Mar
03
2012

Do you ever wonder why things just are not going your way toward happiness? You’re making changes, or trying to, yet you keep hitting the same walls and obstacles. We have all been there and sometimes this calls for an awakening. But first we need to recognize that the tail we are chasing continues to lead to the same place, I term this as a life rut. A life rut can go on for months or even years. Often we choose to be in this life rut or perhaps on a subconscious level you are fearful of change.  I say, No More Excuses, it’s time to get off the life rut bus and onto the speedway to happiness.

When my Dad passed away, I was heartbroken but kept a strong front. Inside I was hurting and found it difficult to look at a photograph of him without feeling completely crushed inside. A couple of years passed before I realized how unfulfilled my life felt. Sometimes, we start to think , “oh well, guess this is the way it is supposed to be”. Uh, no, I don’t think so, not if you are the CEO of your life ! The question is, have you been ACTING like the CEO of your life or have you been putting off the feelings of yesterday that you choose not to address with the same fears that are holding you back? At that time in my life,  I was choosing to squash my feelings. As Dr. Phil would say, how’s that working for you?  Afterall, recognizing and dealing with your feelings/fears is an act of loving yourself, yes?

Get Happy Tips:

1. Unlock your feelings :Recognize your feelings, feel them, express them out loud to a support person, or seek a therapist, counselor, mentor as a sounding board.

2. Find your catharsis: Determine what makes you feel in a groove of insightfulness. Is it drawing, running, surfing, blogging,  journaling, yoga, dancing, cleaning, building, creating ? Choose to move your body and your mind into a state of fluidity. Get your juices flowing !  Exertion of your self  and your brain is the physical act of moving your life in a forward position instead of keeping it in neutral.

3. Do the opposite of what you have been doing. Set new boundries with your self and others and start acting like the CEO. Take back your power and choose to live in your freedom. This is a process of letting go of your old paradigm to begin anew.

4. Practice JOY. What I mean by JOY is to Just Own Yourself. Accept all of you, the good bad and the ugly. You are not perfect yet everything in life is just temporary. We live in a society of constant change. If your not in your JOY, you will be run down, burnt out and fried. When you practice JOY, you become the decision maker, you set the shots and you also live by them.

5. Delegate. The art of being a consistent leader is delegating. The trait of a good leader is asking for help. You cannot do it all. So, go to the professionals who can help you make sense of the road your on and help sort out the  trail you intend to blaze.

6. Take a cup of courage and no this does not mean experimenting with new flavored vodkas, although tempting. The rut bus might seem safe compared to the speedway to happiness of going outside of your comfort zone. When you travel outside of your comfort zone, you will begin to realize that you are not only way more capable than you give yourself credit but you will begin to have way more fun, even if that means making a few mistakes. Mistakes are lessons and stepping stones that get you one step closer to redefining your happiness and success.

Daily Quote: The secret of success is learning how to use pain and pleasure instead of having pain and pleasure use you. If you do that, you’re in control of your life. If you don’t, life controls you. Tony Robbins

Jackie Ruka is an author, artist, therapist and lifestyle expert who started Get Happy Zone, a personal development organization dedicated to launching your personal happiness campaign through her training classes and upcoming book “Get Happy and Create a Kick Butt Life, a Toolbox for Rapidly Activating the Life You Desire.” Go here, www.gethappyzone.com, to read Jackie’s blog.

6 Comments

  1. Well-written Jackie! Not sure I am ready or wanting to do the opposite of what I have been doing, but I do plan to put a few of your tips into action. My weakness is delegating. Want to do my taxes and filing? H h haa ahaa Delegating that would make me happy!

  2. Calla Gold says:

    Jackie Ruka, oh wow. That was a post. The kind of post that makes one go out and order your book.
    Your Get Happy Tips are really great. I loved that you recognized us business people and put in the tip about delegating. That is so freeing and so helpful.
    I enjoyed your funniness too, ie the flavored vodkas!
    Your focus on getting happy is a great one. So I’ll go out and have a purposefully happy day!

  3. Alison says:

    Jackie-all of us could use some spice in our life and get off the Rut Bus. Trying new things usually leads to exciting and maybe fulfilling experiences. I try to practice joy no matter the situation. You can either choose to be unhappy or feel joy. We all have a choice.

  4. The delegating tip hit home with me too. I am forever coaching executives about delegating but I never connected it with happiness. What a win-win!
    Appreciatively,
    Lynn
    Dr. Lynn K. Jones, Certified Personal and Executive Coach
    http://www.lynnkjones.com

  5. Aparna says:

    Love this blog. I like the idea of a cup of courage. And especially getting out of one’s comfort zone. Thanks for the wisdom and inspiration.


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