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Nov
11
2018

How to Invite Blessings into your  Life

 

A blessing in today’s terms can be perceived as a gift, just at the right time. Others perceptions may see a blessing as a gift from God, a favor from heaven. Of course, the greatest blessing is life itself!  Therefore you are a walking, talking blessing upon this earth filled with light and energy. Now before I get super woo-woo, hear me out… you see blessings are not one sided, it’s a two way street in the world of blessings.  I invite you to step into the blessing you are, the blessing you can become or the blessing you will receive.

 

Anytime you hear from a special person stating I love you, I am proud of you, you are wonderful, the Universe/God, releases strength in you. These are not just words that you say; these are blessings that propel others toward their destiny.  Blessings that a Mother gives her child or children, a teacher shares to her students, a friend says to a friend, a wife and husband exchange are all blessings to reaching your true potential. That’s how powerful the energy of blessings can be.

 

Even a stranger can be a blessing, in disguise.  A blessing is a difference maker, the strategic piece to the puzzle that becomes the healing balm of what you may pray for or need, just in time, which pivots you to a place of belonging. What may seem minor to you can change the world with how you made that person feel. For example, I had a mailbox at a local spot in town where I picked up my packages and mail. I befriended the owner and got a chance to learn about her life and what a hard worker she was with running her service impeccably, as well as the sacrifices she made to please her customers. One day, I stepped into her office and sat down to say hi and catch up. Susan was dismayed and shared that her business was being sued from an unhappy bride and customer whose wedding dress was ruined upon shipping. Susan told her it was important for her to sign for extra insurance, in case anything happened in the delivery process, the new bride, against Susan’s advice, chose not to pay for the extra insurance. Long story short, the dress sent by Fedex endured a storm and the dress was ruined. The bride blamed the mail delivery service and was suing Susan for $5k.  As I listened to her story, I simply said, I would not lose sleep over this; it’s not your fault. A couple of weeks later I popped in to get my mail and Susan stopped me and said, “you have no idea how much your words meant to me, that was the first time I was able to sleep through the night.” It looked as if the world was lifted off of her shoulders. Apparently, the case was settled and even though she did not have to pay for the damage, she offered the bride half the monies, for peace of mind. So, a double blessing, Susan was relieved and the bride was given compensation for her entire dress between Fedex and Susan’s goodness from her heart. Who knew a simple statement, was a blessing to Susan’s ears that day.

Blessings come in ways you don’t expect that offer an approval when at a point of no return. Even the small blessings that come along add up. Like when you are in traffic and late for work and the guy waves you ahead in line, or you are short changed at the store and the person at the cashier says’ don’t worry about it or the time you lost your keys and go back to where you thought they were and a stranger looks at you and says, hey are these your keys?  The panic and near surrender to doom and gloom and then voila completely reversed, the skies open up and placed you in a spot of relief where all is well in the world. And you may think whew! Count your blessings, right?

 

Blessings are the gift that keeps giving; yet the problem lies with allowing the blessings to come in. You see, life is an enormous feast and most of us are only eating half of it. Think of all the good that has come to you where you shrugged it off, turned away or simply took it for granted. When life offers you a penny, you want a dime. When life offers you love, you reject it out of fear. When life offers you an opportunity, it’s shunned. This is the ego’s playground, the resistance that lies within of “ not good enough.” When you deny your goodness, you are denying others and by doing so you are saying no to life and blocking blessings from coming in.

 

We all want to live blessed lives free from health issues, or financial struggle, where our relationships are harmonious and we are thriving. Perhaps you are awaiting a blessing right now?

 

Here are a few tips to invite a blessing into your life:

Allow blessings to come in, you must say YES to life and live fully.

  1. Delight in the Universe and presence of your life force; engage in the power of you and childlike wonder.
  2. Be in the moment of life and life rewards you back with blessings.

3. Realize that you are already blessed, cause you are here on this earth as a spiritual being having a human experience. Shine your light.

4. Know that you are loved for who you are and we are blessed to have you. You are a blessing.

5. Blessings are happening frequently. From the time you wake up to the time you go to bed, all day everyday, blessings are taking shape in and around us. Believe it.

 

I leave you with one of my favorite quotes: “ I thank God for protecting me from what I thought I wanted and blessing me with what I didn’t know I needed.” – unknown

(article originally published in www.itsallpink.com)

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Jackie Ruka is America’s Happyologist and Leadership Strategist; learn more about her book and services at www.jackieruka.com. Download the free quick guide 5 Mindshifts to Massive Success. Get on Jackie’s calendar with a Clarity Game Change Session today!  

Mar
03
2018

In some circles, discussions about work life balance have shifted to talking about work life integration. Whatever you call it, many people are searching for a way to juggle their personal and professional roles.

More than half of all employees and entrepreneurs say that job demands sometimes interfere with their personal responsibilities, according to a study by the American Psychological Association. Try these suggestions to help you meet your daily challenges.

Guiding Principles

1. Make your own decisions. Everyone’s definition of success looks different. Focus on what makes you happy and productive. Consider whether you and others may be projecting your own assumptions when you comment on someone else’s lifestyle.

2. Consider your boundaries. Some professionals find it disruptive to take business calls after office hours. Others feel stressed if they’re out of touch for any long interval. If possible, negotiate an arrangement with your employer that is comfortable for both of you.

3. Think long term. There are always trade-offs. Assess whether frequent overtime or spending more hours with your family will make you happier when you look back on what you did with your life.

4. Update your plans. Your answers may change as you go through life. Check in frequently to stay on track. You may be eager to gain new experiences when you first graduate from school. As you approach retirement, you may want to volunteer more in your community.

5. Give yourself credit. It’s common to feel guilty about working too little or too much. Focus on doing the best you can. Guilt is a wasted feeling. Think and be proactive not reactive.

6. Remain flexible. Financial constraints and other factors may influence your decisions. Work with whatever circumstances you face while you try to improve them.

Time Management

1. Be realistic. Establish your top priorities and stick to them. If you’re struggling with your to do list each day, you probably need to cut back on the less important tasks.

2. Get organized. You can accomplish more when you have solid systems in place. Look for ways to run your errands more efficiently and keep your surroundings free of clutter.

3. Limit distractions. Maybe you lose track of time watching TV or talking on the phone. Reclaim those wasted hours.

4. Schedule downtime. Your mind and body need adequate rest. Take a warm bath or meditate daily.

Additional Suggestions

1. Recognize individual differences. Some people are content viewing their job as just a paycheck, and others blend their paid work with the rest of their life. Any combination is okay as long as you find fulfillment.

2. Ask for support. Help from family and friends or paid services can help you to focus on your strongest areas. Ask your children to take on more chores or consider hiring a house cleaner. Use the extra free time to pursue a promotion or start a vegetable garden.

3. Reach out to others. Look for ways you can provide the same kind of assistance to those around you. Team up with a coworker so you can cover each other’s work on sick days or vacations rather than creating a backlog for when you return.

4. Take care of yourself. Keeping yourself fit enables you to contribute at home and at the office. Eat a nutritious diet, exercise regularly, manage stress, and stick to a regular sleep schedule.

5. Be yourself at work. As much as possible, reveal your authentic self at work. It will liberate others to do the same. You’ll also be more likely to form true friendships with your colleagues, which will make your days more pleasant.

It’s a big job to coordinate all the facets of your life. Think about your definition of success and what it means for how you align your personal and professional responsibilities.

# # # # Jackie Ruka is America’s Happyologist and Leadership Strategist; learn more about her book and services at www.jackieruka.com. Download the free quick guide 5 Mindshifts to Massive Success. Get on Jackie’s calendar with a Clarity Game Change Session today!  

Dec
12
2017

Stress is very common in today’s busy world. Between long to-do lists, managing daily expenses and juggling multiple roles we play in our lives, it is no surprise that stress consumes Americans.

In addition to traversing a turbulent year of fires, hurricanes and governmental chaos, which now leads us to the holiday season? Sigh…

According to the 2017 Stress in America survey, nearly two-thirds of Americans (63 percent) say the future of the nation is a very or somewhat significant source of stress, slightly more than perennial stressors like money (62 percent) and work (61 percent), according to the American Psychological Association’s report, “Stress in America™: The State of Our Nation.”

Clearly, the unprecedented occurrences that have taken place over this year has erupted several social, economic, health and sustainability issues threatening the health and well-being of our nation. Fifty-nine percent of Americans feel we have reached the lowest point in U.S history, spanning every generation, including those who have lived through WW II, the Vietnam War, the Cuban missile crisis and September 11 terrorist attacks.

  • Most adults do not believe they’re doing a good job managing the demands of life. The good news is that stress and anxiety are highly manageable; however, there are several myths related to stress as well as realistic de-stressors. By proactively managing your stress and dealing with anxiety, you can begin to intentionally create meaning and pleasure in your life and work toward a lifestyle that has you feeling excited about the holidays and New Year to come!

Take note to common myths and de-stressors to improve well-being.

  • Don’t wait for a rare opportunity to meet with friends once a year.
  • Do create more realistic ways in which to spend quality time with friends more often.
  • Don’t buy a gift to fulfill an expectation.
  • Do buy or create a personal memento that depicts meaning, purpose and pleasure.
  • Don’t forfeit your vacation days until the end of the year.
  • Do schedule vacations and commit to taking all of your vacation days to rest and enjoy life outside of your job throughout the year.
  • Don’t linger in old patterns that stunt your potential.
  • Do choose to focus on what brings you closer to your desires by going beyond your comfort zone and try something new.
  • Don’t use holiday food and alcohol as an excuse to cope with your anxiety and stress.
  • Do exercise 30 minutes a day to reduce stress. Exercising 30 minutes a day actually decreases your age by 2.8 years.
  • Don’t focus negative energy toward what is not working in your life.
  • Do practice what you have gratitude for and write it in a journal nightly. Those who keep a gratitude journal have been reported to be healthier.
  • Don’t put off your dreams any longer.
  • Do take time each day to accomplish a task that brings you closer to your life’s dream.
  • Don’t ignore what your body is telling you.
  • Do get a good night’s rest, every night.
  • Don’t wait to buy gifts and rush to accomplish holiday tasks at the last minute.
  • Do get organized and start holiday tasks and purchases, by a specific date, to avoid holiday traffic and the mad rush.
  • Don’t think you must fight stress.
  • Do think of healing as the answer.
  • Don’t feel you need to isolate yourself when holiday blues occur.
  • Do surround yourself with people who lift you up, as community is the key to improving one’s well-being.
  • Don’t consume more than an hour of news media.
  • Do write five things you are grateful for in a journal each night. Studies have shown those with a gratitude journal tend to live longer, healthier lives.
  • We have the capacity to re-train our brains by changing the energy we create within ourselves. Through the struggles of storms, fires, diversity and negative media, it is the collective truth and spirit that can change the world!

I am deeply grateful for your courage and vulnerability to be the change you wish to see and BE and lift your neighbor up when needed, do your part to save democracy and learn to ride the wave of change by asking for help when you need it.

 

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“America’s Happyologist” Jackie Ruka is a lifestyle expert and certified success coach affiliated with Harvard University and Medical School. She is author of the No.1best-selling book “Get Happy and Create a Kick Butt Life, a Toolbox for Rapidly Activating the Life You Desire.” Download to receive the 5 Mindshifts to reach Massive Success free quick guide for overcoming life’s obstacles.

Aug
08
2017

Why Not have a little fun, it’s summer and usually the best way to change your mindset and Get Happy is by giving yourself permission!

I read an article the other day, that one of the reasons why American’s are unhappy, is because we feel confined in our choices. Stress often leads to feeling confined and boxed in where our personality can lean toward old habits, default modes and the good ole comfort zone. Resulting in a feeling of “stuck” in our jobs, finances, health and community.

Allow me to give you the crayon within your mind to color outside the lines and throw out the “confining” box! It’s time for you to play, imagine, feel good and think positive! Truly it is your time to shine. So here are a few ways to do that…

– Give yourself permission with knowing you deserve happiness and get to choose it when ever you want!

– Give yourself permission, to dance, laugh, get the blood flowing in your veins and just ALLOW.

– Give yourself permission to wear whatever you want or even nothing at all, oops. Point being, get comfortable in your own skin, take a bubble bath, relax and get in the water, it washes away the cobwebs of the mind and cleanses the old for the new to come in.

– Give yourself permission to visualize what your heart desires. Imagine it happening, right now, close your eyes and see this happy event taking place in your life. Yes, YOU! It can happen for you. So many people believe good only happens to others but not them. Guess what, you’re up, it’s your turn this time for good and great things to take form and happen. You are more than you ever imagined!! Just give yourself permission, it works!

– Give yourself permission to just stop. Stop the old thinking and self- doubt. This dampens your spirit. We need your spirit, your spirit is here to help others with your talent and your gifts. Don’t deny yourself or others of what you have to offer because when you do, it smothers your joy. Change things up and go IN- JOY!
Love you to the moon and back! – Jackie : )

We want to hear from you, share your best practices for staying positive in the comments section below!

 

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America’s Happyologist, Jackie Ruka, is a transformational leadership coach for professionals who crave freedom and are ready to discover living life on their terms.  Her mission is to provide a conscious community of inspiration and cooperation where all flourish based on what makes your soul happy. Her mindshifts and techniques are shared in her best selling book “Get Happy and Create a Kick-Butt Life” ! You can learn more about Jackie and what she has to offer by visiting her Facebook page, Twitter or engage in complimentary breakthrough session here.

Jun
06
2017

The world is very abundant and the more you realize this the more you will attract what is available to you. The trick starts with your mindset. Why is that? Well, how do you get results? You do the work. You can’t do the work without having the knowledge. And even with the knowledge it doesn’t matter if you don’t have the skill set. Yet even with the skill set the right mindset is all that matters. Mindset + Skillset + Knowledge + Work = Results. No more. No less.

So before I share the secrets to unlock your abundance, you first must have an idea of what abundance means to you. You may define it as money, love, health, or personal fulfillment. The fact is all of those define abundance. To unlock your personal abundance focus upon the ONE that stands out to you the most.

Secret Number One: Your subconscious mind is what holds the key to your abundance. This is where your emotions live in the now. Your emotions may be hindered or blocked by the seven year old kid in you and are living with an old recording from years past. Perhaps you have a belief system where you have to prove yourself in order to make a good income. Or you have blocked love from your life unconsciously, based on a past hurt. The first mindshift to uncover your blocks is to learn to feel limitless. This is how you retrain the subconscious to reach success.

Secret Number Two: Get out of routine living. Routine living limits you holistically. Making small changes in your daily routine expands your mind and your body to feel new sensations and experience life beyond your four corners. If abundance is not in your four corners then it is time for change; start with a different walk or drive to work. Perhaps take a new yoga class and refrain from technology until after you have had breakfast versus as soon as you wake up. Again those actions encourage feeling limitless and forms new positive habits.

Secret Number Three: To retrain the subconscious mind it all ends and begins with images. Our subconscious mind is like a camera, it takes on visuals that encourage feelings that become ingrained into a want or need. Advertisers have mastered the art of images and know how to push the subconscious buttons. You too can master this toward creating the abundance you desire through images. Let’s say you want more prosperity as your goal. Gather images that have meaning to you and instill the feeling of prosperity. Place those images on your nightstand, your desk, your fridge, and your walls. Look at them often and especially at night before you go to bed. At night is when the subconscious goes to work for you and creates new neural pathways based on the images and feelings you have consumed.

Lastly, action is the key to success where “abundance is not something we acquire it is something we tune into.” – Wayne Dyer

 

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Jackie Ruka, America’s Happyologist, is a best selling Author, Motivational Speaker & creator of the Mindset Method to Massive Success to unlock the blocks to happiness and empower you to express your greatness. To find out more visit her website jackieruka.com to follow her on Facebook @jackierukahappinessmindset

Jul
07
2016

jrukaproffheadshot1Hey there Creator,  it’s time to get in your Zone for happiness, fulfillment and to develop the extraordinary life you desire!

We all get stuck in areas of our lives. Sometimes it’s finances, career, relationships and finding love, or all of the above. This is not necessarily a fault of yours, however, it could be an old tape that on an unconscious level has been playing in your head for a long time. Often, this old tape it is not based on facts and more based on feelings that have convinced you into a false perception of yourself. When negative thoughts set in, it leads to negative feelings and disharmony of action in our lives or inaction, hence feeling stuck.

 

According to a decade of science, it has been shown that happier people live longer, handle stress better, earn more money and love what they do, and so can you!! Click below and share your feedback.

 

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Jackie Ruka, “America’s Happyologist,” is a Well-Being expert who skyrockets CEO’s, Leaders, and Women in Business, on how to consciously live stress free by creating mindful systems in life and business. To learn more about Jackie visit her online; Facebook, Twitter  or grab a copy of her best selling book Get Happy and Create a Kick-Butt Life!  

Jun
06
2015

Are you ready to claim your happiness, no matter what?

Chapter 8 Happiness is an Action
Excerpt. © Reprinted by permission. All rights reserved.

You can create a kick-butt life at any age. After all, age is just a number. No matter what stage in life you are in, whether you just graduated college, a new mom, in transition, re-building, reinventing, empty nesting , coming out of retirement, divorce or caregiving, you have the capacity to express your uniqueness no matter how old you are. It is inspiring to learn the endeavors of all ages and to realize that it’s never too late for your talent and offering to the world.

Just imagine how you can create an exceptional life and be happy, no matter how old you are. The possibilities are endless. However, more often than not, many stop themselves from creating their dream usually trumped by the  inner critic, not feeling worthy, pure exhaustion or just getting lost in the stress of life  preventing forward motion then giving up on your dream.

A no matter what, I CAN attitude to never, ever giving up on your dream is the mind set that , honestly, propels you forward.  GHZMENTAL WELL-BEING

Did you know that there are no walls between you and your dreams?

There is opportunity for you to get busy and create what you believe or be an ingredient toward a happy accident, as this is where creativity meets opportunity. You never know what life may throw your way , stuff happens and can lead you into a totally new direction, has that  ever happened to you? Well, it happened to me, when my company car reeled out of control one fateful day and slowly stopped in front of two eight -foot Buddha statues outside a furniture store. This was the Universe awakening and re-directing me to my hopes, dreams and inspirations which I put on hold for too long. In fact, had this not happened, I would not have written a bestseller book or mentally, spiritually and emotionally met up with my truth and claimed the burning desire that has led to my inner happiness. What may appear as a wall could actually be an invitation for you to gather your strength and jump over it! Inspiration is the fuel that ignites the fire within, once you tap into it, become unafraid of it, you become unstoppable. Just see how many people have done this and you can too!       ghzemotional well-being

Proof that Inspiration cannot be Ignored:

Age 102 – Australian Mini Munro marries a man younger than her, Dudley Reid, age 83.

Age 90 – Nelson Mandela is on the cover of Time magazine, featuring his “Eight Secrets of Leadership”.

Age 80 – Jessica Tandy wins her first Oscar for Best Actress for her role in “Driving Miss Daisy”.

Age 71 – Fashion icon Coco Chanel debuts the Chanel suit.

Age 64 – Louis Armstrong finishes his version of “Hello Dolly”.

Age 52 – Leonardo da Vinci completes the Mona Lisa.

Age 49 – Julia Child writes her book “Mastering the Art of French Cooking”.

Age 36 – Albert Einstein proclaims his general theory of relativity. The fields of astronomy and physics will never be the same

Age 25 – Charles Lindbergh becomes the first person to fly across the Atlantic Ocean in his famous plane, The Spirit of St. Louis.

Age 17 – Serena Williams is the first African-American tennis player to win a Grand Slam singles title since Arthur Ashe.

Age 13 – Bill Gates writes his first computer program.

Age 10 – Tatum O’ Neal wins the Academy Award for Best Supporting Actress for her performance in “Paper Moon”, co-starring her father, Ryan O’Neal

Get Happy at any Age Inspiration Challenge

Here we are 6 months into the year, time has flown by and it may be time to ask yourself; What do I want? And how I am going to do it? Let’s drill down a bit and really get into the heart of the matter. Write down what gives you meaning on one side of a piece of paper and on the other side what gives you pleasure. Circle the ones that really make you excited and what you yearn for, right now. On a second piece of paper write out all the circled words and notice all your desires sit at the corner of meaning and pleasure which is the pathway to your happiness. And guess what? It has nothing to do with how old you are!

My challenge to you, between now and October  is to mentally, emotionally, physically and spiritually align with doing what makes your soul happy. And I invite you to join me on my happiness and well-being journey while I begin to celebrate turning the age of 50! I can hardly believe it, myself. However, I feel 27  and am just getting started on my dreams and inspirations.  Feeling young and having never felt better , I am often mistaken for age 37. So, why is that? Because I AM HAPPY and incorporate a no matter what attitude. Part of this invitation is to learn the top secrets to feeling young, feeling better and gaining energy, so don’t hesitate.

One of my secrets to happiness and success is to meditate and visualize that my dream has already occurred. You see, when you learn to place your happiness first, success is sure to follow!  GHZSpiritual Well-Being

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Work Every day on your emotional, physical, mental and spiritual wellness – And remember, your life matters! Read Get Happy and Create a Kick-Butt Life to  jumpstart your destiny!

GHZPHYSICALGet Happy and Create a Kick - Butt Life!

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Jackie Ruka , America’s Happyologist and Best Selling Author of Get Happy and Create a Kick-Butt Life! propels you to move forward with doing what is meaningful to you and making it count! As an award winning sales and marketing pro of $100M to $2B brands and trained Psychotherapist, she teaches you how to create your billion dollar mindset for happiness and success. Grab her happiness and self care kit and get started!

Mar
03
2015

www.gethappyzone.comThe 21st century brings to date a time of expansion, albeit, it may feel like confusion and somewhat unsettling. Change can leave you or people you know, feeling alone and scattered. The good news is everything happens in an order of divine timing. The re-calibration taking place in the world represents a time of change for all of us. Change can be good but also scary, especially if it was brought upon you, hence stress occurs. A powerful way to break an old cycle or stress is by making a change as this can transform your life for the better. But, the most powerful and biggest secret to being proactive and transform your life is through the use of your imagination. (STEP 1)

Step 2 – Your attitude about change may need to be adjusted so try to be open to making change, this is an opportunity of personal growth and expansion of self to go beyond your limits, take courageous steps and dare to dream! Smart people like yourself have choices by being proactive versus reactive. What are you doing that is proactively occurring to get you in alignment and closer to your desires as opposed to your fears?

STEP 3 – Following a path with heart resembles freedom and authenticity. While following a path of head or ego depicts what you”should” be doing. Eventually leading to resentment or even a personal rut. As we enter Spring , the time of renewal, why not activate the use of your imagination? Imagining or daydreaming offers you the power to tap into your authentic power and successfully blossom while reinventing self on a path of heart. When you utilize proactive nudges, intentional exercises and support mantras, you will gain the confidence toward choosing happiness and begin to crystallize your strengths simultaneously. As you know your thoughts are a leading source of your reality. Perhaps you have tried various methods to manifest your goals but have experienced familiar blocks of resistance. In most cases, you deferred to default mode and a familiar cycle was calling you back, hence leading you to the same or similar spot as before.

As a master with experiencing reinvention of self, more times than I care to explain, I have discovered that it is usually the blocks that are pushing you toward elevating to a higher self and level of consciousness. It’s a practice to reprogram stale thought patterns that no longer serve you, ( STEP 4)yet that is just the beginning. However, when you zone in on new and simple techniques the expansion of your mind is encouraged and bursting with endless possibilities.

To become clear in a time of confusion , chaos or crisis, you must breathe and become zentered. You cannot imagine or manifest when you are operating in fear. Remember, whatever you are experiencing, is temporary. What lies ahead, has already occurred, it’s just waiting to be tapped into by the process of your imagination. You have the power to transform your day, hour, week and year through thoughts, imagination, creation and action. This four step process can propel you in more ways than you realize, it just takes a cup of courage , in knowing that it is your time to SHINE!

Share with us what gets you zentered in the comments below.

Enjoy the journey, keep moving forward with your eyes peeled on your dream.

 

“America’s Happyologist” Jackie Ruka , is a lifestyle strategist who founded the Get Happy Zone (http://www.gethappyzone.com) personal development organization. She is author of the #1 bestseller action guide “Get Happy and Create a Kick Butt Life, a Creative Toolbox for Rapidly Activating the Life You Desire,” available on Amazon, Barnes and Noble or your favorite book store. Opt-in for Optimism to enjoy the happiness and self-care toolbox.

Nov
11
2014

 

stressfreeholidayStress is a very common factor is today’s busy world. Between long to-do lists, managing daily expenses and juggling multiple roles we play in our lives, it is no surprise that stress consumes Americans.

 

According to the 2013 Stress in America survey, most adults do not believe they’re doing a good job managing the demands of life. The good news is stress and anxiety is highly manageable. However, there are several myths related to stress as well as realistic de-stressors.

 

People have various ideas about what stress is. For example, burn out from work is less about the hours you put in and more about feeling unfulfilled or lack of interest about the work involved in the job.

 

By proactively managing our stress and well-being you can begin to intentionally create meaning and pleasure in your life toward a lifestyle that has you feeling excited about the holidays and New Year to come.

 

Take note to common myths and de-stressors to improve well-being: Ready, set, go!

 

Don’t wait for a rare opportunity to meet with friends once a year.

Do create more realistic ways in which to spend quality time with friends more often.

Don’t buy a gift to fulfill an expectation.

Do buy or create a personal memento that depicts meaning, purpose and pleasure.

Don’t forfeit your vacation days until the end of the year.

Do schedule vacations and commit to taking all of your vacation days to rest and enjoy life outside of your job throughout the year.

Don’t linger in old patterns that stunt your potential.

Do choose to focus on what brings you closer to your desires by going beyond your comfort zone and try something new.

Don’t use holiday food and alcohol as an excuse to cope with your anxiety and stress.

Do exercise 30 minutes a day to reduce stress, which actually makes you 2.8 years younger.

Don’t focus negative energy toward what is not working in your life.

Do practice what you have gratitude for and write it in a journal nightly. Those who keep a gratitude journal have been reported to be healthier.

Don’t put off your dreams any longer.

Do take time each day to accomplish a task that brings you closer to your life’s dream.

Don’t ignore what your body is telling you.

Do get a good night rest, every night.

Don’t wait to buy gifts and rush to accomplish holiday tasks at the last minute.

Do get organized and start holiday tasks and purchases, by a specific date, to avoid holiday traffic and the mad rush.

Don’t think I must fight stress.

Do think of healing as the answer.

Don’t feel you need to isolate yourself when holiday blues occur.

Do surround yourself with people who lift you up, reach out and fake it to you make it. We have the capacity to re-train our brains by changing the energy we create within ourselves.

 

“America’s Happyologist” Jackie Ruka is a lifestyle expert who founded the Get Happy Zone (www.gethappyzone.com) personal development organization.  She is the author of the action guide, “Get Happy and Create a Kick Butt Life, a Toolbox for Rapidly Activating the Life You Desire.” Contact Jackie and take her Fearless Quiz online at www.tinyurl.com/HappinessQuiz. and receive a free report for Top 10 Ways to be Happy and Successful in a Complex World.

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Apr
04
2014

They say the best way to deal with feeling overwhelmed and stressed is  changingOverwhelm your attitude. Well, easier said than done! Today I received a question about how to best handle feeling overwhelmed? Before I answer this question, let it be known that we are ALL under some type of stress  in our lives and you are not alone. Worry and fear can take over which can block the channel of solutions from opening up and allowing for clarity to enter. This is our ego pestering us with demon like thinking.  In order to snap out of this, one must retrain the brain by learning  not to go down this path to begin with. You are a capable and amazing person and whichever difficulty and stressor you are facing right now is to stretch you beyond your comfort zone.  In other words, everything you need is already within you, it may be hidden deep within you, but you carry the authentic power to overcome obstacles and realize that with every problem there is a solution.

The only constant during complex times is change. It is time for you to make a change, it’s that simple. When you do the same thing over and over and receive the same unwanted result then the definition of insanity becomes your constant and not your change. Therefore you must decide  to make a tweak in your formula as well as ask for help.

Let’s begin with the first stress reliever solution : Take a deep breathe in and then out. I ask that you think of the word SIMPLIFY. Simplify your life, become super organized and clear the clutter. By simplifying,  you open the flow of good energy to come in and allow for your work and personal life  to feel at ease. Simplifying is a form of being proactive versus reactive. Developing a proactive stance offers the preventive measure from stress arising in the future. Whatever you do have in your control, is an opportunity for you to be proactive. Think this through, make  a list of what you can control and seek help in the areas where you have questions and need guidance.

Secondly, on your big list of to do’s choose only two that are absolute musts to get done and place ALL of your energy and concentration on those two. Whichever, is left on the list try to delegate this out or schedule it on a timeline for after the two projects are under control. Stress can be a funny feeling as even the most exciting of news can cause stress, a wedding, a move , a promotion. Again, our ego plays this old recording of fear of failure, doom and gloom. STOP, breathe, focus with the greatest of intentions and you will hit your mark of success. Break things down into smaller bites and before you know it, your stress is no longer and you have plowed through what once was troubling you to begin with. Have patience with yourself, take your time and all will work out beautifully.

Remember the Universe did not bring you this far, for you to fail. Trust and believe in yourself, you are the creator of your life. And you can do whichever you want to do, just imagine your passion and dig into this. Be the Unstoppable creator that you are!

Quote: You’re off to great places! Today is your day! – Dr. Seuss

Share with us your best practices for relieving the overwhelm in your life? Comment below!

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“America’s Happyologist” Jackie Ruka is a lifestyle expert who founded the Get Happy Zone (www.gethappyzone.com) personal development organization.  She is also the author of the new action guide, “Get Happy and Create a Kick Butt Life, a Toolbox for Rapidly Activating the Life You Desire.” Contact Jackie and take her Fearless Quiz online at www.tinyurl.com/HappinessQuiz. and receive a free report for Top 10 Ways to be Happy and Successful in a Complex World.

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