how to be happier

Mar
03
2018

There is more than one way to get what you want and why not make it a happier form of attracting our dreams and desires ?

The ego is malleable where it tends to waver to the external. i.e. What we see, feel and hear is what the ego absorbs. Unfortunately, the external contains 90% negative happening in the world. It is our job to sift and retain only the positive. However, the ego focuses more on what we don’t want versus what we want.

Shifting to what one wants, can work with practice on a regular basis, this is where the mindset work starts. In addition, our subconscious is the habit-forming system formed from our formative years. Often the majority of us are operating from this belief system automatically. When operating with a faulty belief system, in general, may manifest around self- worth, confidence and or old negative programming, such as, doubt, not feeling enough. The symptom can present itself as a stuck mindset.

No one is perfect or immune, yet to clear the automation of what’s not working permanently, is by unblocking blocks that are deep within the unconscious. This is the WHY that has led to a faulty automation system around relationships, money, love, and success. Therefore, you must become clear on what you want. Get technicolor on your vision. Order up exactly what you want the Universe to deliver, otherwise known as manifesting.

Do you want a new job? Are you ready to meet your soulmate? Perhaps you want financial abundance? There is a powerful way you can practice to shift your subconscious into believing you have whatever it is you want and no, it is NOT about positive affirmations. Although affirmations can help you stay on track, especially when chaos or turmoil has taken place in your personal world and environment. The process is known as “Nevellizing”, coined from the famous mystical writer, Goddard Neville. He believed that you focus on the outcome and imagine what it would be like to have that result in your life, right now.

This is not about just focusing on a goal but actually involves feeling the emotion related to the goal by emerging your mind with the details and how it feels. Imagine what will change in your life. For example, imagine a new home and what it feels like to drive up to your new home. Or let’s say you want to attract $50,000 in the next 6 months. When you sit and imagine what your life will be like, focus on the details. What bills will you get to pay? Physically feel the idea of sitting at your desk writing checks and placing stamps on those bills. Are you smiling and feeling fulfilled? Allow those feelings to consume you.

Your subconscious mind cannot distinguish between what is real or imaginative. You can determine this based on how your body responds to a really scary movie, your adrenaline goes up and responds to a flight or fight response to a physical danger, even though your conscious mind knows it’s a movie. Just as your subconscious mind responds to fear it also responds to good events as well. The key is you must believe it into existence with absolution. When you feel it, feel it’s inevitable, that is when the magic occurs. People and events and details and opportunities will pop up, almost out of nowhere. Keep in mind it’s up to you when a source is attracted to you, it’s your choice to act upon it or not. You may be skeptical and that’s ok, however, this technique happens all the time. For example, imagine you decide you want a new white Subaru. Then all you seem to notice around town, on the freeways, in parking lots are white Subaru’s. This is no coincidence, your mind decided to sift and seek out and those things that became important moved to the top of the list in your mind.

Howard Shultz, founder of Starbucks, imagined a coffee shop where people sat around and sipped a $4 cup of coffee. At the time Starbucks nixed this idea and continued to sell coffee beans, coffee makers and filters but not cups of coffee. He moved on as their marketing director and started his own vision of this. Later he bought out the original Starbucks and today it’s a multi-billion dollar company. He focused on his vision and his dream and when obstacles appeared, new doors of opportunity opened.

Although turmoil and grey clouds may hover in your life, this too shall pass. In fact, it’s the best time to determine what you really want? Go deep, get detailed, cut out photos and feeling words as a vision map. The act of creating and imagining is no joke. It’s how electricity was invented and the cell phone, among others. Good things, stemmed from someone’s imagination and growth mindset. Why not make it yours and act upon those happy visions!

 

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Sep
09
2017

Almost everyone everywhere wants to be happier and guess what? We have the power to do it! 

Whether you’re feeling down and are looking for a pick-me-up, or you simply want to be a happier person, changing your mood isn’t hard at all. Every day we experience at least one thing in our daily lives that can instantly lift us up and improve our happiness.

We’ve heard forever that money can’t buy happiness and it’s true.

If you don’t believe me then check out these seven small changes that will help your boost happiness in everyday life.

#1 Change Your Attitude

I’m sure you have heard on occasions that being negative only attracts more negativity which in turn brings down your mood.

Scientists have studied positive thinking and it simply attracts more of that happy bug to you. Try taking a look at the good things in everyday life and fully experience and focus on those. Or better yet, try to turn a negative into a positive.  (Source)

#2 Smile

Who doesn’t feel good when smiling? And I mean a real smile not a fake one! Smiling to make us happier is not a new thing. It was discovered by Charles Darwin in 1872 who found that facial expressions actively influence our mood.

Numerous studies have confirmed that when smiling, hormones called endorphins is are released into our bloodstream which tell the brain that we are happy. Something as simple as smiling becomes contagious and can certainly help us feel more joy throughout the day. (Source)

#3 Listen to Music

We all know how powerful music can be – music really does make us happy.
Have you ever noticed when you’re out and about, you tend to hear music a lot, whether you’re at the grocery store, shopping mall or the hair and beauty salons?

That’s because as a shopper listening to music, it lifts your mood – in turn, helping you spend more.

A study at the University of Missouri has confirmed that listening to music can make you happier.

So next time you feel a little down, crank up the volume and listen to that tune. (Source)

#4 Call a Friend

In all honesty, how many times have our friends brought joy in our lives?

Your best pal is your BFF for a reason, they make us burst into laughter. Chatting with your bestie can help to lower your stress levels resulting in an uplifted mood.

But it doesn’t have to be just your BFF, casual friends and relatives also help raising the level of happiness.  Studies have shown that one person’s happiness triggers a chain reaction.  (Source)

#5 Practice Gratitude

Did you know that counting your blessing each day actually boosts your mood and makes you a happier person!?

It’s been scientifically proven that gratitude helps people feel more positive emotions. Appreciating what you have actually leads a better, happier lifestyle, as gratitude has been associated with greater happiness. So why not wake up and spend a few minutes each day reminding yourself of all the things you are thankful for and start appreciating them now.

Remember, you don’t have to wait for Thanksgiving to express your gratitude, start giving thanks today and watch your happiness grow.   (Source)

#6 Sleep

We all know what a good night’s sleep can do for us, but what a lot of people don’t know is how much it can increase our happiness.

A study from the Division of Sleep Medicine at Harvard Medical School showed that sleep and mood are associated with one another. This means that a lack of sleep can cause stress and irritability, whereas a healthy night’s sleep can enhance your mood.

So go and get a good night’s rest and regulate your mood to happiness. (Source)

#7 Get Some Fresh Air

People tend to forget about this one, but it’s true, getting some fresh air can lift your spirits.

Sunlight and fresh air help you get your daily dosage of vitamin D which is needed to regulate your mood.

The Harvard Health Letter mentions that by venturing outside you can reap physical and mental health benefits. A breath of fresh air really is one of nature’s greatest medicines.  (Source)

Final Thoughts

So there you have it, not only is happiness one of the most positive emotions, but with a few small changes you can choose a better mood, with practice.

Become a happier soul, and take each opportunity and every moment of the day to boost your happiness.

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America’s Happyologist, Jackie Ruka, is a transformational leadership coach for professionals who crave freedom and are ready to discover living life on their terms.  Her mission is to provide a conscious community of inspiration and cooperation where all flourish based on what makes your soul happy. Her mindshifts and techniques are shared in her best selling book “Get Happy and Create a Kick-Butt Life” ! You can learn more about Jackie and what she has to offer by visiting her Facebook page, Twitter or engage in complimentary 15 min. introduction here.

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Feb
02
2016

In this New Year, 2016 represents the year of action and abundance. Do you see that happening for you yet?

I was watching an interview the other day with Dr. Daniel Amen the brain doc, about how a happy brain leads to longevity. He said something that really hit home for me in his interview: “There is one thing that leads to a person living 15 percent longer than others and that is purposefulness.”

What ever gets you jumping out of bed in the morning and gives you that deep sense of purpose and meaning, actually enhances your longevity, wow! How simple, yet at times complex in a life of distraction and “busyness”.

So, what is your purpose? What is the renewed sense of meaning you have this year? Do you have a book, project or business idea that excites and stimulates you to the point that the idea of doing the same old same old, just isn’t cutting it anymore?

I realize the idea of making change can be scary. However, usually when a window closes a door opens. Making “space” in your life is essential for attracting the new to come in where the old once was. Make sense?

Let me clarify in real terms to everyday life.

Let’s take a client of mine. She has a Santa Barbara-based tutoring company with several tutors who work for her. Life was very busy between calls from parents, bookings and schedule changes and finding the right tutor for the right child.

In addition, she was juggling her own children and life as a single mom. She was dating a new guy and also writing articles for the local paper to educate parents about the importance of a good tutor and to maintain her expertise in the community.

On the outside things looked like they were flowing harmoniously. But deep down, she knew it was time to make a change in her business life as it was affecting her personal life and the juggling act was overwhelming.

Feeling scattered, unfocused and depleted was tough on her and affected the quality time she planned with her kids. She needed to make a change and fast!

Well, she had an idea, which involved making more change in addition to the current changes happening in her life. Except the outcome of this idea would give her more free time and freedom in her business and her personal life. Hmmm, it was the how, maybe this was too crazy of an idea?

” Ideas are easy, implementation is hard. ” – Guy Kawasaki

She hired me to brainstorm with her this new idea and by partnering, we got right to work on a one-page business plan, strategy and then wrapped it in a new brand, logo and tag line to capture the attention of her new online idea. She was thrilled with how happy everything came out but more important, she added more life to her life.

“I had the pleasure of meeting with Jackie,” she said. “We only spent two hours talking; she helped my business tremendously. Two hours moved my business forward probably two years.”

It is the word “possible” that makes the impossible kinda fun!        

 

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Jackie Ruka founded Get Happy Zone Inc., a personal development and life style company. Jackie skyrockets the overworked professional from breakdowns to breakthroughs.  As “America’s Happyologist” her mission is assisting her client’s overcome life transitions and blaze the path to the vibrant, fulfilling life and business they dream of. Learn about the Happiness Warrior Way Profit from Your Passion Program  by  scheduling a FREE 2016 Profit from Your Passion Planning Session today. Book NOW.

 

Dec
12
2015

2016Here we are approaching the New Year of 2016.

Dear Friends,

As the holidays wind down, it is natural to do just that, relax and enjoy some time off. Of course, as one does so, you can’t help but think about your future. As I ponder this past year and focus upon what I would like to change in my life toward sustainable well being, honesty steps in. I realize the ultimate choice is the one that we take for granted because it is free, and this is our happiness.

An amazing thing happens when you become honest with yourself, start doing what you love and what makes you happy. Life slows down; you enjoy the little things and recognize the smells around you that bring up good feelings inside, like the smell of homemade bread. Life literally slows down and you stop wishing for the weekends. Life slows down to where you appreciate the moment and begin to feel like a human being, not a human doing. A feeling of contentment, calm and joy flows and therefore life flows, like the natural movement of the waves of the ocean. You move fluidly, calmly and grateful. A veil is lifted and a new perspective is born. When you become clear, your happiness leads to a success beyond what you can imagine. An occurrence manifests when you sit in silence and determine what gives you pleasure and meaning. The pleasure of a baby smiling, the meaning it has of unconditional love. The pleasure of helping another because you can with no expected outcome giving the meaning of kindness. The pleasure of mentoring another with your wisdom offers meaning of fostering a future for our children and their children.

When honesty persists, we have the power to be persistent and no longer take happiness and freedom for granted. When you capture the feeling of your happiness you will feel the ultimate choice of painting your life’s canvas, and this will lead to you happiest year ever!

In closing, it is your time to shine, be bold, be brave, and be YOU!

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Train with Me!

 

 

 

America’s Happyologist, Jackie Ruka, is a transformational leadership coach and lifestyle strategist who partners with CEO’s and Working Women on the go, how to fulfill the successful vibrant life and business her client’s dream of. To learn more about Jackie visit her online; Facebook, Twitter or grab a copy of her best selling book Get Happy and Create a Kick-Butt Life! A Creative toolbox to Rapidly Activate the Life You Desire. Jackie is an award winning Sales and Marketing pro who has led $100M to $2B brands and teaches you how to have a billion dollar mindset. With over 5000 hours mentoring professionals. She is also a Speaker and Trained Art Psychotherapist.

Oct
10
2015

When you look at the wealthiest, most successful business minds to date, they all seem do one thing that lend to their success and happiness, which is the practice of getting out of the head and into the heart. From Oprah to Richard Branson, their mission, message and actions are all in harmony to an initial intent that stemmed from their personal identity, intuition and essence.

 

To think and grow rich one must take note from author Napoleon Hill “our only limitations are those we set up in our own minds.” Therefore, the best choices are those made consciously. But there comes a time where you have to decide if you are growing personally and fumbling professionally or vice versa? The only constant in life is change, and it is easy to get lost in the sea of “to do’s” and lose your essence along the way. Perhaps it’s time to re-sync and get back down to the business of your happiness.

  1. Busyness is a Choice – You can choose what you want your work life to be, it can be stressful or playful? By placing meaning behind all that you do, keeps work interesting and inspiring. Meaningfulness in what you do is fulfilling. When you are fulfilled you are productive and when you are productive you are happier because your purpose in helping and serving others is wanted. People who are happy in what they do are 12% more productive than disengaged employee’s, according to a 2015 Gallup poll. How can you find meaningfulness in your business? Tip: Stop doing things that don’t matter and start using your time to work on your dreams.

 

  1. Ride One Horse – when one idea is structured and organized into a unique branding system, focused on the right customer in the right frequency, you are set up for success. By organizing now, you can set it and forget it and then move on to the next brilliant idea. You will feel much more powerful, accomplished and at peace knowing all systems are go. As a result this lends to your freedom in structure, not just in work but also in your home, financial and personal life, as well.

Tip: Preserve your “me time” and family life for the weekends to nurture your precious happiness seed. Being successful when it costs personal sacrifice is an old paradigm and only leads to stress.

 

  1. Guiltless Autonomy – what we do and why we do it is far more important than hours worked. Discover ways to boost your mood and enhance your day when working those long hours or tough projects. Give yourself breathers that you look forward to, such as, a yummy lunch outdoors, yoga stretching to your favorite tunes for 15 minutes or a coffee break or two. Taking breathers acts as a restoration, reducing stressors and greater feelings of calm and well- being.

Tip: Map out your day the night before and tackle the tough stuff earlier in the day, this allows for the moments of autonomy to be appreciated. You will shine ever so brightly when you allow for mental, emotional and physical breaks throughout the workday.

  1. Be Positive to Stay Powerful – stress seems more common than not in the 21st Naturally, it is how we respond to it that sets the course for long – term health and happiness. The happiest and most successful people have a morning ritual that sets the intention and feeling for the rest of the day. In other words, do you get up in the morning, thinking what can I create, versus what is stopping me? To prevent negativity from leaking into the psyche entails a proactive ritual to instantly snap your self into positivity where you continue to move into creativity to stay powerful as soon as you rise in the morning. Rituals condition you toward pleasure or pain. If you are experiencing pain, it’s time to change your ritual. Perhaps visualization, gratitude prayer, a jump in the pool or hot shower is a form of a ritual that works for you?

Tip: A powerful ritual entails a physiological affect on the nervous system, such as exercise. Exercise not only stimulates the brain and nervous system, it increases endorphins, the feel good hormone, which is why you feel good after a workout. Lastly, write out positive declarations, even if they have not happened yet. Read them out loud everyday. The more you hear your positive declarations the more you believe them and the closer you are to becoming and achieving those declarations.

  1. Marry Your Passion not Your Title – it is about the journey, not the destination. No matter if you are a CEO, doctor, lawyer or life coach, being too connected to our titles eludes the passion we strived to accomplish, which is to ease the pain of those we serve through the practice of compassion. It is common to lose steam in your work, which can leak into other areas of your life. Being 80% of our time is doing work, make sure you remain creative and innovative; this keeps your inspiration and excitement high and releases the “musts”, “have to’s”, and “urgencies”. Can you keep the faith to attract what you expect? If you expect that you will not meet your sales goal, then you won’t. If you expect not to get that promotion, you probably won’t get the promotion. Which is why you must increase your expectations to reach your dreams.

Tip: Elevate your faith and believe in unwavering expectation what is meant for you and feel passionate about it! Most great work evolves in the most unexpected manner. Why is that? Because you are a far greater person than you ever dreamed yourself to be. This has nothing to do with relying on a title to define or confine you and has more to do with your essence, passion and power, where your dormant forces come alive. Thus, discouragement and ego does not exist when aligned with your passion.

 

What’s the best way you BELIEVE in yourself, in unwavering faith, about your passion and purpose? Share with us in the comments below and share buttons on the far right!

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Sitarelax1America’s Happyologist, Jackie Ruka, is a transformational leadership coach and lifestyle strategist who mentors CEO’s and Working Women on the go, how to consciously create a successful happiness repertoire in life and business. To learn more about Jackie visit her online; Facebook, Twitter  or grab a copy of her best selling book Get Happy and Create a Kick-Butt Life! A Creative toolbox to Rapidly Activate the Life You Desire.  Jackie is an award winning Sales and Marketing pro who has built  $100M to $2B brands and teaches you how to have a billion dollar mindset. With over 5000 hours mentoring professionals. She is also a Speaker and Trained Art Psychotherapist.

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Jun
06
2015

Are you ready to claim your happiness, no matter what?

Chapter 8 Happiness is an Action
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You can create a kick-butt life at any age. After all, age is just a number. No matter what stage in life you are in, whether you just graduated college, a new mom, in transition, re-building, reinventing, empty nesting , coming out of retirement, divorce or caregiving, you have the capacity to express your uniqueness no matter how old you are. It is inspiring to learn the endeavors of all ages and to realize that it’s never too late for your talent and offering to the world.

Just imagine how you can create an exceptional life and be happy, no matter how old you are. The possibilities are endless. However, more often than not, many stop themselves from creating their dream usually trumped by the  inner critic, not feeling worthy, pure exhaustion or just getting lost in the stress of life  preventing forward motion then giving up on your dream.

A no matter what, I CAN attitude to never, ever giving up on your dream is the mind set that , honestly, propels you forward.  GHZMENTAL WELL-BEING

Did you know that there are no walls between you and your dreams?

There is opportunity for you to get busy and create what you believe or be an ingredient toward a happy accident, as this is where creativity meets opportunity. You never know what life may throw your way , stuff happens and can lead you into a totally new direction, has that  ever happened to you? Well, it happened to me, when my company car reeled out of control one fateful day and slowly stopped in front of two eight -foot Buddha statues outside a furniture store. This was the Universe awakening and re-directing me to my hopes, dreams and inspirations which I put on hold for too long. In fact, had this not happened, I would not have written a bestseller book or mentally, spiritually and emotionally met up with my truth and claimed the burning desire that has led to my inner happiness. What may appear as a wall could actually be an invitation for you to gather your strength and jump over it! Inspiration is the fuel that ignites the fire within, once you tap into it, become unafraid of it, you become unstoppable. Just see how many people have done this and you can too!       ghzemotional well-being

Proof that Inspiration cannot be Ignored:

Age 102 – Australian Mini Munro marries a man younger than her, Dudley Reid, age 83.

Age 90 – Nelson Mandela is on the cover of Time magazine, featuring his “Eight Secrets of Leadership”.

Age 80 – Jessica Tandy wins her first Oscar for Best Actress for her role in “Driving Miss Daisy”.

Age 71 – Fashion icon Coco Chanel debuts the Chanel suit.

Age 64 – Louis Armstrong finishes his version of “Hello Dolly”.

Age 52 – Leonardo da Vinci completes the Mona Lisa.

Age 49 – Julia Child writes her book “Mastering the Art of French Cooking”.

Age 36 – Albert Einstein proclaims his general theory of relativity. The fields of astronomy and physics will never be the same

Age 25 – Charles Lindbergh becomes the first person to fly across the Atlantic Ocean in his famous plane, The Spirit of St. Louis.

Age 17 – Serena Williams is the first African-American tennis player to win a Grand Slam singles title since Arthur Ashe.

Age 13 – Bill Gates writes his first computer program.

Age 10 – Tatum O’ Neal wins the Academy Award for Best Supporting Actress for her performance in “Paper Moon”, co-starring her father, Ryan O’Neal

Get Happy at any Age Inspiration Challenge

Here we are 6 months into the year, time has flown by and it may be time to ask yourself; What do I want? And how I am going to do it? Let’s drill down a bit and really get into the heart of the matter. Write down what gives you meaning on one side of a piece of paper and on the other side what gives you pleasure. Circle the ones that really make you excited and what you yearn for, right now. On a second piece of paper write out all the circled words and notice all your desires sit at the corner of meaning and pleasure which is the pathway to your happiness. And guess what? It has nothing to do with how old you are!

My challenge to you, between now and October  is to mentally, emotionally, physically and spiritually align with doing what makes your soul happy. And I invite you to join me on my happiness and well-being journey while I begin to celebrate turning the age of 50! I can hardly believe it, myself. However, I feel 27  and am just getting started on my dreams and inspirations.  Feeling young and having never felt better , I am often mistaken for age 37. So, why is that? Because I AM HAPPY and incorporate a no matter what attitude. Part of this invitation is to learn the top secrets to feeling young, feeling better and gaining energy, so don’t hesitate.

One of my secrets to happiness and success is to meditate and visualize that my dream has already occurred. You see, when you learn to place your happiness first, success is sure to follow!  GHZSpiritual Well-Being

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Jackie Ruka , America’s Happyologist and Best Selling Author of Get Happy and Create a Kick-Butt Life! propels you to move forward with doing what is meaningful to you and making it count! As an award winning sales and marketing pro of $100M to $2B brands and trained Psychotherapist, she teaches you how to create your billion dollar mindset for happiness and success. Grab her happiness and self care kit and get started!

Dec
12
2013

Holidays can be a tough and stressful time  – with feelings of being alone or looking at days past with a yearning for happier times. Feeling our feelings is healthy but can bring on  anticipated stress, anxiety and depression , however, this does not have to be so with a few proactive steps toward the positive.

Step One – Accepting Yourself as Being Enough

One of the more profound ways to measure our capacity for change is to be more present in our hearts, minds and bodies. Awakening our whole selves to the present moment and deciphering change in a conscious manner. Having the ability to see the big picture with being outside of our ego selves, by being in tune with our higher selves. Our higher self is detached from the defenses of our personalities. The more awake to the  present we become the more conscious we are of our environment. Instead of perceiving the holidays with old feelings of holidays past, squash your inner Scrooge and toss his big selfish ego to the curb. When you allow your inner Scrooge to take over, negativity, grief and depression start to enter into the picture. Those type’s of emotions are like feeding a  stray cat milk , which will keep coming back. So, don’t feed  it to begin with. Accept that YOU are ENOUGH and join a new festive event or group where your presence is a welcome and adds more  life to the spirit of giving and receiving, be in the now this is known as the present.

STEP TWO – An Attitude of GratitudeHoliday stress busters

 This is a time to have an attitude of gratitude. Look at what you do have and celebrate. Write down three things every morning between now and the holidays that you are thankful for. This exercise alone, will bring you more love, abundance and happiness into your life because you’re choosing to celebrate and not deliberate. We all have choices, you can take the high road  or you can  continue to peer in the rearview mirror of life. You are a beautiful person with unique talents and abilities, share them with others as this is your gift!

STEP THREE – Be Around those who Lift You UP!

Life is so much more rewarding and fun when spent with those who love and support you for who you are! Being around a best friend in or out of your job actually increases your morale by 60% according to Gallup. This is a special time to improve your energy by infusing it with laughter, a nice walk to enjoy the holiday spirit in the air, go dancing and move your body to music you love and free up the cobwebs in your mind . Go celebrate and find what and who inspires you.

STEP FOUR –  A few ways in which to find your JOY:

Create your own holiday card or photo collage of your favorite 2013 moment.

Choose someone who inspires you and create a goal this holiday season to end the year with a BANG!

Take a risk, do something  fun and out of character that makes you feel alive this season!

Make another person feel good, be kind, lend a hand and serve others. Perhaps make some holiday cookies , entertain at home have a tree ornament swap or simply share quality time with someone you have not seen in a while.

Create a new motto for yourself, mine is Stop dreaming and start doing! What is yours?

Get out there and get your JOY on, what do you have to lose, other than yucky old feelings that no longer serve you?

What are your thoughts or tips for proactively dealing with family and the holidays, leave a comment!

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“America’s Happyologist” Jackie Ruka is a lifestyle strategist and inspiration coach , who founded the Get Happy Zone (www.gethappyzone.com) personal development organization. She is also the author of the soon-to-be-released book, “Get Happy and Create a Kick Butt Life, a Toolbox for Rapidly Activating the Life You Desire.” Contact Jackie and take her Become Fearless Quiz online at www.tinyurl.com/HappinessQuiz.

 

Nov
11
2013

http://www.gethappyzone.com“It’s no wonder that truth is stranger than fiction. Fiction has to make sense.”

 

“Let us live so that when we come to die even the undertaker will be sorry.”

 

“When your friends begin to flatter you on how young you look, it’s a sure sign you’re getting old.”

 

You may know Mark Twain for some of his very popular books like Adventures of Huckleberry Finn and The Adventures of Tom Sawyer. He was a writer and also a humorist, satirist and lecturer.

 

Twain is known for his many – and often funny – quotes. Here are a few of my favourite tips from him.

 

1. Approve of yourself.

 

“A man cannot be comfortable without his own approval.”

 

If you don’t approve of yourself, of your behaviour and actions then you’ll probably walk around most of the day with a sort of uncomfortable feeling. If you, on the other hand, approve of yourself then you tend to become relaxed and gain inner freedom to do more of what you really want.

 

This can, in a related way, be a big obstacle in personal growth. You may have all the right tools to grow in some way but you feel an inner resistance. You can’t get there.

 

What you may be bumping into there are success barriers. You are putting up barriers in your own mind of what you may or may not deserve. Or barriers that tell you what you are capable of. They might tell you that you aren’t really that kind of person that could this thing that you’re attempting.

 

Or if you make some headway in the direction you want to go you may start to sabotage for yourself. To keep yourself in a place that is familiar for you.

 

So you need give yourself approval and allow yourself to be who you want to be. Not look for the approval from others. But from yourself. To dissolve that inner barrier or let go of that self-sabotaging tendency. This is no easy task and it can take time.

 

2. Your limitations may just be in your mind.

 

“Age is an issue of mind over matter. If you don’t mind, it doesn’t matter.”

 

So many limitations are mostly in our minds. We may for instance think that people will disapprove because we are too tall, too old or balding. But these things mostly matter when you think they matter. Because you become self-conscious and worried about what people may think.

 

And people pick up on that and may react in negative ways. Or you may interpret anything they do as a negative reaction because you are so fearful of a bad reaction and so focused inward on yourself.

 

If you, on the other hand, don’t mind then people tend to not mind that much either. And if you don’t mind then you won’t let that part of yourself become a self-imposed roadblock in your life.

 

It is, for instance, seldom too late to do what you want to do.

 

3. Lighten up and have some fun.

 

“Humor is mankind’s greatest blessing.”

 

“Against the assault of laughter nothing can stand.”

 

Humor and laughter are amazing tools. They can turn any serious situation into something to laugh about. They can lighten the mood just about anywhere.

 

And a lighter mood is often a better space to work in because now your body and mind isn’t filled to the brim with negative emotions. When you are more light-hearted and relaxed then the solution to a situation is often easier to both come up with and implement. Have a look at Lighten Up! for more on this topic.

 

4. Let go of anger.

 

“Anger is an acid that can do more harm to the vessel in which it is stored than to anything on which it is poured.”

 

Anger is most of the time pretty pointless. It can cause situations to get out of hand. And from a selfish perspective it often more hurtful for the one being angry then the person s/he’s angry at.

 

So even if you feel angry at someone for days recognize that you are mostly just hurting yourself. The other person may not even be aware that you are angry at him or her. So either talking to the person and resolving the conflict or letting go of anger as quickly as possible are pretty good tips to make your life more pleasurable.

 

5. Release yourself from entitlement.

 

“Don’t go around saying the world owes you a living. The world owes you nothing.It was here first.”

 

When you are young your mom and dad may give a lot of things. As you grow older you may have a sort of entitlement. You may feel like the world should just give you what you want or that it owes you something.

 

This belief can cause a lot of anger and frustration in your life. Because the world may not give you what expect it to. On the other hand, this can be liberating too. You realize that it is up to you to shape your own life and for you to work towards what you want. You are not a kid anymore, waiting for your parents or the world to give you something.

 

You are in the driver’s seat now. And you can go pretty much wherever you want.

 

6. If you’re taking a different path, prepare for reactions.

“A person with a new idea is a crank until the idea succeeds.”

I think this has quite a bit of relevance to self-improvement.

If you start to change or do something different than you usually do then people may react in different ways. Some may be happy for you. Some may be indifferent. Some may be puzzled or react in negative and discouraging ways.

Much of these reactions are probably not so much about you but about the person who said it and his/her life. How they feel about themselves is coming through in the words they use and judgements they make.

And that’s OK. I think it’s pretty likely that they won’t react as negatively as you may imagine. Or they will probably at least go back to focusing on their own challenges pretty soon.

So what other people may say and think and letting that hold you back is probably just fantasy and barrier you build in your mind.

You may find that when you finally cross that inner threshold you created then people around you may not shun you or go chasing after you with pitchforks. They might just go: “OK”.

7. Keep your focus steadily on what you want.

 

“Drag your thoughts away from your troubles… by the ears, by the heels, or any other way you can manage it.”

 

What you focus your mind on greatly determines how things play out. You can focus on your problems and dwell in suffering and a victim mentality. Or you can focus on the positive in situation, what you can learn from that situation or just focus your mind on something entirely else.

 

It may be “normal” to dwell on problems and swim around in a sea of negativity. But that is a choice. And a thought habit. You may reflexively start to dwell on problems instead of refocusing your mind on something more useful. But you can also start to build a habit of learning to gain more and more control of where you put your focus.

 

8. Don’t focus so much on making yourself feel good.

 

“The best way to cheer yourself up is to try to cheer somebody else up.”

 

This may be a bit of a counter-intuitive tip. But as I wrote yesterday, one of the best ways to feel good about yourself is to make someone else feel good or to help them in some way.

 

This is a great way to look at things to create an upward spiral of positivity and exchange of value between people. You help someone and both of you feel good. The person you helped feels inclined to give you a hand later on since people tend to want to reciprocate. And so the both of you are feeling good and helping each other.

 

Those positive feelings are contagious to other people and so you may end up making them feel good too. And the help you received from your friend may inspire you to go and help another friend. And so the upward spiral grows and continues.

 

9. Do what you want to do.

 

“Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn’t do than by the ones you did so. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover.”

 

A great quote and one to remind ourselves, to live our dreams out loud! What do you think, share your comments below.

Original article from the Positivity Blog

 

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“America’s Happyologist” Jackie Ruka is a lifestyle strategist and inspiration coach , who founded the Get Happy Zone (www.gethappyzone.com) personal development organization. She is also the author of the soon-to-be-released book, “Get Happy and Create a Kick Butt Life, a Toolbox for Rapidly Activating the Life You Desire.” Contact Jackie and take her Become Fearless Quiz online at www.tinyurl.com/HappinessQuiz.

 

 

 

 

 

Jun
06
2013

happier lifeThe Economics of Your Self Worth

These days, it is hard not to focus our attention on the need for money and the perceived lack of opportunity to improve our situations. Will I make enough money to go on vacation, to support my family, or even to send my children to school? These issues are relevant to most Americans’ lives, yet most also do not realize that they may be focusing on the wrong questions. What we need now is a change of mindset, so we can stop thinking of money as the ultimate product of our hard work. We must instead focus on owning our personal development and self worth in order to achieve true satisfaction in our lives. Point being, you are ENOUGH, in spite of an economic downturn. So the question remains, what does your self worth mean to you exactly? To me it means unlearning what is stopping me and waking up to what I can create in my life with meaning, integrity and fulfillment toward helping others with my gifts and abilities. Are you doing this now or is something missing in this area of your personal development?

If you don’t respect yourself, how do you expect others to respect you? If you know you are better than purpose you are doing now, what’s stopping you from making a change? Be the boss of your own life! We have become so good at making excuses: there are no opportunities; I don’t have time to look for a new job; I’m getting by with what I’m doing now. Many of us would not like to admit that money is an issue and therefore a priority in our lives. If money is an issue in your life, what’s stopping your from making a change for the better?

Changing yourself is the first step to your own success. It takes time and considerable patience, but it WILL pay off (literally), and it will make you more satisfied with yourself and your life. Stop asking yourself why something isn’t going the way you want it to, and start asking yourself what you can do or change to get to where you want to be. Take control, make a change, and improve your life!

Don’t settle for a job or existence where you aren’t appreciated or only make enough to live paycheck to paycheck. This does not mean you should quit your job or current purpose tomorrow. But don’t ever convince yourself you’re your current state is the best it will ever be, everything is temporary. Now is the time to take a risk and define your SELF worth! If you don’t, someone else will. Being confident of your abilities and self-worth takes courage, I say, drink a cup of courage each day and step out of your comfort zone. When you live for yourself and love yourself, you will live a happier, more successful, more fulfilling life!

Quote: “ You are the Universe, but society teaches limitation.” – Billy Finger

Comment and share your next risk and adventure with us below on the blog!

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“America’s Happyologist” Jackie Ruka is a lifestyle expert who founded the Get Happy Zone (www.gethappyzone.com) personal development organization. She is also the author of the soon-to-be-released book, “Get Happy and Create a Kick Butt Life, a Toolbox for Rapidly Activating the Life You Desire.” Contact Jackie and take her Become Fearless Quiz online at www.tinyurl.com/HappinessQuiz.

 

 

May
05
2013

http://gethappyzone.com/bookHey there , friend! During life’s up’s and downs the comfort of friendship can be a wonderful blessing or add to life challenges. Who  you choose to develop as a friend in your life can mold  and motivate you to be the best person you want to be ! On the other hand, you may also be attracting toxic people, perhaps on a subconscious level you don’t feel worthy of surrounding yourself with the good?  Yet again, we are all here to learn from each other. Either way, what are you learning about yourself from the friends you have?

My credo is treat those the way you like to be treated.  After all how we carry ourselves in life has much to do about attitude, self-respect and kindness. Should you be faced with a recent challenge in a friendship take a  listen to my recent interview with Dr. Jeannie Bertoli on her radio show, I Want a Better Life! There are some great pearls of wisdom to learn from when you are stumped on how to handle a difficult or toxic situation in a friendship. Click LINK!

The Challenge of Friendship in 2013

 

 

“America’s Happyologist” Jackie Ruka is a lifestyle expert who founded the Get Happy Zone (www.gethappyzone.com) personal development organization. She is also the author of the soon-to-be-released book, “Get Happy and Create a Kick Butt Life, a Toolbox for Rapidly Activating the Life You Desire.” Contact Jackie and take her Become Fearless Quiz online at www.tinyurl.com/HappinessQuiz.

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