it on my night stand where I could see it every morning as I woke and every evening when I went to bed. I journaled every night that the person buying my home was a cash buyer and was receiving a very happy home filled with love. All my inspired actions, from sage-ing the house to decorating it as a welcome zen space for the new buyer instilled a quick cash offer in 30 days.

The combination of outcome visualization with process visualization is powerful and anyone can do it. Visualization is scientifically based that athletes who trained with visualization succeeded as winners versus athletes whose performance was based on  physical training alone. Therefore real world events with visualization has a profound effect upon the subconscious mind. The brain cannot tell the difference between imagination and reality.

Your thoughts and imagination are powerful. The more often you SEE yourself in your preferred future, with a strong feeling and belief behind it, the greater chance for your dream or desire to happen.

When you see your self as calm, relaxed and in tune, the greater you will feel as centered and stable.

 

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Jackie Ruka is America’s Happyologist and Leadership Strategist; learn more about her book and services at www.jackieruka.com. Download the free quick guide 5 Mindshifts to Massive Success. Get on Jackie’s calendar with a Clarity Game Change Session today!  

Sep
09
2017

Almost everyone everywhere wants to be happier and guess what? We have the power to do it! 

Whether you’re feeling down and are looking for a pick-me-up, or you simply want to be a happier person, changing your mood isn’t hard at all. Every day we experience at least one thing in our daily lives that can instantly lift us up and improve our happiness.

We’ve heard forever that money can’t buy happiness and it’s true.

If you don’t believe me then check out these seven small changes that will help your boost happiness in everyday life.

#1 Change Your Attitude

I’m sure you have heard on occasions that being negative only attracts more negativity which in turn brings down your mood.

Scientists have studied positive thinking and it simply attracts more of that happy bug to you. Try taking a look at the good things in everyday life and fully experience and focus on those. Or better yet, try to turn a negative into a positive.  (Source)

#2 Smile

Who doesn’t feel good when smiling? And I mean a real smile not a fake one! Smiling to make us happier is not a new thing. It was discovered by Charles Darwin in 1872 who found that facial expressions actively influence our mood.

Numerous studies have confirmed that when smiling, hormones called endorphins is are released into our bloodstream which tell the brain that we are happy. Something as simple as smiling becomes contagious and can certainly help us feel more joy throughout the day. (Source)

#3 Listen to Music

We all know how powerful music can be – music really does make us happy.
Have you ever noticed when you’re out and about, you tend to hear music a lot, whether you’re at the grocery store, shopping mall or the hair and beauty salons?

That’s because as a shopper listening to music, it lifts your mood – in turn, helping you spend more.

A study at the University of Missouri has confirmed that listening to music can make you happier.

So next time you feel a little down, crank up the volume and listen to that tune. (Source)

#4 Call a Friend

In all honesty, how many times have our friends brought joy in our lives?

Your best pal is your BFF for a reason, they make us burst into laughter. Chatting with your bestie can help to lower your stress levels resulting in an uplifted mood.

But it doesn’t have to be just your BFF, casual friends and relatives also help raising the level of happiness.  Studies have shown that one person’s happiness triggers a chain reaction.  (Source)

#5 Practice Gratitude

Did you know that counting your blessing each day actually boosts your mood and makes you a happier person!?

It’s been scientifically proven that gratitude helps people feel more positive emotions. Appreciating what you have actually leads a better, happier lifestyle, as gratitude has been associated with greater happiness. So why not wake up and spend a few minutes each day reminding yourself of all the things you are thankful for and start appreciating them now.

Remember, you don’t have to wait for Thanksgiving to express your gratitude, start giving thanks today and watch your happiness grow.   (Source)

#6 Sleep

We all know what a good night’s sleep can do for us, but what a lot of people don’t know is how much it can increase our happiness.

A study from the Division of Sleep Medicine at Harvard Medical School showed that sleep and mood are associated with one another. This means that a lack of sleep can cause stress and irritability, whereas a healthy night’s sleep can enhance your mood.

So go and get a good night’s rest and regulate your mood to happiness. (Source)

#7 Get Some Fresh Air

People tend to forget about this one, but it’s true, getting some fresh air can lift your spirits.

Sunlight and fresh air help you get your daily dosage of vitamin D which is needed to regulate your mood.

The Harvard Health Letter mentions that by venturing outside you can reap physical and mental health benefits. A breath of fresh air really is one of nature’s greatest medicines.  (Source)

Final Thoughts

So there you have it, not only is happiness one of the most positive emotions, but with a few small changes you can choose a better mood, with practice.

Become a happier soul, and take each opportunity and every moment of the day to boost your happiness.

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America’s Happyologist, Jackie Ruka, is a transformational leadership coach for professionals who crave freedom and are ready to discover living life on their terms.  Her mission is to provide a conscious community of inspiration and cooperation where all flourish based on what makes your soul happy. Her mindshifts and techniques are shared in her best selling book “Get Happy and Create a Kick-Butt Life” ! You can learn more about Jackie and what she has to offer by visiting her Facebook page, Twitter or engage in complimentary 15 min. introduction here.

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Aug
08
2017

Why Not have a little fun, it’s summer and usually the best way to change your mindset and Get Happy is by giving yourself permission!

I read an article the other day, that one of the reasons why American’s are unhappy, is because we feel confined in our choices. Stress often leads to feeling confined and boxed in where our personality can lean toward old habits, default modes and the good ole comfort zone. Resulting in a feeling of “stuck” in our jobs, finances, health and community.

Allow me to give you the crayon within your mind to color outside the lines and throw out the “confining” box! It’s time for you to play, imagine, feel good and think positive! Truly it is your time to shine. So here are a few ways to do that…

– Give yourself permission with knowing you deserve happiness and get to choose it when ever you want!

– Give yourself permission, to dance, laugh, get the blood flowing in your veins and just ALLOW.

– Give yourself permission to wear whatever you want or even nothing at all, oops. Point being, get comfortable in your own skin, take a bubble bath, relax and get in the water, it washes away the cobwebs of the mind and cleanses the old for the new to come in.

– Give yourself permission to visualize what your heart desires. Imagine it happening, right now, close your eyes and see this happy event taking place in your life. Yes, YOU! It can happen for you. So many people believe good only happens to others but not them. Guess what, you’re up, it’s your turn this time for good and great things to take form and happen. You are more than you ever imagined!! Just give yourself permission, it works!

– Give yourself permission to just stop. Stop the old thinking and self- doubt. This dampens your spirit. We need your spirit, your spirit is here to help others with your talent and your gifts. Don’t deny yourself or others of what you have to offer because when you do, it smothers your joy. Change things up and go IN- JOY!
Love you to the moon and back! – Jackie : )

We want to hear from you, share your best practices for staying positive in the comments section below!

 

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America’s Happyologist, Jackie Ruka, is a transformational leadership coach for professionals who crave freedom and are ready to discover living life on their terms.  Her mission is to provide a conscious community of inspiration and cooperation where all flourish based on what makes your soul happy. Her mindshifts and techniques are shared in her best selling book “Get Happy and Create a Kick-Butt Life” ! You can learn more about Jackie and what she has to offer by visiting her Facebook page, Twitter or engage in complimentary breakthrough session here.

Dec
12
2016

YOU’RE OFFICIALLY INVITED TO THE CONSCIOUS PARTY!

Who doesn’t like a party, right? This is no ordinary party though — no costumes, masks, or facades allowed. Just you, showing up in all your glory! It’s been said that 90 percent of succeeding is showing up! We are all experiencing a transformational awakening together. What is so cool about this is that it gives us all a second chance to be who we really want to be, do what we truly desire, and live with our hearts and minds open. Have you heard of the term, tabula rasa? The Latin term means “blank slate” and according to Webster’s Dictionary, it is defined as “something existing in its original pristine state.” The mind is in its hypothetical primary blank or empty state before receiving outside impressions. By re-training the brain, I believe that we have the power for this to occur at any time. By abiding by our true nature, our minds become clear, and our brilliance unfolds as we rediscover the intelligence of our essence. It is a type of rebirth where you get to start again with this clear mind. It may be hard to grasp what a clear mind actually feels like without taking a long, relaxing vacation away from personal issues and the complexities of today’s world. You want to find clarity — but what will it take for you to grasp what a clear mind feels like?

Conscious Happiness

Remember Cindy Lou Who from “The Grinch Who Stole Christmas?” by Dr. Seuss. She was the bright-eyed, little girl and the hero of the story. A timid child, she displayed the most profound courage of anyone (including adults) in the city of Whoville. She represented and reclaimed what she and all the Whos of Whoville most loved, the happiest feeling known to its inhabitants: the feeling of Christmas.

Cindy faced up to the meanest, greediest, most self-absorbed creature — the Grinch — who was slowly stealing and hiding the happiness of each inhabitant until there was no happiness left. The Grinch believed that stealing every trinket, toy and piece of tinsel that symbolized happiness would leave an emptiness that the Grinch was all too familiar with: misery. As the snow began falling in Whoville, all the Whos gathered and sang joyous songs despite not having any symbols of their happiness. Cindy Lou represented the conscious happiness of the story, and the Grinch represented the false belief of perceived happiness. When the symbols were eliminated, the Grinch believed his response would be satisfaction. However, the true response was emptiness, a projection of the Grinch’s deep insecurity. The conscious happiness, however, is what prevailed. You see, what you might believe represents your happiness is a misperception or illusion. When you elevate your consciousness, you begin to see what truly is fulfilling to you. You can still create your own happiness, but it lies beyond your familiar perceived mindset.

In recent history, society has sought instant gratification. This collective consciousness has instilled what we believe is happiness but that is really a false sense of entitlement along with a mistaken sense of happiness. In reality, we all have the capacity to live happily when we follow our individual truth and don’t look for instant results. Each of us was born with a “barometer of happiness.” It’s our task to regulate this internal barometer so we can feel 100 percent happy more often than not. It will take a new belief system and conscious intention. We are all here to learn unconditional love where happiness is not only a lifestyle — it’s a conscious party!

(excerpt from Chapter One of: Get Happy and Create a Kick-Butt Life!, by author Jackie Ruka)

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Jackie Ruka, “America’s Happyologist,” is a Well-Being expert who skyrockets CEO’s, Leaders, and Women in Business, on how to consciously live stress-free by creating positive mindful systems to launch a life and business you love. To learn more about Jackie visit her online; Facebook, Twitter or grab a copy of her best-selling book Get Happy and Create a Kick-Butt Life!

Feb
02
2016

In this New Year, 2016 represents the year of action and abundance. Do you see that happening for you yet?

I was watching an interview the other day with Dr. Daniel Amen the brain doc, about how a happy brain leads to longevity. He said something that really hit home for me in his interview: “There is one thing that leads to a person living 15 percent longer than others and that is purposefulness.”

What ever gets you jumping out of bed in the morning and gives you that deep sense of purpose and meaning, actually enhances your longevity, wow! How simple, yet at times complex in a life of distraction and “busyness”.

So, what is your purpose? What is the renewed sense of meaning you have this year? Do you have a book, project or business idea that excites and stimulates you to the point that the idea of doing the same old same old, just isn’t cutting it anymore?

I realize the idea of making change can be scary. However, usually when a window closes a door opens. Making “space” in your life is essential for attracting the new to come in where the old once was. Make sense?

Let me clarify in real terms to everyday life.

Let’s take a client of mine. She has a Santa Barbara-based tutoring company with several tutors who work for her. Life was very busy between calls from parents, bookings and schedule changes and finding the right tutor for the right child.

In addition, she was juggling her own children and life as a single mom. She was dating a new guy and also writing articles for the local paper to educate parents about the importance of a good tutor and to maintain her expertise in the community.

On the outside things looked like they were flowing harmoniously. But deep down, she knew it was time to make a change in her business life as it was affecting her personal life and the juggling act was overwhelming.

Feeling scattered, unfocused and depleted was tough on her and affected the quality time she planned with her kids. She needed to make a change and fast!

Well, she had an idea, which involved making more change in addition to the current changes happening in her life. Except the outcome of this idea would give her more free time and freedom in her business and her personal life. Hmmm, it was the how, maybe this was too crazy of an idea?

” Ideas are easy, implementation is hard. ” – Guy Kawasaki

She hired me to brainstorm with her this new idea and by partnering, we got right to work on a one-page business plan, strategy and then wrapped it in a new brand, logo and tag line to capture the attention of her new online idea. She was thrilled with how happy everything came out but more important, she added more life to her life.

“I had the pleasure of meeting with Jackie,” she said. “We only spent two hours talking; she helped my business tremendously. Two hours moved my business forward probably two years.”

It is the word “possible” that makes the impossible kinda fun!        

 

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Jackie Ruka founded Get Happy Zone Inc., a personal development and life style company. Jackie skyrockets the overworked professional from breakdowns to breakthroughs.  As “America’s Happyologist” her mission is assisting her client’s overcome life transitions and blaze the path to the vibrant, fulfilling life and business they dream of. Learn about the Happiness Warrior Way Profit from Your Passion Program  by  scheduling a FREE 2016 Profit from Your Passion Planning Session today. Book NOW.

 

Jan
01
2016

 

Creativity

If what gets you up in the morning is about what you can create versus what is stopping you then you are on your way to a revolutionary New Year. Are ready to have a kick-butt 2016? Then read on.

As we say goodbye to 2015 and recap personal and global events, most people are relieved to relinquish this past year. Looking back is not necessarily the best way to determine what type of resolutions you should create. Most resolutions do not come to fruition. That is why it’s best to not make resolutions, but instead, create a revolution, which is a sudden, extreme or complete change.

For change to occur you must be the change as Gandhi so eloquently said. Life either happens to you or you create the life you desire.

The story behind my revolution took place as I lay on my back for six months to heal from severe back pain, nerve damage and a broken identity after walking away from a six-figure career in order to save my own life. And yet, the life I created publicly appeared happy and abundant, but resembled an enormous lack of wellness or self-love behind the scenes.Round and round I went to the point of my rude awakening, where one fateful day my impaired company car went out of control and slowly halted in front of two, 8-foot-tall Buddha statues. The road to denial had ended.

This is where the breakdown led to my breakthrough. You see, I could settle on a few goals and medication to recapture the tainted golden handcuffs of the corporate umbrella and perks, or I could choose to look at my authentic self.  Choosing my health and happiness versus workaholism and wealth, became paramount to a life of longevity instead of living in fear of, “What if?” The old paradigm is that success leads to happiness. However, the opposite is what led to my revolution: Happiness leads to success.

New Year resolutions are the sissy way of making small changes in far too many areas with hope that your dream life will miraculously happen. However, to truly acquire the life you desire one must define and then commit to your revolution. Here’s how:

 

1. Define your Revolution – What does your true heart desire? Choose the one word for this New Year that represents the theme of your revolution.

2. Be Genuine – To believe in yourself and create positive change for sustainability in your life, go deep and get real with yourself.  What motivates you? If you want to lose 12 pounds to get the good-looking guy, even though it may be a motivator, odds are you will put those pounds back on later. Your intent must be authentic to a purpose containing compassion, gratitude and altruism and not a materialistic or external focus of what you believe will make you feel better.  It is about growth toward one’s potential and not about co-dependence.

3. Acceptance – Accept what you no longer want or need to be and just be. Perhaps you have played the “doormat” role in your life, which is no longer serving you or others to grow. The sooner you release an old way of doing things the sooner it allows new energy to align to your revolutionary theme.

4. Courage – It is recognizing what your fear looks like and replacing that energy towards what inspires you.  In most cases, fear is an illusion you create from thoughts of scarcity. When you practice courage there is a faith that emerges where you are deserving of all that is good.

5. Proactive – Goals are a great way to set the basis for being proactive. Stepping outside of your comfort zone feels scary mainly because you are unaware of what tools exist to power you forward. Being proactive requires gathering and utilizing new tools.

6. Never Give Up – The universe did not get you this far for you to fail.  Whenever I have experienced moments where I was about to give up, I remember this quote: “The moment you are ready to quit is usually the moment right before the miracle happens.”

Cheers to you and in your REVOLUTIONARY New Year!

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“America’s Happyologist” Jackie Ruka, is an Action Coach toward your success and happiness and founder of  Get Happy Zone (http://www.gethappyzone.com) personal development organization. She is the author of the new action guide “Get Happy and Create a Kick Butt Life, a Creative Toolbox for Rapidly Activating the Life You Desire,” available on Amazon, Barnes and Noble or your favorite book store. Opt-in for Optimism to receive meditation goodies and a self- assessment. 

Dec
12
2015

2016Here we are approaching the New Year of 2016.

Dear Friends,

As the holidays wind down, it is natural to do just that, relax and enjoy some time off. Of course, as one does so, you can’t help but think about your future. As I ponder this past year and focus upon what I would like to change in my life toward sustainable well being, honesty steps in. I realize the ultimate choice is the one that we take for granted because it is free, and this is our happiness.

An amazing thing happens when you become honest with yourself, start doing what you love and what makes you happy. Life slows down; you enjoy the little things and recognize the smells around you that bring up good feelings inside, like the smell of homemade bread. Life literally slows down and you stop wishing for the weekends. Life slows down to where you appreciate the moment and begin to feel like a human being, not a human doing. A feeling of contentment, calm and joy flows and therefore life flows, like the natural movement of the waves of the ocean. You move fluidly, calmly and grateful. A veil is lifted and a new perspective is born. When you become clear, your happiness leads to a success beyond what you can imagine. An occurrence manifests when you sit in silence and determine what gives you pleasure and meaning. The pleasure of a baby smiling, the meaning it has of unconditional love. The pleasure of helping another because you can with no expected outcome giving the meaning of kindness. The pleasure of mentoring another with your wisdom offers meaning of fostering a future for our children and their children.

When honesty persists, we have the power to be persistent and no longer take happiness and freedom for granted. When you capture the feeling of your happiness you will feel the ultimate choice of painting your life’s canvas, and this will lead to you happiest year ever!

In closing, it is your time to shine, be bold, be brave, and be YOU!

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America’s Happyologist, Jackie Ruka, is a transformational leadership coach and lifestyle strategist who partners with CEO’s and Working Women on the go, how to fulfill the successful vibrant life and business her client’s dream of. To learn more about Jackie visit her online; Facebook, Twitter or grab a copy of her best selling book Get Happy and Create a Kick-Butt Life! A Creative toolbox to Rapidly Activate the Life You Desire. Jackie is an award winning Sales and Marketing pro who has led $100M to $2B brands and teaches you how to have a billion dollar mindset. With over 5000 hours mentoring professionals. She is also a Speaker and Trained Art Psychotherapist.

Jun
06
2015

Every so often, some one comes along that inspires you so much, that you want to bottle up their energy and enthusiasm to take home for yourself. Makes you wonder, what makes them so happy? In todays’ blog I interview such a person, namely, actor, Andrew Mondia. He is so full of happiness and passion for life , I decided to interview him to learn what gets him happy , how he makes his passion work for him and how you can apply it to your everyday life.

1. What is your definition of happiness? headshotsbyrobert.com

Happiness is about following your bliss. Pursuing what it is that gets you on fire. Following what you are guided to do. For me that is sharing my love, light and laughter to the world through what I love to do which is entertaining people in film/TV and stage shows

2. What inspired you to get into acting?

From an early age, I loved having fun and entertaining my friends and family. My main inspiration is my grandfather. He loved to sing and dance plus played the accordion, He also encouraged me as well.

3. As an actor, how do you turn a negative into a positive?

Being an actor you get rejected a lot. Rather than look at the rejection as a negative think of it as one step closer to the role you are meant to do. Not every role is right for you. Just keep preserving and move onto the next audition. Trust in the higher power that the right role will come for you.

4. How do you connect with your audience?

It depends on film it’s harder but on stage you can actually know by the audience’s reaction. The important for me as an actor is to in either case…  connect with the character I am playing and channel my whole being into that role to create that something special that the audience will either hate or love.

 5. As a leader in inspiring others to learn and master their passion, what is one way in which others can define their passion and cultivate it?

One process which I highly recommend is The Passion Test created by Janet Bray Attwood. When you discover what your top 5 passions are and use that as a tool to decide where you desire to go. You cannot go wrong. A highly effective process that is heart based and rather than answer questions that ask you to rate or yes/no or even true/false you are going within to find the answer.

6. There are many behind the scenes taking place in an actor’s life, how do you juggle your passion with getting the next gig?

I lead with an open heart and keep my eyes open for what crosses my paths next. Send out to the universe what I desire and let the answer come to me. I give of myself to others in helping people out and do work on the side when I need to but most importantly keep focus on where it is I desire to go. Sometimes like at present I am required to do something else while I wait for that next step to move to where I need to go. I just know that it is only temporary with what I am doing that is not what I want to do. You never know what lesson can be learned where you are.

7. What is your mantra to get in your happy zone?

Supercalifragilisticexpialidocious!

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So what makes your soul happy? Are you doing something a little each day that inspires your passion, ignites your soul and follows your bliss? It’s your time to shine, reach a higher vibration and say YES to the world with your talent, magic and message. Like , Andrew, he is following and living his calling, this takes courage! Being your own happiness advocate, takes courage! Focus on what you can create and not what’s stopping you, form your happy zone mantra and share it with us on our inspirational blog.

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Feb
02
2015

reduce stressWhen life takes you over instead of the other way around, it often means it’s a time to heal a personal area  which may have been ignored or brushed under the carpet. It’s perfectly natural to wonder why is this happening to me and why now?  Life has a way of creeping up on you but I am here to say, in my own experience of turmoil, I learned a few lessons and gained more wisdom than I ever thought possible. One of those pearls was the understanding that it was time to stand on my own two feet and charge forward , no hanging out on the sidelines anymore.

Turning your worry into wisdom starts with you and likely in a location that you least expect! In working with a recent client, whose husband decided to leave their marriage for her best friend, she was devastated and became depressed. In order for her to become healthy and strong again was a process in healing. This is so important to hunker down and do some inner work. As they say, your happiness is an inside job but needless to say, losing love in your life is an act of grieving, forgiving and eventually accepting things as they are except with a new perspective. So, together we came up with 4 quick and easy actions to feel good about herself , her life and forming a new direction in life.

1. The Do it Yourself Home Detox – happiness starts at your front door. What I mean by that is, when I met with Alicia, all her old stuff of pictures, memorabilia of her and her husband was hanging around the house. Alicia really wanted to start the year in a whole new positive way. Together we gathered all the old and gave it to Goodwill. Cleaned up the house and did a complete redo of furniture placement, pictures and colors around her house. In addition, we brought out her treasures, quotes and items that provided positivity in her daily life. Your home is your Zen, so have fun making it peaceful and inviting.

2. Heal what Ails you – your body often tells you when something does not feel right, so pay attention. If you are lethargic, not sleeping or eating well it could be a sign of depression or emotional exhaustion. Either way, get a check-up and a B12 shot for a boost of energy. One ailment noticeable about Alicia was on again off again fever and headaches. Often this occurred when she was around particular friends who seemed to use her as a whipping post. her choice in friends required a BIG overhaul. She slowly stopped taking their texts and phone calls and began accepting invitations to new events where she met a wonderful new bunch of caring girlfriends.  Taking care of your body is an act of self-love. And choosing people with integrity and character goes a long way with building new friends and alliances. Alicia not only feels much better but her judgement in choosing what feels right for her has received a nice bump in self-esteem.

3. Get Zen-tered – form a new morning ritual that gets your giddy-up and going. Perhaps this is a favorite cup of tea, some yoga, a brisk walk with your dog or friend before you head to work? What gets you centered? Think about this or try something new with your routine.

4. Positive People Pick Me Up –  it really is positive people in which to surround yourself with in both good and bad times, your true friends love you no matter what! Be around those who provide love and comfort not criticism or debbie downers in your life.

Answer this one question to get you started: When I am  __________________ , I am happy!

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“America’s Happyologist” Jackie Ruka , is a lifestyle strategist who founded the Get Happy Zone (http://www.gethappyzone.com) personal development organization. She is author of the #1 bestseller action guide “Get Happy and Create a Kick Butt Life, a Creative Toolbox for Rapidly Activating the Life You Desire,” available on Amazon, Barnes and Noble or your favorite book store. Opt-in for Optimism to receive 10 Strategies for how to be Happy, Stress- Free and Successful!

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