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Nov
11
2018

How to Invite Blessings into your  Life

 

A blessing in today’s terms can be perceived as a gift, just at the right time. Others perceptions may see a blessing as a gift from God, a favor from heaven. Of course, the greatest blessing is life itself!  Therefore you are a walking, talking blessing upon this earth filled with light and energy. Now before I get super woo-woo, hear me out… you see blessings are not one sided, it’s a two way street in the world of blessings.  I invite you to step into the blessing you are, the blessing you can become or the blessing you will receive.

 

Anytime you hear from a special person stating I love you, I am proud of you, you are wonderful, the Universe/God, releases strength in you. These are not just words that you say; these are blessings that propel others toward their destiny.  Blessings that a Mother gives her child or children, a teacher shares to her students, a friend says to a friend, a wife and husband exchange are all blessings to reaching your true potential. That’s how powerful the energy of blessings can be.

 

Even a stranger can be a blessing, in disguise.  A blessing is a difference maker, the strategic piece to the puzzle that becomes the healing balm of what you may pray for or need, just in time, which pivots you to a place of belonging. What may seem minor to you can change the world with how you made that person feel. For example, I had a mailbox at a local spot in town where I picked up my packages and mail. I befriended the owner and got a chance to learn about her life and what a hard worker she was with running her service impeccably, as well as the sacrifices she made to please her customers. One day, I stepped into her office and sat down to say hi and catch up. Susan was dismayed and shared that her business was being sued from an unhappy bride and customer whose wedding dress was ruined upon shipping. Susan told her it was important for her to sign for extra insurance, in case anything happened in the delivery process, the new bride, against Susan’s advice, chose not to pay for the extra insurance. Long story short, the dress sent by Fedex endured a storm and the dress was ruined. The bride blamed the mail delivery service and was suing Susan for $5k.  As I listened to her story, I simply said, I would not lose sleep over this; it’s not your fault. A couple of weeks later I popped in to get my mail and Susan stopped me and said, “you have no idea how much your words meant to me, that was the first time I was able to sleep through the night.” It looked as if the world was lifted off of her shoulders. Apparently, the case was settled and even though she did not have to pay for the damage, she offered the bride half the monies, for peace of mind. So, a double blessing, Susan was relieved and the bride was given compensation for her entire dress between Fedex and Susan’s goodness from her heart. Who knew a simple statement, was a blessing to Susan’s ears that day.

Blessings come in ways you don’t expect that offer an approval when at a point of no return. Even the small blessings that come along add up. Like when you are in traffic and late for work and the guy waves you ahead in line, or you are short changed at the store and the person at the cashier says’ don’t worry about it or the time you lost your keys and go back to where you thought they were and a stranger looks at you and says, hey are these your keys?  The panic and near surrender to doom and gloom and then voila completely reversed, the skies open up and placed you in a spot of relief where all is well in the world. And you may think whew! Count your blessings, right?

 

Blessings are the gift that keeps giving; yet the problem lies with allowing the blessings to come in. You see, life is an enormous feast and most of us are only eating half of it. Think of all the good that has come to you where you shrugged it off, turned away or simply took it for granted. When life offers you a penny, you want a dime. When life offers you love, you reject it out of fear. When life offers you an opportunity, it’s shunned. This is the ego’s playground, the resistance that lies within of “ not good enough.” When you deny your goodness, you are denying others and by doing so you are saying no to life and blocking blessings from coming in.

 

We all want to live blessed lives free from health issues, or financial struggle, where our relationships are harmonious and we are thriving. Perhaps you are awaiting a blessing right now?

 

Here are a few tips to invite a blessing into your life:

Allow blessings to come in, you must say YES to life and live fully.

  1. Delight in the Universe and presence of your life force; engage in the power of you and childlike wonder.
  2. Be in the moment of life and life rewards you back with blessings.

3. Realize that you are already blessed, cause you are here on this earth as a spiritual being having a human experience. Shine your light.

4. Know that you are loved for who you are and we are blessed to have you. You are a blessing.

5. Blessings are happening frequently. From the time you wake up to the time you go to bed, all day everyday, blessings are taking shape in and around us. Believe it.

 

I leave you with one of my favorite quotes: “ I thank God for protecting me from what I thought I wanted and blessing me with what I didn’t know I needed.” – unknown

(article originally published in www.itsallpink.com)

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Jackie Ruka is America’s Happyologist and Leadership Strategist; learn more about her book and services at www.jackieruka.com. Download the free quick guide 5 Mindshifts to Massive Success. Get on Jackie’s calendar with a Clarity Game Change Session today!  

Dec
12
2017

Stress is very common in today’s busy world. Between long to-do lists, managing daily expenses and juggling multiple roles we play in our lives, it is no surprise that stress consumes Americans.

In addition to traversing a turbulent year of fires, hurricanes and governmental chaos, which now leads us to the holiday season? Sigh…

According to the 2017 Stress in America survey, nearly two-thirds of Americans (63 percent) say the future of the nation is a very or somewhat significant source of stress, slightly more than perennial stressors like money (62 percent) and work (61 percent), according to the American Psychological Association’s report, “Stress in America™: The State of Our Nation.”

Clearly, the unprecedented occurrences that have taken place over this year has erupted several social, economic, health and sustainability issues threatening the health and well-being of our nation. Fifty-nine percent of Americans feel we have reached the lowest point in U.S history, spanning every generation, including those who have lived through WW II, the Vietnam War, the Cuban missile crisis and September 11 terrorist attacks.

  • Most adults do not believe they’re doing a good job managing the demands of life. The good news is that stress and anxiety are highly manageable; however, there are several myths related to stress as well as realistic de-stressors. By proactively managing your stress and dealing with anxiety, you can begin to intentionally create meaning and pleasure in your life and work toward a lifestyle that has you feeling excited about the holidays and New Year to come!

Take note to common myths and de-stressors to improve well-being.

  • Don’t wait for a rare opportunity to meet with friends once a year.
  • Do create more realistic ways in which to spend quality time with friends more often.
  • Don’t buy a gift to fulfill an expectation.
  • Do buy or create a personal memento that depicts meaning, purpose and pleasure.
  • Don’t forfeit your vacation days until the end of the year.
  • Do schedule vacations and commit to taking all of your vacation days to rest and enjoy life outside of your job throughout the year.
  • Don’t linger in old patterns that stunt your potential.
  • Do choose to focus on what brings you closer to your desires by going beyond your comfort zone and try something new.
  • Don’t use holiday food and alcohol as an excuse to cope with your anxiety and stress.
  • Do exercise 30 minutes a day to reduce stress. Exercising 30 minutes a day actually decreases your age by 2.8 years.
  • Don’t focus negative energy toward what is not working in your life.
  • Do practice what you have gratitude for and write it in a journal nightly. Those who keep a gratitude journal have been reported to be healthier.
  • Don’t put off your dreams any longer.
  • Do take time each day to accomplish a task that brings you closer to your life’s dream.
  • Don’t ignore what your body is telling you.
  • Do get a good night’s rest, every night.
  • Don’t wait to buy gifts and rush to accomplish holiday tasks at the last minute.
  • Do get organized and start holiday tasks and purchases, by a specific date, to avoid holiday traffic and the mad rush.
  • Don’t think you must fight stress.
  • Do think of healing as the answer.
  • Don’t feel you need to isolate yourself when holiday blues occur.
  • Do surround yourself with people who lift you up, as community is the key to improving one’s well-being.
  • Don’t consume more than an hour of news media.
  • Do write five things you are grateful for in a journal each night. Studies have shown those with a gratitude journal tend to live longer, healthier lives.
  • We have the capacity to re-train our brains by changing the energy we create within ourselves. Through the struggles of storms, fires, diversity and negative media, it is the collective truth and spirit that can change the world!

I am deeply grateful for your courage and vulnerability to be the change you wish to see and BE and lift your neighbor up when needed, do your part to save democracy and learn to ride the wave of change by asking for help when you need it.

 

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“America’s Happyologist” Jackie Ruka is a lifestyle expert and certified success coach affiliated with Harvard University and Medical School. She is author of the No.1best-selling book “Get Happy and Create a Kick Butt Life, a Toolbox for Rapidly Activating the Life You Desire.” Download to receive the 5 Mindshifts to reach Massive Success free quick guide for overcoming life’s obstacles.

Apr
04
2016

Follow your Joy

 

 

                        “Life doesn’t happen to you, it happens for you

– Joel Olsteen

Happy Spring! This is my favorite time of year, the flowers are blooming, the days are longer and nature around us is singing with the new season. Woohoo!

Change, however, does not always feel good especially when life feels as if it is happening to us versus creating our destiny. We all experience both positive and negative incidences in our life and often the response is to react, this is human nature. As things don’t always come together as we plan, and this creates frustration and even, stress. So how can you take your lemons and turn them into lemonade?  Try these 4 mind shifts and tips, to learn to take on the CEO position of your destiny.

Mindshift One: One incident or change in your life does not define you, in fact, it shapes you toward an exciting new destiny, you  just don’t see it yet. Usually, the missing piece is what brings things all together. It may not make sense right now, however, what is in your future is greater than what’s in your past. Tip: Keep moving forward!

Mindshift Two: Strain means blame. By placing blame you create strain in your mind and your body which leads to negative energy in your life. Tip: Stop the blame game and think of solutions more and problems less.

Mindshift Three: Remember that a temporary setback to a temporary situation leads to a temporary feeling. Hit the pause button, breathe, relax and know all will be well. Stay in pause and take care of you first, this may mean go for a walk, declutter your mind and allow fresh new and positive thoughts to enter in. Tip: Say WELCOME! Welcome in originality to your life.
Mindshift Four: What might be the answer is just around the corner in the shadows of fear or denial. Raise your vibration as the depths of your past is the height and brightness of your future. Tip: Place radical intention and attention on your desires, not your fears.

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Jackie Ruka skyrockets busy professionals from breakdowns to breakthroughs, knowing the best opportunities are the ones we create consciously. As “America’s Happyologist” her mission is assisting clients to reach the vibrant life and business one has dreamed of. Jackie is an award-winning marketing professional, trained Art Psychotherapist, Well-Being expert, and Founder of Get Happy Zone.com. Grab her best-selling book, Get Happy and Create a Kick- Butt Life! She leads courses and lectures nationally to teach you how to live a happier life by design. Want a happier life? Reach into the happiness kit for positive tools to design your journey forward today!

Nov
11
2014

 

stressfreeholidayStress is a very common factor is today’s busy world. Between long to-do lists, managing daily expenses and juggling multiple roles we play in our lives, it is no surprise that stress consumes Americans.

 

According to the 2013 Stress in America survey, most adults do not believe they’re doing a good job managing the demands of life. The good news is stress and anxiety is highly manageable. However, there are several myths related to stress as well as realistic de-stressors.

 

People have various ideas about what stress is. For example, burn out from work is less about the hours you put in and more about feeling unfulfilled or lack of interest about the work involved in the job.

 

By proactively managing our stress and well-being you can begin to intentionally create meaning and pleasure in your life toward a lifestyle that has you feeling excited about the holidays and New Year to come.

 

Take note to common myths and de-stressors to improve well-being: Ready, set, go!

 

Don’t wait for a rare opportunity to meet with friends once a year.

Do create more realistic ways in which to spend quality time with friends more often.

Don’t buy a gift to fulfill an expectation.

Do buy or create a personal memento that depicts meaning, purpose and pleasure.

Don’t forfeit your vacation days until the end of the year.

Do schedule vacations and commit to taking all of your vacation days to rest and enjoy life outside of your job throughout the year.

Don’t linger in old patterns that stunt your potential.

Do choose to focus on what brings you closer to your desires by going beyond your comfort zone and try something new.

Don’t use holiday food and alcohol as an excuse to cope with your anxiety and stress.

Do exercise 30 minutes a day to reduce stress, which actually makes you 2.8 years younger.

Don’t focus negative energy toward what is not working in your life.

Do practice what you have gratitude for and write it in a journal nightly. Those who keep a gratitude journal have been reported to be healthier.

Don’t put off your dreams any longer.

Do take time each day to accomplish a task that brings you closer to your life’s dream.

Don’t ignore what your body is telling you.

Do get a good night rest, every night.

Don’t wait to buy gifts and rush to accomplish holiday tasks at the last minute.

Do get organized and start holiday tasks and purchases, by a specific date, to avoid holiday traffic and the mad rush.

Don’t think I must fight stress.

Do think of healing as the answer.

Don’t feel you need to isolate yourself when holiday blues occur.

Do surround yourself with people who lift you up, reach out and fake it to you make it. We have the capacity to re-train our brains by changing the energy we create within ourselves.

 

“America’s Happyologist” Jackie Ruka is a lifestyle expert who founded the Get Happy Zone (www.gethappyzone.com) personal development organization.  She is the author of the action guide, “Get Happy and Create a Kick Butt Life, a Toolbox for Rapidly Activating the Life You Desire.” Contact Jackie and take her Fearless Quiz online at www.tinyurl.com/HappinessQuiz. and receive a free report for Top 10 Ways to be Happy and Successful in a Complex World.

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Apr
04
2014

They say the best way to deal with feeling overwhelmed and stressed is  changingOverwhelm your attitude. Well, easier said than done! Today I received a question about how to best handle feeling overwhelmed? Before I answer this question, let it be known that we are ALL under some type of stress  in our lives and you are not alone. Worry and fear can take over which can block the channel of solutions from opening up and allowing for clarity to enter. This is our ego pestering us with demon like thinking.  In order to snap out of this, one must retrain the brain by learning  not to go down this path to begin with. You are a capable and amazing person and whichever difficulty and stressor you are facing right now is to stretch you beyond your comfort zone.  In other words, everything you need is already within you, it may be hidden deep within you, but you carry the authentic power to overcome obstacles and realize that with every problem there is a solution.

The only constant during complex times is change. It is time for you to make a change, it’s that simple. When you do the same thing over and over and receive the same unwanted result then the definition of insanity becomes your constant and not your change. Therefore you must decide  to make a tweak in your formula as well as ask for help.

Let’s begin with the first stress reliever solution : Take a deep breathe in and then out. I ask that you think of the word SIMPLIFY. Simplify your life, become super organized and clear the clutter. By simplifying,  you open the flow of good energy to come in and allow for your work and personal life  to feel at ease. Simplifying is a form of being proactive versus reactive. Developing a proactive stance offers the preventive measure from stress arising in the future. Whatever you do have in your control, is an opportunity for you to be proactive. Think this through, make  a list of what you can control and seek help in the areas where you have questions and need guidance.

Secondly, on your big list of to do’s choose only two that are absolute musts to get done and place ALL of your energy and concentration on those two. Whichever, is left on the list try to delegate this out or schedule it on a timeline for after the two projects are under control. Stress can be a funny feeling as even the most exciting of news can cause stress, a wedding, a move , a promotion. Again, our ego plays this old recording of fear of failure, doom and gloom. STOP, breathe, focus with the greatest of intentions and you will hit your mark of success. Break things down into smaller bites and before you know it, your stress is no longer and you have plowed through what once was troubling you to begin with. Have patience with yourself, take your time and all will work out beautifully.

Remember the Universe did not bring you this far, for you to fail. Trust and believe in yourself, you are the creator of your life. And you can do whichever you want to do, just imagine your passion and dig into this. Be the Unstoppable creator that you are!

Quote: You’re off to great places! Today is your day! – Dr. Seuss

Share with us your best practices for relieving the overwhelm in your life? Comment below!

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“America’s Happyologist” Jackie Ruka is a lifestyle expert who founded the Get Happy Zone (www.gethappyzone.com) personal development organization.  She is also the author of the new action guide, “Get Happy and Create a Kick Butt Life, a Toolbox for Rapidly Activating the Life You Desire.” Contact Jackie and take her Fearless Quiz online at www.tinyurl.com/HappinessQuiz. and receive a free report for Top 10 Ways to be Happy and Successful in a Complex World.

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Aug
08
2013

How to change life around can be simple, as easy as 12 steps toward your self care.

According to a Gallup study, the well-being of Americans hasn’t improved in the past six years and even declined slightly in 2013.  Well – Being matters as it directly reflects the 10 domains of our  personal happiness such as; psychological well – being, social support, education/culture/arts, Spirituality, community, health, job, environment, time/balance and governance. 

When you are too busy, overworked or unable to address your well – being it can catch up with you. If you are stuck in a rut and not recognizing the coping mechanisms available to address stress in your life, realize that a simple change in mindset can make all the difference in the world! Change your thinking and change your life is the mantra of the day! Realize you are stronger than you think and changing your life around can be exciting and powerful!

Simple solutions toward living a stress free life is a matter of taking small steps at a time and remembering to never give up!

  1. If it feels wrong, don’t do it
  2. Say “ exactly” what you meancoping mechanisms
  3. Don’t be a people pleaser
  4. Trust your instincts
  5. Never speak bad about yourself
  6. Never give up on your dreams
  7. Don’t be afraid to say “NO”
  8. Don’t be afraid to say “YES”
  9. Be kind to yourself
  10. Let go of what you can’t control
  11.  Stay away from drama and negativity
  12. LOVE

Show the world how you want to be treated and the world will treat you well in return! – Jackie Ruka 

Quote: “Your time is limited, so don’t waste it living someone else’s life. Don’t be trapped by dogma — which is living with the results of other people’s thinking. Don’t let the noise of others’ opinions drown out your own inner voice. And most importantly, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition. They somehow already know what you truly want to become. Everything else is secondary.” ~ Steve Jobs

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“America’s Happyologist” Jackie Ruka is a lifestyle strategist and  coach , who founded the Get Happy Zone (www.gethappyzone.com) personal development organization. She is also the author of the soon-to-be-released book, “Get Happy and Create a Kick Butt Life, a Toolbox for Rapidly Activating the Life You Desire.” Contact Jackie and take her Become Fearless Quiz online at www.tinyurl.com/HappinessQuiz.

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