Lifestyle

Feb
02
2018

A life best lived is a life by design. When you start giving your life dimension, color, objectives, purpose and strategies the results can be absolutely epic. Today I share this with you knowing we have choices. The choice to be happy, the choice to share our gifts and the choice to live in freedom based on the thoughts we think, the feelings we feel and the actions prompted by the process of choice.

Several years ago I walked away from a six-figure career to save my own life. The work schedule and goals in my corporate career was literally killing me. Between no sleep, driving or flying constantly, never home to enjoy family or community events, working 60 -hour workweeks and meeting huge million dollar goals quarterly. One fateful day when my company car malfunctioned on the freeway in LA, with no power steering or brakes, life was literally falling apart in seconds. It was this life altering experience that everything came into focus. I call this my rude-awakening. This jolted me out of my denial of feeling unfulfilled, uninspired and fatigued into feeling alive, courageous and motivated. Those split seconds I realized that I wanted to live a deeper more authentic and joyful life and create a life around a career versus the old wage slave paradigm that I believed looked like happiness and success.

The beautiful sacred truth, – that I have a choice about how I experience my life – filled my heart with hope and forever changed the trajectory of my life. Today it fuels my life as an Author, Lifestyle and Business Strategist and Motivational Speaker, where I am dedicated to inspiring professionals, especially women, toward redefining her happiness and success and make the most powerful choices for the greatest impact in freedom, income and passion for life. Everyday at every moment we have the ability to be our own happiness hero. Even in the midst of darkness, when everything is falling apart, you have the power of choice. Every so often we each require a nudge or reminder that we are powerful, talented, amazing, worthy and loveable enough to create our life and ourselves based on what your soul is calling.

At some point or another a pivotal turn will take place in your life or career, which will forever change your life and your role in it. In order to strive for a remarkable life, you have to decide that you want one. So are your ready to launch your big, beautiful, creative and juicy life?

Implement these key actionable steps: Your starting point is the answer to the one question you must ask and listen to: What is your heart’s true desire? Write your heart’s true desire here:___________________________.

When you’re feeling ready, follow the steps of deliberate creation and enjoy the power of the process in which you are immersed. There are no weird coincidences. What is meant to be always happens — and you have the power to deliberately create an ideal outcome. Your success is indicated by the power of your will to overcome obstacles with the narrowing down of the areas of interest. Based on focused intention, we often lose focus on less important areas so as to focus intently on the one.

The more we recognize that we are each responsible for our own happiness, the closer we are to seeing that our happiness powers the path to improved relationships, careers, finances, and health, as well as assists with other issues and areas of life.

 

To recognize how powerful your happiness can be, we simply need to adopt a new mindset by activating the following steps:

Follow Your JOY – It may not feel like it, but your joy exists within you and it is a clear path to what your heart truly desires. When you are listening and acting upon your joy, your ego does not communicate “I can’t, shoulda, woulda,” thoughts and destructive self-talk excuses behind your feelings of unworthiness. These feelings become non-existent when you place zero energy behind your ego thoughts. When you “Just Own Yourself (JOY),” you become the CEO of YOU and fall in love with expressing your MOXIE.

Ignite Imagination – Give yourself permission to imagine what your life looks and feels like beyond what it is now. It’s ok — even great — to daydream. Just BE and ALLOW yourself to have some fun with your own psyche. By doing so, you unlock the keys to the treasure within and let go of any obstacles standing in your way. Imagine the emotional or physical pain you have been suffering with is now part of your past, and no longer exists. Even if this is just a brief respite that lasts a few minutes, it is a relief to your mind and body that you can feel good and pain free, one step at a time. You are being guided by your imagination when you begin to feel and recognize the endless possibilities within and around your world.

Deliberate Creation – This is the conscious, intentional focus of marrying your desired intention with vision, and strategically acting in your external world where you co-create with Spirit to manifest an outcome. As you collaborate with your inner creator by putting action behind positive intent and matching your positive feeling with positive action, you become an unstoppable magnet for the continuous flow of positive change.

Creativity: is a component of the life force for all that we do. Your ability to create remains infinite through choice. From the moment you rise in the morning, you create your thoughts, your day, how you present yourself to the world and the quality of your life. Decision making is the number-one trait that supports being the champion of your life. When you choose to tap into the positive life forces within, you intensify your vibration and become a force of power beyond your imagination.

Have a Cup of Courage – Your dream is usually outside of your comfort zone. It takes courage to walk a new path you have not navigated before. Have a cup of courage a day. Sip-by-sip, your vision is sharper and your dream becomes attainable. Courage is a more productive avenue when you reverse the energies of your fear.

Practice a Growth Mindset – This is the ability to deliberately change an old perspective with a new, positive action. Action creates change, movement creates truth. Choosing happiness every day in today’s complex world is not just a choice; it’s a lifestyle. By re- training the brain, you can develop this new power practice. Decades of research relate the choice toward happiness to improving your health, increasing blood flow to the brain, and encouraging an enhanced ability to make decisions. When your mind and body feel good, you become spiritually in sync with your divine purpose, and your life becomes more meaningful and authentic.

Employ Creative Tools – These tools become the catalyst for making change here and now. Many people believe that change occurs with our thoughts alone. However, change may not happen even after years of psychotherapy and insightful epiphanies — although you may end up with more clarity and focus about where you are today in relation to your past. What encourages change, here and now, are tools that propel you into your future rather than analyze your past. A tool may be meditation, hiring a coach or researching a topic that piques your interest.

Reinvent an Authentic Self – The path to reinvention is a straight one from head to heart although it may be long and arduous. As you become your ultimate other or higher self, the spiritual spark that keeps you on track with your life’s purpose and in touch with your joy and passion – listening to our truth while simultaneously acting upon it may seem like peeling an onion while holding back the tears. Saying good-bye to your ego is a process of letting go of superficial attachments or illusions. Most will only dig when they know there is pure gold; you must be willing to do the work since that gold lies within your heart. Through thoughtful diligence, you can then continue on the route to happiness because the gold has revealed your authentic power. When we live in our truth, we can change the world in fascinating and magnanimous ways.

 

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America’s Happyologist, Jackie Ruka, is a transformational leadership strategist for professionals who crave freedom and are ready to discover living life on their terms. Her mind shifts and techniques are shared in her best-selling book “Get Happy and Create a Kick-Butt Life!” Learn more about Jackie and what she has to offer by visiting her Facebook pageTwitter or engage in complimentary 15-minute introduction here.

 

 

 

 

 

 

Jan
01
2017

If there is one thing we can’t get back, it’s time! Which is why the best time to make a positive change toward designing a life plan is now.  

As business leader Jim Rohn states,” If you don’t design your own life plan, chances are you’ll fall into someone else’s plan. And guess what they have planned for you? Not much.” 

Answer the following questions and you will experience the mind shift that encourages the embodiment of change matched with true meaning, which creates your life plan. 

What is your ideal life? Then ask yourself why? When you know your why you are in touch with your core values and this is what places action behind your desires. 

How do you want to spend your days? 

How much money do you want to make a month? 

What makes you come alive? 

What do people often ask of you? 

What is your zone of genius? 

Recognize that life does not happen to us, it happens for us. Therefore, it is an opportunity to make clear and decisive choices. You may not believe this to be true, however; I am here to prove to you how you make an impact in this world in the most profound yet natural manner of just being you. How? It’s called the power lead. The power lead is a positive opening that you often hear as an introduction to a speech, TV show, news heading. You get the idea.  

The more positive your power lead, the more ability you have to determine the outcome you intend. In today’s world, the negative surrounds us. So, a positive power lead is the reverse of what you might expect. Such as: With all this rain I find it so cleansing and refreshing don’t you? Or there is no other way to go, but up! 

When you think and lead in the positive, you are actually locking in a positive outcome.  

 
A client, Tracy, recently shared with me how she failed the mortgage exam twice and only had one more chance left to pass. She was so upset that she was laid off from her corporate job and looking for a new one the past six months and decided to switch gears, at age 60 and go into the mortgage industry. 

Her life plan was to no longer work in an office and have the freedom to work from home and stay in her dream location with the love of her life. We focused on locking in her positive outcome and put a date to her outcome. The process reversed her “stinkin thinkin” and she was able to pass the mortgage exam and celebrate her new life plan.  

 
As the CEO of your destiny, you have the power to create your life plan and determine your Technicolor vision. The cream will rise to the top with your power lead, in every area of your life, when you practice it and place action and discipline to your desired outcome.  

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Jackie Ruka, Certified Action Success Coach and America’s Happyologist™, teaches professionals how to get unstuck and express their greatness to the world through conscious systems and mindshifts to live a happier life. Learn more about creating an Exceptional Life with your Signature Program here and connect with Jackie onlineFacebookLinkedIn and Instagram 

Jun
06
2015

Are you ready to claim your happiness, no matter what?

Chapter 8 Happiness is an Action
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You can create a kick-butt life at any age. After all, age is just a number. No matter what stage in life you are in, whether you just graduated college, a new mom, in transition, re-building, reinventing, empty nesting , coming out of retirement, divorce or caregiving, you have the capacity to express your uniqueness no matter how old you are. It is inspiring to learn the endeavors of all ages and to realize that it’s never too late for your talent and offering to the world.

Just imagine how you can create an exceptional life and be happy, no matter how old you are. The possibilities are endless. However, more often than not, many stop themselves from creating their dream usually trumped by the  inner critic, not feeling worthy, pure exhaustion or just getting lost in the stress of life  preventing forward motion then giving up on your dream.

A no matter what, I CAN attitude to never, ever giving up on your dream is the mind set that , honestly, propels you forward.  GHZMENTAL WELL-BEING

Did you know that there are no walls between you and your dreams?

There is opportunity for you to get busy and create what you believe or be an ingredient toward a happy accident, as this is where creativity meets opportunity. You never know what life may throw your way , stuff happens and can lead you into a totally new direction, has that  ever happened to you? Well, it happened to me, when my company car reeled out of control one fateful day and slowly stopped in front of two eight -foot Buddha statues outside a furniture store. This was the Universe awakening and re-directing me to my hopes, dreams and inspirations which I put on hold for too long. In fact, had this not happened, I would not have written a bestseller book or mentally, spiritually and emotionally met up with my truth and claimed the burning desire that has led to my inner happiness. What may appear as a wall could actually be an invitation for you to gather your strength and jump over it! Inspiration is the fuel that ignites the fire within, once you tap into it, become unafraid of it, you become unstoppable. Just see how many people have done this and you can too!       ghzemotional well-being

Proof that Inspiration cannot be Ignored:

Age 102 – Australian Mini Munro marries a man younger than her, Dudley Reid, age 83.

Age 90 – Nelson Mandela is on the cover of Time magazine, featuring his “Eight Secrets of Leadership”.

Age 80 – Jessica Tandy wins her first Oscar for Best Actress for her role in “Driving Miss Daisy”.

Age 71 – Fashion icon Coco Chanel debuts the Chanel suit.

Age 64 – Louis Armstrong finishes his version of “Hello Dolly”.

Age 52 – Leonardo da Vinci completes the Mona Lisa.

Age 49 – Julia Child writes her book “Mastering the Art of French Cooking”.

Age 36 – Albert Einstein proclaims his general theory of relativity. The fields of astronomy and physics will never be the same

Age 25 – Charles Lindbergh becomes the first person to fly across the Atlantic Ocean in his famous plane, The Spirit of St. Louis.

Age 17 – Serena Williams is the first African-American tennis player to win a Grand Slam singles title since Arthur Ashe.

Age 13 – Bill Gates writes his first computer program.

Age 10 – Tatum O’ Neal wins the Academy Award for Best Supporting Actress for her performance in “Paper Moon”, co-starring her father, Ryan O’Neal

Get Happy at any Age Inspiration Challenge

Here we are 6 months into the year, time has flown by and it may be time to ask yourself; What do I want? And how I am going to do it? Let’s drill down a bit and really get into the heart of the matter. Write down what gives you meaning on one side of a piece of paper and on the other side what gives you pleasure. Circle the ones that really make you excited and what you yearn for, right now. On a second piece of paper write out all the circled words and notice all your desires sit at the corner of meaning and pleasure which is the pathway to your happiness. And guess what? It has nothing to do with how old you are!

My challenge to you, between now and October  is to mentally, emotionally, physically and spiritually align with doing what makes your soul happy. And I invite you to join me on my happiness and well-being journey while I begin to celebrate turning the age of 50! I can hardly believe it, myself. However, I feel 27  and am just getting started on my dreams and inspirations.  Feeling young and having never felt better , I am often mistaken for age 37. So, why is that? Because I AM HAPPY and incorporate a no matter what attitude. Part of this invitation is to learn the top secrets to feeling young, feeling better and gaining energy, so don’t hesitate.

One of my secrets to happiness and success is to meditate and visualize that my dream has already occurred. You see, when you learn to place your happiness first, success is sure to follow!  GHZSpiritual Well-Being

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Work Every day on your emotional, physical, mental and spiritual wellness – And remember, your life matters! Read Get Happy and Create a Kick-Butt Life to  jumpstart your destiny!

GHZPHYSICALGet Happy and Create a Kick - Butt Life!

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Jackie Ruka , America’s Happyologist and Best Selling Author of Get Happy and Create a Kick-Butt Life! propels you to move forward with doing what is meaningful to you and making it count! As an award winning sales and marketing pro of $100M to $2B brands and trained Psychotherapist, she teaches you how to create your billion dollar mindset for happiness and success. Grab her happiness and self care kit and get started!

Feb
02
2015

reduce stressWhen life takes you over instead of the other way around, it often means it’s a time to heal a personal area  which may have been ignored or brushed under the carpet. It’s perfectly natural to wonder why is this happening to me and why now?  Life has a way of creeping up on you but I am here to say, in my own experience of turmoil, I learned a few lessons and gained more wisdom than I ever thought possible. One of those pearls was the understanding that it was time to stand on my own two feet and charge forward , no hanging out on the sidelines anymore.

Turning your worry into wisdom starts with you and likely in a location that you least expect! In working with a recent client, whose husband decided to leave their marriage for her best friend, she was devastated and became depressed. In order for her to become healthy and strong again was a process in healing. This is so important to hunker down and do some inner work. As they say, your happiness is an inside job but needless to say, losing love in your life is an act of grieving, forgiving and eventually accepting things as they are except with a new perspective. So, together we came up with 4 quick and easy actions to feel good about herself , her life and forming a new direction in life.

1. The Do it Yourself Home Detox – happiness starts at your front door. What I mean by that is, when I met with Alicia, all her old stuff of pictures, memorabilia of her and her husband was hanging around the house. Alicia really wanted to start the year in a whole new positive way. Together we gathered all the old and gave it to Goodwill. Cleaned up the house and did a complete redo of furniture placement, pictures and colors around her house. In addition, we brought out her treasures, quotes and items that provided positivity in her daily life. Your home is your Zen, so have fun making it peaceful and inviting.

2. Heal what Ails you – your body often tells you when something does not feel right, so pay attention. If you are lethargic, not sleeping or eating well it could be a sign of depression or emotional exhaustion. Either way, get a check-up and a B12 shot for a boost of energy. One ailment noticeable about Alicia was on again off again fever and headaches. Often this occurred when she was around particular friends who seemed to use her as a whipping post. her choice in friends required a BIG overhaul. She slowly stopped taking their texts and phone calls and began accepting invitations to new events where she met a wonderful new bunch of caring girlfriends.  Taking care of your body is an act of self-love. And choosing people with integrity and character goes a long way with building new friends and alliances. Alicia not only feels much better but her judgement in choosing what feels right for her has received a nice bump in self-esteem.

3. Get Zen-tered – form a new morning ritual that gets your giddy-up and going. Perhaps this is a favorite cup of tea, some yoga, a brisk walk with your dog or friend before you head to work? What gets you centered? Think about this or try something new with your routine.

4. Positive People Pick Me Up –  it really is positive people in which to surround yourself with in both good and bad times, your true friends love you no matter what! Be around those who provide love and comfort not criticism or debbie downers in your life.

Answer this one question to get you started: When I am  __________________ , I am happy!

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“America’s Happyologist” Jackie Ruka , is a lifestyle strategist who founded the Get Happy Zone (http://www.gethappyzone.com) personal development organization. She is author of the #1 bestseller action guide “Get Happy and Create a Kick Butt Life, a Creative Toolbox for Rapidly Activating the Life You Desire,” available on Amazon, Barnes and Noble or your favorite book store. Opt-in for Optimism to receive 10 Strategies for how to be Happy, Stress- Free and Successful!

Nov
11
2014

 

stressfreeholidayStress is a very common factor is today’s busy world. Between long to-do lists, managing daily expenses and juggling multiple roles we play in our lives, it is no surprise that stress consumes Americans.

 

According to the 2013 Stress in America survey, most adults do not believe they’re doing a good job managing the demands of life. The good news is stress and anxiety is highly manageable. However, there are several myths related to stress as well as realistic de-stressors.

 

People have various ideas about what stress is. For example, burn out from work is less about the hours you put in and more about feeling unfulfilled or lack of interest about the work involved in the job.

 

By proactively managing our stress and well-being you can begin to intentionally create meaning and pleasure in your life toward a lifestyle that has you feeling excited about the holidays and New Year to come.

 

Take note to common myths and de-stressors to improve well-being: Ready, set, go!

 

Don’t wait for a rare opportunity to meet with friends once a year.

Do create more realistic ways in which to spend quality time with friends more often.

Don’t buy a gift to fulfill an expectation.

Do buy or create a personal memento that depicts meaning, purpose and pleasure.

Don’t forfeit your vacation days until the end of the year.

Do schedule vacations and commit to taking all of your vacation days to rest and enjoy life outside of your job throughout the year.

Don’t linger in old patterns that stunt your potential.

Do choose to focus on what brings you closer to your desires by going beyond your comfort zone and try something new.

Don’t use holiday food and alcohol as an excuse to cope with your anxiety and stress.

Do exercise 30 minutes a day to reduce stress, which actually makes you 2.8 years younger.

Don’t focus negative energy toward what is not working in your life.

Do practice what you have gratitude for and write it in a journal nightly. Those who keep a gratitude journal have been reported to be healthier.

Don’t put off your dreams any longer.

Do take time each day to accomplish a task that brings you closer to your life’s dream.

Don’t ignore what your body is telling you.

Do get a good night rest, every night.

Don’t wait to buy gifts and rush to accomplish holiday tasks at the last minute.

Do get organized and start holiday tasks and purchases, by a specific date, to avoid holiday traffic and the mad rush.

Don’t think I must fight stress.

Do think of healing as the answer.

Don’t feel you need to isolate yourself when holiday blues occur.

Do surround yourself with people who lift you up, reach out and fake it to you make it. We have the capacity to re-train our brains by changing the energy we create within ourselves.

 

“America’s Happyologist” Jackie Ruka is a lifestyle expert who founded the Get Happy Zone (www.gethappyzone.com) personal development organization.  She is the author of the action guide, “Get Happy and Create a Kick Butt Life, a Toolbox for Rapidly Activating the Life You Desire.” Contact Jackie and take her Fearless Quiz online at www.tinyurl.com/HappinessQuiz. and receive a free report for Top 10 Ways to be Happy and Successful in a Complex World.

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Dec
12
2013

Are you feeling that holiday energy buzz where you realize it’s the end of the year and there’s so much left to do? In today’s world, the holidays encourage, ending business with a bang, making holiday travel plans, shopping for bargains, and getting the house ready for family and friends.  To ease into the holidays instead of sliding in head first I share 9 practical holiday tips to less stress that have worked for me year after year.

Let’s start with where the holidays might hurt the most and that’s your pocket book. Saving money and time makes everyone happy, take note of  the creative ways in which to accomplish both: 

1. Buckle down and write your to do list now. Start crossing off what is most important two weeks or so before you celebrate your holidays. This saves you on time by organizing yourself ahead of the holiday rush.

2. Cash in on credit card and banking points. Learn where you can use those points now for cash that you have already spent throughout the year. For example, did you know you can use your American Express points on Amazon by linking your account to them? Your accrued points can be utilized to buy and ship holiday gifts in time to be opened.

3.  Take advantage of the super sales, Groupon and Living Social specials. Small business’ are offering some fantastic deals right now with great prices on services. Buy now to gift those savings to your Mom, sister, friend or yourself with a gift certificate, yoga classes, facial, gift basket etc.

4. Your trash is someone else’s treasure. Consign what you no longer require and use the cash or store credit for gifts. You might be surprised what you can sell or purchase via consignment shops. Old jewelry, vintage coats and holiday dresses and shoes are hot items now. The extra $20 or more dollars can  go a long way in purchasing gift wrap or a stocking stuffer.

5. Send E-Holiday cards and save money , it’s fast , convenient and green. For those who prefer the postal route, utilize unused cards bought last year or craft a photo card of you, your pets, family or favorite trip you went on. Creating is fun and encourages the holiday spirit.

6. Clear the clutter and renew your space. As you prepare your space for a new year why not toss out papers, magazines and the piles of stuff that accrues over the year. If you have not read it or utilized it by now, recycle it. A cluttered house is a cluttered mind. A feeling of freedom ushers in by detoxing your environment, this includes your computer, email inbox and office space.

7. Do a trade! Swap your service or product with someone who offers what you might be looking for. This is a great way to collaborate, build referrals for your business and save some cash. 

8. How about giving yourself a break in the kitchen and pot luck social meals ? Save your time and money and ask family and friends to contribute to the holiday feast, instead of doing it all yourself.

9.  Give your self permission to enjoy yourself, take time out for YOU! The Holidays are for enjoying family, friends, co-workers, and resting from a year of hard work and celebrating LIFE. Say NO to stress and YES to holiday happiness, you deserve it!  

From our Zone to yours wishing you a wonderful and peaceful holiday season!     happy holidays 

Quote: “See the world as if for the first time; see it through the eyes of a child, and you will suddenly find that you are free.”  –Deepak Chopra

Jackie Ruka is an Author, Art Therapist and  America’sHappyologist who started Get Happy Zone, a personal development organization dedicated to crystallizing your passion and purpose and launch a personal happiness campaign through her VIP sessions and upcoming book Get Happy and Create a Kick Butt Life.

What would you like to change in your life’s canvas? If you are stuck and feeling uninspired Get Happy Zone is where we want to help you flesh out your desires and embark on a more positive course ! Should you or your business require inspiration please inquire at info@gethappyzone.com

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Dec
12
2013

Holidays can be a tough and stressful time  – with feelings of being alone or looking at days past with a yearning for happier times. Feeling our feelings is healthy but can bring on  anticipated stress, anxiety and depression , however, this does not have to be so with a few proactive steps toward the positive.

Step One – Accepting Yourself as Being Enough

One of the more profound ways to measure our capacity for change is to be more present in our hearts, minds and bodies. Awakening our whole selves to the present moment and deciphering change in a conscious manner. Having the ability to see the big picture with being outside of our ego selves, by being in tune with our higher selves. Our higher self is detached from the defenses of our personalities. The more awake to the  present we become the more conscious we are of our environment. Instead of perceiving the holidays with old feelings of holidays past, squash your inner Scrooge and toss his big selfish ego to the curb. When you allow your inner Scrooge to take over, negativity, grief and depression start to enter into the picture. Those type’s of emotions are like feeding a  stray cat milk , which will keep coming back. So, don’t feed  it to begin with. Accept that YOU are ENOUGH and join a new festive event or group where your presence is a welcome and adds more  life to the spirit of giving and receiving, be in the now this is known as the present.

STEP TWO – An Attitude of GratitudeHoliday stress busters

 This is a time to have an attitude of gratitude. Look at what you do have and celebrate. Write down three things every morning between now and the holidays that you are thankful for. This exercise alone, will bring you more love, abundance and happiness into your life because you’re choosing to celebrate and not deliberate. We all have choices, you can take the high road  or you can  continue to peer in the rearview mirror of life. You are a beautiful person with unique talents and abilities, share them with others as this is your gift!

STEP THREE – Be Around those who Lift You UP!

Life is so much more rewarding and fun when spent with those who love and support you for who you are! Being around a best friend in or out of your job actually increases your morale by 60% according to Gallup. This is a special time to improve your energy by infusing it with laughter, a nice walk to enjoy the holiday spirit in the air, go dancing and move your body to music you love and free up the cobwebs in your mind . Go celebrate and find what and who inspires you.

STEP FOUR –  A few ways in which to find your JOY:

Create your own holiday card or photo collage of your favorite 2013 moment.

Choose someone who inspires you and create a goal this holiday season to end the year with a BANG!

Take a risk, do something  fun and out of character that makes you feel alive this season!

Make another person feel good, be kind, lend a hand and serve others. Perhaps make some holiday cookies , entertain at home have a tree ornament swap or simply share quality time with someone you have not seen in a while.

Create a new motto for yourself, mine is Stop dreaming and start doing! What is yours?

Get out there and get your JOY on, what do you have to lose, other than yucky old feelings that no longer serve you?

What are your thoughts or tips for proactively dealing with family and the holidays, leave a comment!

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“America’s Happyologist” Jackie Ruka is a lifestyle strategist and inspiration coach , who founded the Get Happy Zone (www.gethappyzone.com) personal development organization. She is also the author of the soon-to-be-released book, “Get Happy and Create a Kick Butt Life, a Toolbox for Rapidly Activating the Life You Desire.” Contact Jackie and take her Become Fearless Quiz online at www.tinyurl.com/HappinessQuiz.

 

Jul
07
2013

Honesty can take on many forms but the bottom line is you must be real with yourself if you expect others to be authentic in return. It may even make you a happier person ? However, many of us tell those little white lies to ourselves and to others. Maybe it’s something as simple as telling your best friend she doesn’t look fat in that dress, even though she’s gained 20 pounds this year. Maybe it’s telling your children you’ve never cheated on a test before, even when you know that’s how you barely passed that class in college. Maybe it’s to hide happiness and honestythe fact that you weren’t entirely faithful to your romantic partner because you know that the truth could put your relationship to an end.

 

We’ve all been caught in that dangerous in-between place where we face an important ethical decision: lie or tell the truth? Sometimes, it’s uncomfortable, frightening, or extremely difficult to tell the truth. Isn’t it better to save everyone the discomfort and resolve it by “bending” the truth just a bit? Who could be hurt with a little white lie?

 

Think about who you are really trying to save by avoiding the truth. Are you trying to save yourself the embarrassment of a mistake you made in the past? Are you trying to please others by giving them the answer they want instead of the answer that you know is honest? Are you trying to salvage a relationship that you believe may be in jeopardy if the other person were to find out the truth?

 

Harvey S. James Jr. and Athanasios G. Chymis conducted an empirical study that explored this relationship between happiness and ethics. The extent to which a person is honest as well as satisfied with their life is very subjective, but James and Chymis found a way to conceptualize it into measurable variables while controlling for outside factors such as income, marriage, or religion. Although the motives behind lying vary (altruistic, individualistic, and exploitive), they conducted a survey that provided them with an accurate reading of the participants’ ethical beliefs as well as their perception of their own satisfaction. As a result, they found a bicausal relationship between the two. This means that not only does ethical behavior improve happiness, but happiness improves ethical behavior!

(To read the full study, click HERE )

As human beings, we have control over the decisions we make, and that includes the decision to lie or tell the truth. Regardless of the motive behind it, lying is morally and emotionally destructive, and it can have disastrous long-term effects. Think of it this way: would you rather endure the short-term pain of telling a truth that you don’t want to tell or the long-term pain that results from the lies that accumulate over time?

 

“Hiding how you really feel and trying to make everyone else happy doesn’t make you nice, it just makes you a liar.” -Jenny O’Connell

 

Think about the weight that lifts off your shoulders when you finally release a burden that has been dragging you down for a long time. You will be happier by being yourself – your real, true self! There is no better time than the present to get rid of the secrets and the lies that constantly hinder you from living a happy, more honest life!

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“America’s Happyologist” Jackie Ruka is a lifestyle expert and inspiration coach , who founded the Get Happy Zone (www.gethappyzone.com) personal development organization. She is also the author of the soon-to-be-released book, “Get Happy and Create a Kick Butt Life, a Toolbox for Rapidly Activating the Life You Desire.” Contact Jackie and take her Become Fearless Quiz online at www.tinyurl.com/HappinessQuiz.

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May
05
2013

happy womenWith the end of school, graduations, changing schedules, and work, it’s hard not to feel stressed as we head into summer. Summer should be a time to get some sun and a little relaxation, but often times we get caught up stressing about both the little and big stressors that lead to living hectic lives. What can lead to a happier, stress- free summer entails being the champion to your own happiness and health.

Instead of drudging through each day of the week, give yourself something to look forward to each day! This will give you a sense of renewal every day and leave you feeling refreshed and excited. When we get caught up in the same routine, day in and day out, it begins to lower the value and potential that we see in each day (and I admit, I am a victim of this myself).  Our immune systems remain low and cortisol levels go up with hanging on to stress, both positive and negative stress. The power behind your own creativity becomes stagnant, so STOP going down the path of stress and up spiral your thoughts through positive action.  Here are a few suggestions to boost your days:

Have lunch with a friend! This is something you can do any day, even in the midst of work, school, or just another busy day. This will allow you to forget about the deadlines for a little while and enjoy the company of a person you care about. Even better, use this time to meet new people and friends, like that coworker you’ve never really had the time to get to know.

Have a mini spa day! Take a day (or even part of a day) all to yourself to dedicate to pure relaxation. If money’s a little tight, make your own spa at home! Have a long bubble bath with relaxing music or your favorite TV show, and you can even add in a few candles to create that serene, calming atmosphere. Ahhh, just breathe in the positive and breathe out the negative, carve out some special time for you.

Go for a swim or a beach run! Summer is a time to be in swim suits and minimal clothing, which can be a bit stressful in itself. Since summer is also the time of the best weather, use it to get outdoors and do something active. Walking, running, swimming, and creating your own workout are all things that don’t take a lot of time but will help you get the beach body that will boost your confidence!

Your life becomes exponentially more exciting and fulfilling when you create each day to be a great day!  Take the next step in creating a happier, healthier, lifestyle for yourself, and make this summer the best one yet!

Comment below to share your thoughts, questions and ideas.

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“America’s Happyologist” Jackie Ruka is a lifestyle expert who founded the Get Happy Zone (www.gethappyzone.com) personal development organization. She is also the author of the soon-to-be-released book, “Get Happy and Create a Kick Butt Life, a Toolbox for Rapidly Activating the Life You Desire.” Contact Jackie and take her Become Fearless Quiz online at www.tinyurl.com/HappinessQuiz.

May
05
2013

http://gethappyzone.com/bookHey there , friend! During life’s up’s and downs the comfort of friendship can be a wonderful blessing or add to life challenges. Who  you choose to develop as a friend in your life can mold  and motivate you to be the best person you want to be ! On the other hand, you may also be attracting toxic people, perhaps on a subconscious level you don’t feel worthy of surrounding yourself with the good?  Yet again, we are all here to learn from each other. Either way, what are you learning about yourself from the friends you have?

My credo is treat those the way you like to be treated.  After all how we carry ourselves in life has much to do about attitude, self-respect and kindness. Should you be faced with a recent challenge in a friendship take a  listen to my recent interview with Dr. Jeannie Bertoli on her radio show, I Want a Better Life! There are some great pearls of wisdom to learn from when you are stumped on how to handle a difficult or toxic situation in a friendship. Click LINK!

The Challenge of Friendship in 2013

 

 

“America’s Happyologist” Jackie Ruka is a lifestyle expert who founded the Get Happy Zone (www.gethappyzone.com) personal development organization. She is also the author of the soon-to-be-released book, “Get Happy and Create a Kick Butt Life, a Toolbox for Rapidly Activating the Life You Desire.” Contact Jackie and take her Become Fearless Quiz online at www.tinyurl.com/HappinessQuiz.

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