healing

Aug
08
2017

Why Not have a little fun, it’s summer and usually the best way to change your mindset and Get Happy is by giving yourself permission!

I read an article the other day, that one of the reasons why American’s are unhappy, is because we feel confined in our choices. Stress often leads to feeling confined and boxed in where our personality can lean toward old habits, default modes and the good ole comfort zone. Resulting in a feeling of “stuck” in our jobs, finances, health and community.

Allow me to give you the crayon within your mind to color outside the lines and throw out the “confining” box! It’s time for you to play, imagine, feel good and think positive! Truly it is your time to shine. So here are a few ways to do that…

– Give yourself permission with knowing you deserve happiness and get to choose it when ever you want!

– Give yourself permission, to dance, laugh, get the blood flowing in your veins and just ALLOW.

– Give yourself permission to wear whatever you want or even nothing at all, oops. Point being, get comfortable in your own skin, take a bubble bath, relax and get in the water, it washes away the cobwebs of the mind and cleanses the old for the new to come in.

– Give yourself permission to visualize what your heart desires. Imagine it happening, right now, close your eyes and see this happy event taking place in your life. Yes, YOU! It can happen for you. So many people believe good only happens to others but not them. Guess what, you’re up, it’s your turn this time for good and great things to take form and happen. You are more than you ever imagined!! Just give yourself permission, it works!

– Give yourself permission to just stop. Stop the old thinking and self- doubt. This dampens your spirit. We need your spirit, your spirit is here to help others with your talent and your gifts. Don’t deny yourself or others of what you have to offer because when you do, it smothers your joy. Change things up and go IN- JOY!
Love you to the moon and back! – Jackie : )

We want to hear from you, share your best practices for staying positive in the comments section below!

 

# # # # # # # # # # #

America’s Happyologist, Jackie Ruka, is a transformational leadership coach for professionals who crave freedom and are ready to discover living life on their terms.  Her mission is to provide a conscious community of inspiration and cooperation where all flourish based on what makes your soul happy. Her mindshifts and techniques are shared in her best selling book “Get Happy and Create a Kick-Butt Life” ! You can learn more about Jackie and what she has to offer by visiting her Facebook page, Twitter or engage in complimentary breakthrough session here.

Aug
08
2015

How to be healthier and Happier about Finding LoveIn a recent interview I was asked by a dating coach about Love, Health, Happiness and Finding Love again after a breakup or divorce. Love and happiness go hand in hand, take a peek at the love insights:

A common problem my clients seem to face is deep rooted skepticism and bitterness especially those who have been recently rejected, dumped, cheated and abandoned by a spouse or significant other. They reach a point where they are either burned out or they have completely lost faith that they can ever find the right man or woman and be happy. How can people overcome this negativity and skepticism and cultivate a positive outlook and be hopeful?

If you want to find love in a healthier and happier manner, you must be what you want to attract. Be the change that you seek.

Yes, it is common to feel skepticism about people who disappoint you, know you are not alone in feeling this way. As you navigate the healing process we are often left with unanswered questions, the why’s, the how come’s, the what did I do or say?

I am here to tell you, that you are ENOUGH! And a man/woman certainly does not define you. However, when things don’t work out with someone whether it’s to do with love or any other kind of relationship it usually represents a lack of an agreement(s). Most of us who are not clearly communicating and forming agreements with each other, where both are on the same page, both will have different expectations. Expectations often lead to disappointment. So think about those love relationships and put yourself in the other person’s shoes for a minute, do you recall a conversation about exclusivity with each other, or the word commitment or loyalty? Now, whether he or she shared these words with you or not, what did their actions portray?

If a person does not follow his/her words with actions or simply the actions tell you how they want to be with you, than there is a lack of integrity or incongruence taking place. This may not have to do with you at all, in other words, if a person cannot be honest with themselves, how can they be honest with you? So let’s go a step deeper, what is it about yourself that you are not being honest about? The more you become honest about yourself the more you will recognize and attract a healthy person who also loves them self. Until you are honest about feelings about YOU, you will continue to mirror yourself in another and repeat toxic feel good patterns.

To become happier and healthier start loving yourself more and stop seeking confirmation from external entities. Happiness is an inside job, take some time out for you and enjoy your life and do what you love to do. In most cases, you will meet the right person who loves to do similar things that you do! Be kind to yourself and choose someone who is kind to you, by doing so you must be BELIEVE you deserve happiness, you deserve love and you can start to receive this in return. But you must be open to receive. Start with a new mantra, I believe and I receive mantra ” I believe I am good and I am open to receive all that is good.” A mantra supplies positive energy all day long. The more you think and utilize your new mantra the sooner your life will change because all that occurs is how you respond to it. Change your response, change your attitude about it and recognize there is something far better awaiting for you.

Lastly, it is ok to feel sad, disappointed, anger, we must embrace our feelings in order to understand what happiness is for you. Feel your feelings and know that all feelings are fleeting. Ponder, contemplate, express those feelings in a healthy manner, as this leads you one step closer to a happier you!

# # # #

America’s Happyologist, Jackie Ruka, is a transformational leadership mentor for professionals who crave freedom and are ready to discover living life on their terms!  Her mission is to provide a conscious community of inspiration and cooperation where all flourish based on what makes your soul happy. Her mindshifts and techniques are shared in her best selling book “Get Happy and Create a Kick-Butt Life” ! You can learn more about Jackie and what she has to offer by visiting her Facebook page, Twitter or engage in a complimentary discovery session to learn the step by step process for more direction and happiness in your life. book now.

 

Jun
06
2015

Are you ready to claim your happiness, no matter what?

Chapter 8 Happiness is an Action
Excerpt. © Reprinted by permission. All rights reserved.

You can create a kick-butt life at any age. After all, age is just a number. No matter what stage in life you are in, whether you just graduated college, a new mom, in transition, re-building, reinventing, empty nesting , coming out of retirement, divorce or caregiving, you have the capacity to express your uniqueness no matter how old you are. It is inspiring to learn the endeavors of all ages and to realize that it’s never too late for your talent and offering to the world.

Just imagine how you can create an exceptional life and be happy, no matter how old you are. The possibilities are endless. However, more often than not, many stop themselves from creating their dream usually trumped by the  inner critic, not feeling worthy, pure exhaustion or just getting lost in the stress of life  preventing forward motion then giving up on your dream.

A no matter what, I CAN attitude to never, ever giving up on your dream is the mind set that , honestly, propels you forward.  GHZMENTAL WELL-BEING

Did you know that there are no walls between you and your dreams?

There is opportunity for you to get busy and create what you believe or be an ingredient toward a happy accident, as this is where creativity meets opportunity. You never know what life may throw your way , stuff happens and can lead you into a totally new direction, has that  ever happened to you? Well, it happened to me, when my company car reeled out of control one fateful day and slowly stopped in front of two eight -foot Buddha statues outside a furniture store. This was the Universe awakening and re-directing me to my hopes, dreams and inspirations which I put on hold for too long. In fact, had this not happened, I would not have written a bestseller book or mentally, spiritually and emotionally met up with my truth and claimed the burning desire that has led to my inner happiness. What may appear as a wall could actually be an invitation for you to gather your strength and jump over it! Inspiration is the fuel that ignites the fire within, once you tap into it, become unafraid of it, you become unstoppable. Just see how many people have done this and you can too!       ghzemotional well-being

Proof that Inspiration cannot be Ignored:

Age 102 – Australian Mini Munro marries a man younger than her, Dudley Reid, age 83.

Age 90 – Nelson Mandela is on the cover of Time magazine, featuring his “Eight Secrets of Leadership”.

Age 80 – Jessica Tandy wins her first Oscar for Best Actress for her role in “Driving Miss Daisy”.

Age 71 – Fashion icon Coco Chanel debuts the Chanel suit.

Age 64 – Louis Armstrong finishes his version of “Hello Dolly”.

Age 52 – Leonardo da Vinci completes the Mona Lisa.

Age 49 – Julia Child writes her book “Mastering the Art of French Cooking”.

Age 36 – Albert Einstein proclaims his general theory of relativity. The fields of astronomy and physics will never be the same

Age 25 – Charles Lindbergh becomes the first person to fly across the Atlantic Ocean in his famous plane, The Spirit of St. Louis.

Age 17 – Serena Williams is the first African-American tennis player to win a Grand Slam singles title since Arthur Ashe.

Age 13 – Bill Gates writes his first computer program.

Age 10 – Tatum O’ Neal wins the Academy Award for Best Supporting Actress for her performance in “Paper Moon”, co-starring her father, Ryan O’Neal

Get Happy at any Age Inspiration Challenge

Here we are 6 months into the year, time has flown by and it may be time to ask yourself; What do I want? And how I am going to do it? Let’s drill down a bit and really get into the heart of the matter. Write down what gives you meaning on one side of a piece of paper and on the other side what gives you pleasure. Circle the ones that really make you excited and what you yearn for, right now. On a second piece of paper write out all the circled words and notice all your desires sit at the corner of meaning and pleasure which is the pathway to your happiness. And guess what? It has nothing to do with how old you are!

My challenge to you, between now and October  is to mentally, emotionally, physically and spiritually align with doing what makes your soul happy. And I invite you to join me on my happiness and well-being journey while I begin to celebrate turning the age of 50! I can hardly believe it, myself. However, I feel 27  and am just getting started on my dreams and inspirations.  Feeling young and having never felt better , I am often mistaken for age 37. So, why is that? Because I AM HAPPY and incorporate a no matter what attitude. Part of this invitation is to learn the top secrets to feeling young, feeling better and gaining energy, so don’t hesitate.

One of my secrets to happiness and success is to meditate and visualize that my dream has already occurred. You see, when you learn to place your happiness first, success is sure to follow!  GHZSpiritual Well-Being

______________________________________________________________

Work Every day on your emotional, physical, mental and spiritual wellness – And remember, your life matters! Read Get Happy and Create a Kick-Butt Life to  jumpstart your destiny!

GHZPHYSICALGet Happy and Create a Kick - Butt Life!

_______________________________________________________________________

Jackie Ruka , America’s Happyologist and Best Selling Author of Get Happy and Create a Kick-Butt Life! propels you to move forward with doing what is meaningful to you and making it count! As an award winning sales and marketing pro of $100M to $2B brands and trained Psychotherapist, she teaches you how to create your billion dollar mindset for happiness and success. Grab her happiness and self care kit and get started!

Feb
02
2015

reduce stressWhen life takes you over instead of the other way around, it often means it’s a time to heal a personal area  which may have been ignored or brushed under the carpet. It’s perfectly natural to wonder why is this happening to me and why now?  Life has a way of creeping up on you but I am here to say, in my own experience of turmoil, I learned a few lessons and gained more wisdom than I ever thought possible. One of those pearls was the understanding that it was time to stand on my own two feet and charge forward , no hanging out on the sidelines anymore.

Turning your worry into wisdom starts with you and likely in a location that you least expect! In working with a recent client, whose husband decided to leave their marriage for her best friend, she was devastated and became depressed. In order for her to become healthy and strong again was a process in healing. This is so important to hunker down and do some inner work. As they say, your happiness is an inside job but needless to say, losing love in your life is an act of grieving, forgiving and eventually accepting things as they are except with a new perspective. So, together we came up with 4 quick and easy actions to feel good about herself , her life and forming a new direction in life.

1. The Do it Yourself Home Detox – happiness starts at your front door. What I mean by that is, when I met with Alicia, all her old stuff of pictures, memorabilia of her and her husband was hanging around the house. Alicia really wanted to start the year in a whole new positive way. Together we gathered all the old and gave it to Goodwill. Cleaned up the house and did a complete redo of furniture placement, pictures and colors around her house. In addition, we brought out her treasures, quotes and items that provided positivity in her daily life. Your home is your Zen, so have fun making it peaceful and inviting.

2. Heal what Ails you – your body often tells you when something does not feel right, so pay attention. If you are lethargic, not sleeping or eating well it could be a sign of depression or emotional exhaustion. Either way, get a check-up and a B12 shot for a boost of energy. One ailment noticeable about Alicia was on again off again fever and headaches. Often this occurred when she was around particular friends who seemed to use her as a whipping post. her choice in friends required a BIG overhaul. She slowly stopped taking their texts and phone calls and began accepting invitations to new events where she met a wonderful new bunch of caring girlfriends.  Taking care of your body is an act of self-love. And choosing people with integrity and character goes a long way with building new friends and alliances. Alicia not only feels much better but her judgement in choosing what feels right for her has received a nice bump in self-esteem.

3. Get Zen-tered – form a new morning ritual that gets your giddy-up and going. Perhaps this is a favorite cup of tea, some yoga, a brisk walk with your dog or friend before you head to work? What gets you centered? Think about this or try something new with your routine.

4. Positive People Pick Me Up –  it really is positive people in which to surround yourself with in both good and bad times, your true friends love you no matter what! Be around those who provide love and comfort not criticism or debbie downers in your life.

Answer this one question to get you started: When I am  __________________ , I am happy!

# # # # #

“America’s Happyologist” Jackie Ruka , is a lifestyle strategist who founded the Get Happy Zone (http://www.gethappyzone.com) personal development organization. She is author of the #1 bestseller action guide “Get Happy and Create a Kick Butt Life, a Creative Toolbox for Rapidly Activating the Life You Desire,” available on Amazon, Barnes and Noble or your favorite book store. Opt-in for Optimism to receive 10 Strategies for how to be Happy, Stress- Free and Successful!

As Seen In:

rsz_dailyworth-300x151

rsz_foryoursoul

rsz_fox-300x162

 

rsz_nbc-logo

rsz_shrm1

rsz_yahoofin-300x300

[sharexy]