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Feb
02
2016

 

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Chances are if you are reading this, you know you require some kind of change in your life, but you may not be sure what that looks like? It is perfectly natural to feel stuck in life and it is also important for you to recognize that you will soon feel unstuck. Here are 4 steps how:

1. Feel Free to be YOU–   seems simple, yet many questions, who we are, where we are going and how to get there?  It’s ok to feel this way as the only constant in life is change. When you resist change and dig your heels in you  are basically  blocking the Universe from welcoming you into newness.  By being open, one must think positively and believe in yourself. Your comfort zone is no longer working for you, so it simply is time to move on. Newness feels good, try it, jump in, the water is warm! This is what the Universe is promoting your consciousness to do! Feel free to be you and experience something new, as the core of who you are is simply love. Feel the love, affection and belief in self, you will attract this in return and who knows what good will materialize.

2. What inspires YOU? – Think through what turns you ON, makes you feel good from the inside out. If you lost that spark, the groove which prompts you with feeling alive, chances are  you stopped doing what inspires you? Instead of relying on the excuses of why you put your inspirations on the back burner, you made a choice to get lost in your “stuff”, the yuck going on in your head, external world and or life circumstances. That’s OK, simply do what inspires you and capture your groove and flow, it’s in the action that movement forms, it’s inaction that creates doubt.

Science tells us that we as humans have 50% ability to create our own happiness. This is the power of choice, choose differently, right now, to celebrate what inspires you! Perhaps it is writing, painting, water skiing, cooking, gardening, yoga, meditation? You are the master of your domain, jump on the inspiration highway and get moving!!

3. Stop Worrying – you have made it through confusing times before and you will get through whatever is happening now. Feel confident in knowing your miracle is right around the corner and a breakthrough is on its way. Everything is happening in divine order, be patient, a positive solution will take place. Turn your worry into gratitude, focus on what you are grateful for in this moment, by doing so, you create a shift within and life starts to look better than what you want to believe. Think of three things you are grateful for right now, write them down and place them in an area where you see it often.

4. Take advantage of your Life Force –  we are all given a life force, an energy that allows for our own abilities to manifest and create whatever it is we desire. Many of us take advantage of our life force by ignoring it because it’s free. If you had to pay for your life force, chances are you would not be able to afford it because it is priceless. Your life force contains you ability to; imagine, visualize, positive thoughts, creative energy, and internal ambition. The ego plays games with this force because as adults we use those programmed defense mechanisms, such as denial, projection, undoing, which block our life force. Placing us in a stand still or “I can’t do it”, “don’t know how”, “it will never work” thought process. Your life force is a natural stream of what is possible. Be open to the possibilities and tap into your life force. Try this simple process, then work backward; Visualize, create, strategize, connect and celebrate. Visualize your what’s next, place your intuition into a creative form, choose a mentor to strategize the sweet spot for making this happen for you into actionable steps, connect with the Universe  and celebrate the possibilities and breakthroughs!

“America’s Happyologist” Jackie Ruka is an Action Coach, Art Therapist and Well-Being expert who founded the Get Happy Zone (www.gethappyzone.com) personal development organization. She is also the author of the new action guide “Get Happy and Create a Kick Butt Life, a Toolbox for Rapidly Activating the Life You Desire.” Grab a Free happiness kit with great tools for overcoming obstacles to gain clarity on next life steps in your journey and skyrocket your dreams!   Get happy and Create a Kick-Butt Life!

Dec
12
2013

Holidays can be a tough and stressful time  – with feelings of being alone or looking at days past with a yearning for happier times. Feeling our feelings is healthy but can bring on  anticipated stress, anxiety and depression , however, this does not have to be so with a few proactive steps toward the positive.

Step One – Accepting Yourself as Being Enough

One of the more profound ways to measure our capacity for change is to be more present in our hearts, minds and bodies. Awakening our whole selves to the present moment and deciphering change in a conscious manner. Having the ability to see the big picture with being outside of our ego selves, by being in tune with our higher selves. Our higher self is detached from the defenses of our personalities. The more awake to the  present we become the more conscious we are of our environment. Instead of perceiving the holidays with old feelings of holidays past, squash your inner Scrooge and toss his big selfish ego to the curb. When you allow your inner Scrooge to take over, negativity, grief and depression start to enter into the picture. Those type’s of emotions are like feeding a  stray cat milk , which will keep coming back. So, don’t feed  it to begin with. Accept that YOU are ENOUGH and join a new festive event or group where your presence is a welcome and adds more  life to the spirit of giving and receiving, be in the now this is known as the present.

STEP TWO – An Attitude of GratitudeHoliday stress busters

 This is a time to have an attitude of gratitude. Look at what you do have and celebrate. Write down three things every morning between now and the holidays that you are thankful for. This exercise alone, will bring you more love, abundance and happiness into your life because you’re choosing to celebrate and not deliberate. We all have choices, you can take the high road  or you can  continue to peer in the rearview mirror of life. You are a beautiful person with unique talents and abilities, share them with others as this is your gift!

STEP THREE – Be Around those who Lift You UP!

Life is so much more rewarding and fun when spent with those who love and support you for who you are! Being around a best friend in or out of your job actually increases your morale by 60% according to Gallup. This is a special time to improve your energy by infusing it with laughter, a nice walk to enjoy the holiday spirit in the air, go dancing and move your body to music you love and free up the cobwebs in your mind . Go celebrate and find what and who inspires you.

STEP FOUR –  A few ways in which to find your JOY:

Create your own holiday card or photo collage of your favorite 2013 moment.

Choose someone who inspires you and create a goal this holiday season to end the year with a BANG!

Take a risk, do something  fun and out of character that makes you feel alive this season!

Make another person feel good, be kind, lend a hand and serve others. Perhaps make some holiday cookies , entertain at home have a tree ornament swap or simply share quality time with someone you have not seen in a while.

Create a new motto for yourself, mine is Stop dreaming and start doing! What is yours?

Get out there and get your JOY on, what do you have to lose, other than yucky old feelings that no longer serve you?

What are your thoughts or tips for proactively dealing with family and the holidays, leave a comment!

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“America’s Happyologist” Jackie Ruka is a lifestyle strategist and inspiration coach , who founded the Get Happy Zone (www.gethappyzone.com) personal development organization. She is also the author of the soon-to-be-released book, “Get Happy and Create a Kick Butt Life, a Toolbox for Rapidly Activating the Life You Desire.” Contact Jackie and take her Become Fearless Quiz online at www.tinyurl.com/HappinessQuiz.

 

Jan
01
2013

Many of us are trying to stretch our dollar as much as possible and media talk about tax increases, fiscal cliff and economic happiness is affecting our external world to the point where it may hit our private lives and pocket book more so than we would like. As the CEO of your life and destiny, this is an excellent time to learn the art of attracting money and empower yourself as to where you receive the most pleasure in your career and overall well – being .

A quote related to attracting money is by Buddha, “Success does not lead to happiness, it is happiness that leads to success.” With that said, studies have shown that the happiness of Americans does not increase beyond earning $50k a year, therefore the wealthy are not any happier than those who earn enough to live and enjoy the essentials to live simply yet comfortably. Although this may be relative, it is important to note that psychologists have studied and proven strategies that lead to happiness and according to researchers Kasser and Ryan, those who put money high on their priority list are at greater risk for depression, anxiety, and low self-esteem. “Money-seekers also score lower on tests of vitality and self-actualization,” Ryan says.

Improving our thoughts toward the positive and relinquishing your fears related to money is a worthwhile practice. Often there is an obstacle that is a deep seeded belief or pattern that was acquired early on in your life that may be related to the lack of flow of money energy into your life. Think back to a time when this belief took place and release this from your mind, body and soul, it is old energy. As you begin to untie yourself from a former self- belief, allow the creative juices to flow and take a look at the areas of your life where your purpose had more meaning. Positive psychology authority Tal Ben-Shahar stated “Happiness lies at the intersection between pleasure and meaning. Whether at work or at home, the goal is to engage in activities that are both personally significant and enjoyable.” In addition, it is imperative for you to recognize that you are deserving of not only goodness but also of money. Be open to receive a windfall!

On the business front, many leaders are stumped as to what is impeding productivity and morale in the workplace?  In my research the two underlying factors are lack of autonomy and creativity, which leads to people feeling unchallenged as well as inability to express individual talents and potential. Conversely, in the past I consulted for an organization who became successful with happy employees and customers. Here is the down and dirty example of how they utilized their contract salesforce; the goal was to meet thirty customers a week and sales contractors were paid per customer sales call. However, contractors were given the autonomy to create their work week and call plan as long as the thirty customers per week was met. Over 90% of contractors met or exceeded the thirty sales calls a week and product sales were at a record level  high, with a 22% increase in sales growth for that year. Point is, laser focus on where you place your energies and how you create your days in each week is an achievable manner in which to improve results in your financial and career life.

Decide to stop being a seeker and identify yourself as a finder. Find newness in your actions and create an attainable goal. Be an individual with individual goals, for example, write down a goal that encourages motivation such as I will make $25k in the next 30 days. Once you write this down , allow your brain to gurgle and bubble with creative ideas, create and see what happens and have a buddy support you in your new found strategy to expand your business.

As we enter a new year, according to the Journal of Clinical Psychology 2012, the most common New Year Resolutions by Americans ; self improvement, weight, money  and relationship resolutions are only successfully achieved by 8% within a six month time span. The 49% of Americans who create resolutions often fail because they do not choose a mentor or coach to create and support achievable goals. Unfortunately, we often only choose what we want to see versus what is actually draining our lives and our finances. As you become clear and identify yourself as a finder versus a seeker, your actions will speak volumes for you and your bank account.

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2013 Money Affirmations:

I am a money magnet!

Money flows to me easily and effortlessly!

I am the receiver of goodness and abundance everyday!

 

 

 

 

 

Dec
12
2012

Between work, shopping, kids, personal life and now holiday parties, it  can be cumbersome to get in that Holiday spirit.  Let’s be honest and authentic, as we approach the end of the year,  most I have mentored can’t wait for 2013. As I teach positive transformation I am here to remind you to suck it up buttercup and have gratitude. Opt toward the path that lightens you up. In the words of Buddha, success does not lead to happiness, it is happiness that leads to success.

Last week I was part of a symposium with a great group of men and ladies. As an ice breaker I shared this warm – up to help folks step outside of themselves and view self in a fun, light and feel good manner. Everyone laughed and enjoyed the metaphoric question behind the warm – up and had a chance to learn about each others personalities and commonalities. This is also fun if you plan on hosting a holiday party or event! Ask yourself and your guests;

1. If you were a holiday ornament or decoration what would you be?

2.Second, write down three characteristics which describe your ornament or decoration?

Lastly, the clincher behind this exercise is not only to get happy but to stay happy, no matter what. You see, obstacles will be in our way , be happy anyway. Money might be tight, be happy anyway, love may be on the rocks, be happy anyway. The job may be a bummer, be happy anyway. When you are happy anyway, you feel good and good things happen, you step outside of your funk, toss the junk and meet up with your higher and powerful self, your WHY.

Your Why, is beyond happiness and purpose, it is your meaning.Wether you chose the Christmas tree, lights, the Star, a candle, menorah or tinsel, all represent light, inspiration and uniqueness of old and new  instilled within on many levels. Celebrate your uniqueness, your light, your meaning, as no one else has the same ingredients you do or can share your inner gift just as you do.

In moments of stress or worry, think of the ornament or decoration you chose, feel your goodness and switch on your joy. Breath and know we are all here together to be happy and love unconditionally.

Have a beautiful holiday season and share your comments with us!

Need a Life Lift? Jackie Ruka’s signature blend of advice, wisdom and inspiration can help you create a happier personal and professional life!  Learn more. 

 

 

 

 

Jul
07
2012

We all have experienced rejection, some events more hurtful or painful than others. The bottom line is rejection does not define you, but rather is an invitation to a new life destiny or perhaps a higher calling .

What rejection really means is redirection. For some this may entail a new coping mechanism or way of thinking about self. For others, a self defeating existence where you  feel you are not good enough and seem to believe you have to constantly configure, argue or challenge your way through life . This is a defense to control and steer away from further rejection which unfortunately seems to attract rather than deter rejection . The process of perceiving rejection appears and sounds like a  circle of cerebral point/counter point chatter that is a battle of ego , where you seem to get in your own way . The discontent you feel about yourself has been taken over by the power in which you need to be in constant control. This lends to a callous and lonely way of life, where your heart is completely closed off and love has no possible way of entering in nor does anything else.

Rejection is love Upside down , try these turn it around tips!

1.  Claim Your self worth: The Universe does not define your self worth, nor does your job, friends, spouse, parents , clients or co – workers. It is up to you to claim it ! When you claim your power , you define your authenticity. This is no time to be shy, what you are seeking is also seeking you. Redirection often leads you to a new and much more fulfilling outcome that you may not have thought of otherwise.

2. Recognize what you Do Control: When crap happens , we often react via flight or fight mode. Instead try the two A’s,  to allow and to accept. This gives you the opportunity to process your feelings and ponder your desires proactively. We do not control others decisions, emotions or personalities, let that go and place focus on taking care of  Y-O-U and your own decisions.

3. Detach : Often we place too much power upon others and give our power away. Ask yourself,  Am I enabling a situation or being enabled ? Enabling is disabling yourself. In most cases, the problem or issue becomes larger due to enabling . The art of detachment is a whole other blog post in itself, however, the down and dirty way is to void  your attachment of a feeling to the love object at hand . This does not mean you’re being selfish, instead you are replenishing your own soul. In essence,  this allows you to go about being a fully productive person in your own life. Often, it’s when we detach that miraculous occurrences  take place.

What appears as rejection is actually an invitation for you to start a new dream. Dreams change, my question is are you dreaming big enough ? Leave a comment and share your thoughts.

Jackie Ruka is an Authentic Lifestyle Expert who started Get Happy Zone, a personal development organization dedicated to launching your unique happiness campaign through her training classes and upcoming book “Get Happy and Create a Kick Butt Life, a Toolbox for Rapidly Activating the Life You Desire.” Go here, www.gethappyzone.com, to read Jackie’s blog. To receive the free Report: Surprising News about Happiness that Successful People Practice  please opt – in here.

May
05
2012

It’s that time of year where all is blooming and newness is surging. Spring is a time of renewal and there is no better time to hit the reset button  and build up the courage to create what you desire in your life. But, first let’s take a closer look at what renewal actually means, it could mean a much different concept to me than to you. According to yourdictionary.com, renewal is to make new or as if new again, make young, fresh or strong again or reestablish, revive. To give new spiritual strength to. What do you desire to renew in your life or wish to give new spiritual strength toward?

Lately I have had several conversations surrounding trust and trusting others into our lives. Why is this ? I think it is fair to say that we all want love in our lives and we are all responsible for our own happiness. To choose happiness on a day to day type of manner can work for a while , however,  sustained happiness is encouraged by allowing positive people into our lives. To allow, we must trust, moreover, we must trust in ourselves and our own judgement. This is where it gets murky for most.  Simply put, opening our hearts takes trust and courage. The courage to believe you can do this despite your fear and the free will to make it happen with strong belief  of deserving and receiving. Perhaps you have shutdown your feelings to this idea based on fear and self limiting beliefs. Trust is an act based upon integrity. If you are acting from integrity, you will attract it. If the cues from others are telling you otherwise, just observe and learn. You will know when to speak up and re – establish trust in a manner that works for both parties.

It is the optimist who hopes for change, it is the realist who adjusts the situation and makes the change. The difference between hope and faith is that hope lives in a perpetual feeling and faith takes action . So what gets you AMPED !!? The first thing that pops into your head is usually what you most desire.  Go change your situation, right now and have the courage to take a step in a direction that leads you closer to your dream. If you can imagine it, you can do it !

Life Enhancement Tip: Imagine that you are at the place you want to be. Visualize your self standing there with a beautiful golden light surrounding you. Positive people surround you and your essence glows, your talent glows, your heart is open as your dream is in the making. You are loved !

Quote: “How happy you decide to be, is depending upon how much you love who you are.” Mick Murphy

Jackie Ruka is an author, artist, therapist and lifestyle expert who started Get Happy Zone, a personal development organization dedicated to launching your unique happiness campaign through her training classes and upcoming book “Get Happy and Create a Kick Butt Life, a Toolbox for Rapidly Activating the Life You Desire.” Go here, www.gethappyzone.com, to read Jackie’s blog.

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