Empowerment tools

Mar
03
2012

Do you ever wonder why things just are not going your way toward happiness? You’re making changes, or trying to, yet you keep hitting the same walls and obstacles. We have all been there and sometimes this calls for an awakening. But first we need to recognize that the tail we are chasing continues to lead to the same place, I term this as a life rut. A life rut can go on for months or even years. Often we choose to be in this life rut or perhaps on a subconscious level you are fearful of change.  I say, No More Excuses, it’s time to get off the life rut bus and onto the speedway to happiness.

When my Dad passed away, I was heartbroken but kept a strong front. Inside I was hurting and found it difficult to look at a photograph of him without feeling completely crushed inside. A couple of years passed before I realized how unfulfilled my life felt. Sometimes, we start to think , “oh well, guess this is the way it is supposed to be”. Uh, no, I don’t think so, not if you are the CEO of your life ! The question is, have you been ACTING like the CEO of your life or have you been putting off the feelings of yesterday that you choose not to address with the same fears that are holding you back? At that time in my life,  I was choosing to squash my feelings. As Dr. Phil would say, how’s that working for you?  Afterall, recognizing and dealing with your feelings/fears is an act of loving yourself, yes?

Get Happy Tips:

1. Unlock your feelings :Recognize your feelings, feel them, express them out loud to a support person, or seek a therapist, counselor, mentor as a sounding board.

2. Find your catharsis: Determine what makes you feel in a groove of insightfulness. Is it drawing, running, surfing, blogging,  journaling, yoga, dancing, cleaning, building, creating ? Choose to move your body and your mind into a state of fluidity. Get your juices flowing !  Exertion of your self  and your brain is the physical act of moving your life in a forward position instead of keeping it in neutral.

3. Do the opposite of what you have been doing. Set new boundries with your self and others and start acting like the CEO. Take back your power and choose to live in your freedom. This is a process of letting go of your old paradigm to begin anew.

4. Practice JOY. What I mean by JOY is to Just Own Yourself. Accept all of you, the good bad and the ugly. You are not perfect yet everything in life is just temporary. We live in a society of constant change. If your not in your JOY, you will be run down, burnt out and fried. When you practice JOY, you become the decision maker, you set the shots and you also live by them.

5. Delegate. The art of being a consistent leader is delegating. The trait of a good leader is asking for help. You cannot do it all. So, go to the professionals who can help you make sense of the road your on and help sort out the  trail you intend to blaze.

6. Take a cup of courage and no this does not mean experimenting with new flavored vodkas, although tempting. The rut bus might seem safe compared to the speedway to happiness of going outside of your comfort zone. When you travel outside of your comfort zone, you will begin to realize that you are not only way more capable than you give yourself credit but you will begin to have way more fun, even if that means making a few mistakes. Mistakes are lessons and stepping stones that get you one step closer to redefining your happiness and success.

Daily Quote: The secret of success is learning how to use pain and pleasure instead of having pain and pleasure use you. If you do that, you’re in control of your life. If you don’t, life controls you. Tony Robbins

Jackie Ruka is an author, artist, therapist and lifestyle expert who started Get Happy Zone, a personal development organization dedicated to launching your personal happiness campaign through her training classes and upcoming book “Get Happy and Create a Kick Butt Life, a Toolbox for Rapidly Activating the Life You Desire.” Go here, www.gethappyzone.com, to read Jackie’s blog.

Feb
02
2012

World Happy Day was February 11, 2012 .  On this special day , on 7 continents, 60 countries and over 600 locations the screening of the “HAPPY” movie was seen in hundreds of locations with fantastic attendance. This was an exceptional conscious awareness screening, in which to build upon a new revolution of personal wellness and happiness in a collective manner. Hence, surrounding yourself with positivity encourages a new tipping point toward happiness.

We are all vibrationally connected in some way or form and many of us are effected by someone who is struggling.  When we travel with low vibration, we attract fear, worry, anxiety and a debilitating rut can take over. Often it is  a certain someone, as I term an earth angel, who crosses your path that offers some relief. In most cases, your situation may not be as bad as it seems but because you are feeling bad about self, you perceive a “no way out”, type of view. This is very common and you are not alone.

I came upon a situation the other day with someone whose low vibration got the best of her. She was upset, crying and felt alone. Her life seemed to come to a halt and she was faced with looking at herself and dealing with pain that she had been suppressing. She had not been able to find a job, has little money and is exhausted. In truth, she is a very capable, smart and an experienced professional whose dealing with a broken heart. Exhaustion is a sign of holding back your emotions, let them out, cry, scream, talk, converse and let it go. We are humans where toxic emotions can buildup and send us into a downward spiral. Releasing your emotions is a cathartic effort that in hindsight will relieve the inner pressure, where acceptance resides.

Often when the Universe takes you to it, you can get through it.  A death or loss of your identity , at first can be scary. You may be scared all of the time. How you react to this is key and pivotal to moving forward in your life. When you are faced with a major change, your life takes a new path. Although it’s difficult to see what that path looks like, what’s important is in knowing your being asked to reach a higher level of yourself. A level that feels like a stretch and requires a cup of courage for you to reach. However, this higher calling is already within you. You have been prepared for this all along by each and every encounter, experience and adversity in your life up to this point.

Once you take that cup of courage and begin to feel that your fears are illusions, you become more capable than you realize. Your passion is exuded and you’re a magnet for all your hopes and dreams.  Life and the small treasures and people in it become crystal clear. Don’t give up, fight back ! Encouraging a new point of your happiness is in your reach, a new level of happiness is  the tipping point in the direction of your higher self.

Weekly Quote: In memory of Whitney Houston

If you sing alone in your shrine, the vibrations return to you as a reaction. But in community singing, what you have is not a reaction but a wave of vibrations. They enter into the atmosphere and purify the polluted air.
Sri Sathya Sai Baba

HAPPY Tools:

A “Letting Go ” method for Life Enhancement: Sit for ten minutes each day in quietness. Focus on every area of your body. Allow for each area to relax. As you breathe in the positive and exhale the negative, focus on smiling. Your eyes, smile, your face smiles , your stomach smiles, your liver smiles, your muscles smile, your back smiles, your kidneys smile and your heart smiles. When you enter the world from your smiling meditation, your vibration will be an all time high. Watch and observe how good things will come to you and you to good. ( More techniques are available in Jackie’s upcoming book, Get Happy and Create a Kick Butt – Life, A Creative Toolbox for Rapidly Activating the Life You Desire”, out in June 2012.

Many have asked about the “HAPPY” movie that was screened on World Happy Day. I highly recommend this wonderful journey with learning about the science and true stories about happiness. The “HAPPY” movie in DVD can be purchased at Lululemon Athletica yoga stores or at http://www.thehappymovie.com. If you prefer to download it to your computer , it is now on itunes.

Jackie Ruka is an author, artist, therapist and lifestyle expert who started Get Happy Zone, a personal development organization dedicated to launching your personal happiness campaign through her training classes and upcoming book “Get Happy and Create a Kick Butt Life, a Toolbox for Rapidly Activating the Life You Desire.” Go here, www.gethappyzone.com, to read Jackie’s blog.

Jul
07
2011

Do you remember the Gumby doll? You could stretch, shape and change him into all types of contortions. My sister and I would try to stretch him as far as we could across the TV room; I had the legs and she had the arms. Gumby had no idea if he was coming or going. Perhaps you are in a situation where you are feeling manipulated and burnt out with little direction in knowing where to turn.  Looking outside of yourself seems difficult when all you can do is focus on the negative. Gaining clarity is key to moving forward in your life, however the clarity or clearing process can take some time. Often it is the breakdowns that fire up a breakthrough.

It is easy to lose confidence in yourself with not believing in your talents or strengths in times of change or crisis. Losing a job, a client or faith in what your currently doing can feel like betrayal. Yet, nothing could be further from this  type of perception. The Universe is nudging you toward growth and an opportunity is knocking , but you may be too busy figuring out the chaos you find yourself in the middle of. The sooner you process change the sooner you can have gratitude for what you have. Soon you will begin to see the windows of opportunity opening for you. In the book The Passion Test, the premise is to determine your top 5 passions . When you set an intention, place action and put forth a knowing attitude you begin a new process with unraveling your purpose and dream. This is an important exercise to embark upon and the beginning of a very important and perhaps a life altering process for you. However, this is just the beginning.

As the queen of self reinvention, I have been through the transformation process and am familiar with sabotaging to my old patterns as well, predominantly out of fear. Once you  truly have faced a place where you are absolutely sick of the place you are in, ready to forgo your fears  and  go beyond setting a new intention ,than my new book will show you how to ignite a happiness campaign customized for you. Part of this process is  determining your greatest strengths and creatively activating your strengths to move your intention further along. Redefine Your Success Exercise: To do this right the first time you first must :write down all of your greatest strengths, hobbies and skills. Circle only 3 from your list that excite you . The 3 you circled represent your passions. Second, underline which of these you have been financially compensated for. The underlined skill, hobbies and strengths are your hidden passions that you can expound upon toward initiating further growth toward crystallizing your purpose. Upon completion of your list you may find the primary strengths you circled represent one of 3 leadership traits that you primarily operate from within the Universe  : the Leader/Trendsetter, the Universal Connector and the Stealth Strategist. You no longer need to be in Gumby’s position any longer, once you determine your motivating makeup.  To learn more about how you operate in the Universe and where you can capitalize upon your purpose , sign in to my author page to receive news and bonuses on my upcoming book: Imagine Your Greatest Good, A Practical Guide to Popping your Power on the Planet. http://www.gethappyzone.com/book

Jackie Ruka is an Author, Artist, Therapist and Inspiration Coach who started Get Happy Zone, a unique organization dedicated to launching your personal happiness campaign through her training classes and upcoming book Imagine Your Greatest Good,  a Practical Guide for Popping Your Power on the Planet. To learn more about Get Happy Zone and Jackie’s technique please go to http://www.gethappyzone.com/about

Quote: Only You define your own worth. Jackie Ruka

Jun
06
2011

Seeking balance ? It may seem easy to believe one can be nimble in order to overcome the many changes being thrown our way. Nimble , meaning agile , with ease or alert.   Yet at some point, being nimble may be benefiting others while costing your integrity . For example, during breakfast this morning, with some gal pals, we ended up discussing how we have mastered multi-tasking, only to find that we are picking up the slack for the slackers. Is this us being nimble or the slackers being nimble ? Makes you wonder .Perhaps life is just unabalanced and we need to accept this.

How does one go about being effective in a unbalanced world? Do you take the high road and make up the difference for others or do you finally step up and hold others accountable for what they could be doing but don’t as they know you will end up doing it for them ?

Its one thing to go with flow, roll with the punches and accommodate to the small changes, however, change is happening so rapidly these days the ” go with flow” has turned into an additional set of ongoing tasks. Perhaps the word nimble is being misused in todays  world and applies more to what we should expect from our computer systems rather than human systems.

So here are some  tips for being the “new” nimble and attempt to live a perfectly unbalanced life :

1. Learn what takes priority and what can be set aside for later.

2.Clarify what the changes are  and why, is this for the greater good or the good of only one person ?

3. Agree to take on  the additional work or change but  voice the sacrifice of the other shifts in priority , so all are aware and on the same page.

4.Recognize if your agility is being compromised .  Practice mindfulness and take measure to renew yourself at all costs.

5. Sleep, eat right , exercise and meditate (time for self). Lastly, be nimble with self. Learn to take on what you can the best way you know how. Ask for help in return.

6. Take your power back. If your get up and go has got up and went, your on the road to burn out. If being nimble means what it says than expect this from others as well . In these changing times, it takes all to be nimble not just you.

The bottom-line is we all just want to be happy. Here is a great article from financial techie James Altucher’s book who shares his happiness approach. How to Be the Luckiest Guy on Earth.

Jackie Ruka is an Author, Artist, Therapist and Inspiration Coach who started Get Happy Zone, a unique organization dedicated to launching your personal happiness campaign through her training classes and upcoming book Imagine Your Greatest Good,  a Practical Guide for Popping Your Power on the Planet. To learn more about Get Happy Zone and Jackie’s technique please go to http://www.gethappyzone.com/about

Jun
06
2011

Taking a step toward your future self is alot easier than you think ! Today I participated in a workshop where the unexpected occurred and I was unprepared, at least initially. I was invited to a new group where I met my peers and we shared our fears, as well as our desires. Most of us had common fears of rejection or failure while others shared similar patterns of sabotage.  The group process  initiated a self awareness that was aired out and lifted illusions and obstacles that limit us from our true potential . The group sharing not only was  healthy but also a powerful gateway of conscious awakening. Just think how much you could accomplish, once your fears are diminished? Often, we tend to get in our own way, dragging our feet to move in a purposeful direction. Now, is the time to recognize how special you are, as  no one does the same thing in exactly the same manner as you. Your uniqueness is special and June is a great time to celebrate and blossom.

The Authentic Power workshop I facilitate with clients, is to create the book cover of your autobiography. This can include pictures, graphics, stickers, magazine cutouts, scrap book decals and the like. The caveat is to  choose the theme of what your future self entails displayed on your front cover ( your desire of what you strive to be) . By doing this, you’re setting the intention and declaration for your goal into  forward motion. Visualizing your book cover everyday promotes the creative juices on an unconscious level which will attract the supporters, cheerleaders and advocates to enter your life so you can blossom successfully.

Quote: Whatever you can do, or dream you can, Begin it.
Boldness has genius, power and magic in it, Begin it now.
– Johann Wolfgang von Goethe

Jackie Ruka is an Author, Artist, Therapist and Inspiration Coach who started Get Happy Zone, a unique organization dedicated to launching your personal happiness campaign through her training classes and upcoming book Imagine Your Greatest Good,  a Practical Guide for Popping Your Power on the Planet. To learn more about Get Happy Zone and Jackie’s technique please go to http://www.gethappyzone.com/about

May
05
2011

Prior to this glorious Memorial Day weekend, it was a turbulent week for most. It’s not so much as the usual busyness, but more of the unexpected occurrences. You know, the small mishaps  that wreak havoc on the rest of your day: losing your car key, a flight being cancelled, computer meltdown or making an impulsive  financial decision leading to an unexpected consequence. Often, one person’s decision affects many. In today’s social environment, we are living in a world of excess, popularity contests and competitveness. From computer games that kids are strung out on to who can have the most friends or hot looking girls on their facebook. These  social interactions are just distractions to the barometer that the universe is sharing with you about what’s really important in your life and not how screwy it may feel. So, you can choose to question it all or you can choose to get real about what the universe is trying to tell you. Step away from your distractions and ponder on what feels right in your world. Have gratitude for what is working , accept what is not and be the change you wish to feel in your own life. Placing your ego on the table and operating from heart is the new art to expressing who you are, what your business is about and how you are here to share and help others. In other words, its not really about You.

The 21st century is a world of integration, where we are learning to operate from the “me” to the “we”. An age of creativity or term it  as the golden age, a time in which we are here to help each other function in our higher selves.  A time for you to be living a lifestyle of consciousness. The changes happening are no longer cyclical but rather random and often. These haphazard occurrences can leave those of us sensitive to our surroundings a bit raw. This is where we can learn to get scrappy and start generating our conscious moxie. Wikipedia terms moxie as a force of character, determination or nerve. It’s a  perfect time for combining your know how and raw feelings with placing a readiness for your higher self to emerge. Embrace your readiness and  express your higher self in a new manner that the universe is now asking of you. Namely, freedom to step outside of your old self and step in to your future self. You are an important cog in the wheel that we  are sharing, therefore it is no longer necessary to live in your habits but rather live in your purpose.

Reinvention is happening all around and within us. Fear not, here are a few tips to align yourself:

Air out your thoughts with a coach or mentor.

Accept the twists and turns of fate.

Research options that  can link your holistic talent to emerging trends.

Check in with self. Are you following your heart? Place your ego on the table (hint)

Determine what you want to include in your next chapter and dream BIG. Where are you headed and who  you want to take with you are some key determinations. Let your clarity define you.

Jackie Ruka is an Author, Artist, Therapist and Inspiration Coach who started Get Happy Zone, a unique organization dedicated to launching your personal happiness campaign through her training classes and upcoming book Imagine Your Greatest Good,  a Practical Guide for Popping Your Power on the Planet. To learn more about Get Happy Zone and Jackie’s technique please go to http://www.gethappyzone.com/about

May
05
2011


It is often in response to spiritual turmoil or significant life shift that we can then turn into a great creator. As creativity is the life force behind all that we do. From the moment we wake up in the morning, you are creating; from making breakfast to matching your attire for the day to making money.  How you choose to celebrate the creation internally is significant to the value you have of yourself. For example , you may go on automatic pilot, not think much of how you care to  present yourself to the world and be done with it. Conversely, make a conscious effort of your choices , go about exercising your thoughts , make determinations to feel good about your self when you leave the house, which takes on a whole new “feeling” about caring for yourself with value of who you are on the inside.

The key here is about caring for self. In order to navigate the wave of change  one must first recognize and question , ” What do I need to know about this life shift taking place ? What type of lesson should I  be learning right now ? This can be a process that takes on several steps but in more cases than not what appears to be a stressful or gloomy situation usually has an outcome that is a gift in disguise. Your pain or discomfort is natural , after all you are only human. Embrace your fear, which is actually your pain and determine what is healthy about it and what is inhibiting you from moving forward into the next portion of your life. Emotions have a funny way of clouding our perceptions which in turn, makes it easy to believe that others are purposely hurting you or life is just not fair. Ninety percent of the time, how people treat you is more about them and their own inner pain . Take note and evaluate a situation that might be effecting you right now .

Being kind to self has such an impact on how you respond to others. Have you noticed that if you are sweet and endearing toward another you receive the same in return. This type of behavior may come naturally to some however, by consciously practicing this you are not just a good person but a great person. What do I mean by that ? Have you ever met someone and thought what a great guy/gal? What was it about them that touched you? Perhaps this is a trait you can learn from and embrace for yourself ?

Purposely visualizing an experience prior to it taking place can be a powerful way of deliberately creating an optimal outcome. Olympic athletes, movie producers, musicians, dancers, painters often base an intended outcome through visualization. Then there are the great historians and inventors of the world such as Albert Einstein, Ben Franklin, Walt Disney and John F Kennedy. What they have in common is use of the whole brain, both right and left brain thinking . Strategic thinking is a left brain operation whereas visualization takes on the imaginative  right side of the brain. Deliberate creation combines intent , purpose , positive thinking and specific details that you conjure for an optimal intended outcome. Both right and left brain or whole brain thinking is essential to the deliberate creation process. For example, a major life shift took place in my life, some of it painful yet I realized it was time for a change so, why not turn a negative into a positive ? I evaluated the situation and realized,  I was not growing.  I questioned, what would be the experience that I most wanted at this point in my life? Once I wrote it down , everything became clear for me. This is when I began the deliberate creation process and manifested selling my home and moving onto my next life chapter. The steps and process that I initiated took less than 60 days for my optimum outcome to manifest. The number I wrote down and visualized for what my home sold for as well as the type of buyer I conjured became a reality. The success that I personally have achieved through the deliberate creation process has applied to other areas of my life as well.

No matter what type of change is taking place in your life right now, you have the power to proactively respond. The laws of deliberate creation can positively happen if you choose to practice this. Once you learn the process, you will be amazed how you will grow from good to great !

Jackie Ruka is an Author, Artist, Therapist and Inspiration Coach who started Get Happy Zone, a unique organization dedicated to launching your personal happiness campaign through her training classes and upcoming book Imagine Your Greatest Good,  a practical guide for Popping Your Power on the Planet. To learn more about Get Happy Zone and Jackie’s technique please go to http://www.gethappyzone.com/about

May
05
2011

The roles that were infringed upon you as child may be an obstacle limiting you at this time. Perhaps your birth order , if you were the smart one in school, the artsy one, the geek, the athlete or shadowed by a needy parent or popular sibling. All have an effect on how you were perceived and treated in your younger years,which influences your self esteem and behaviors , as well as , how you view and perceive the world. Your perspective is all relative and you have the power to change that quickly and effectively.

REFLECTION QUESTIONS :What former role and old recordings are you still holding on to ?
( the parent- child, the baby, the lazy one, the scapegoat , the leader, the good girl, mama’s boy, daddy’s girl etc.)

What expectations do you carry of yourself and others related to this role? Is this working for you, are you growing and prospering  or are you stagnant in your climb to happiness?

When you are ready to press the reset button and move faster in your transformation with releasing old ways of thinking and believing in yourself, you will instantly observe changes occur all around you. Learning the lessons from your past reveals healthier ways for you to move forward. For some this may take a few times , possibly related to secondary gains of a role you are not ready to surrender. It’s okay, it takes time and commitment to break from old patterns, however, being in emotional pain is not okay. It is imperative to consult with a professional to help with overcoming the emotional pain you are experiencing.

Jump starting your happiness with a change of self perception starts the crystallization process of your future self, the self you strive to be. Here are 3 ways to get started:
Visualize: A bridge and picture the old and new you meeting in the middle of the bridge. Imagine the old you physically passing your talents, strengths and lessons on to the new you to successfully proceed.
 Second, Write down: Your new biography. Begin writing it from who you strive to be and work backwards. This may take some practice and editing a few times as you surrender your old titles, jobs, and former experiences in the past tense.
Third, Allow: Begin the process of allowing, be open to new experiences, opportunities and people. Have faith that you are safe and be patient with yourself. Your ego will begin to relax as your fears subside.
Mantra: Its never too late to be what you might have been. George Elliot

To learn more about crystallizing your uniqueness , download the book Introduction of Imagine Your Greatest Good: A Practical Guide for Popping your Power on the Planet, by Author , Artist and Therapist Jackie Ruka.

Apr
04
2011

“The future belongs to those who believe in the beauty of their dreams”

Eleanor Roosevelt

The earth is literally shaking us to awaken to a  heightened level of consciousness.  We all have sensed the global shake up in our personal and or professional lives, it is important to maintain your energy and focus on your dream.  Hanging out on the sidelines with old beliefs, resentments and negativity are illusions, allow for those thoughts to collapse , they serve no purpose to your souls intent.

Whatever sparks your imagination currently is important to pay attention to, especially now . Embark on the inspiration of those sparks with taking one step  or several toward your dream. As this will get you much closer to your happiness than no step at all. Believe in yourself , have gratitude as this stimulates you toward a higher vibration and purpose.

Your dream is a process much like the bud of a rose, ready to bloom. Attach your feelings  of faith, hope and abundance and you will blossom into a gorgeous , glowing flower. There is no room for failure or negativity in this beautiful process, it does not exist. As you begin to blossom , your life will take on a whole new feeling and meaning. This can be an exciting time to not only fall in love with your Life but also to love your self in the process.

Falling in love with your life Mantra: I take steps to love myself and I manifest courage to be myself.

Clear your path to Your Lifes purpose

Wondering where to start on your new journey with power and clarity ? Jackie Ruka teaches lessons and practical ways to empower you in her new book Imagine Your Greatest Good, A Practical Guide to Popping Your Power on the Planet . Learn more about the book and complimentary  tool kit here .

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